@dimples76 DS loves you very much. Open said a while back that this is most likely his way of testing your reaction. I would try and not take it literally, I know that’s hard. I’m glad you sound to have had some good times over the Easter hols.
@Ahna65 I am not offended either, talk away to us. Your situation sounds very hard, I’ll answer as best I can. Re the meds, do you have a good line of comm with DDs dr, can you ask if these are side effects, settling in symptoms etc? DS has tried a lot as you know over the years and is super sensitive to everything. Even his current lamotrigine was terrible as we were ratcheting up the dose. Is the dose right for her, another thing to ask. DS takes only 2 thirds of the drs recommendation, we just couldn’t get him to the full dose and it took him ages to settle on this. I think you have to give it a good shot but also think it may just not be the right thing for her. When’s your next appt?
re your pregnancy it’s such a personal decision isn’t it and what’s right for you may not be right for someone else. Do you have anyone to talk to irl… a trusted friend? I don’t have lots but do have 2 who I could have that discussion with. I really relate to what dimples said. Although DS presents differently to your DD I am absolutely, totally, probably irrationally consumed day in day out with stress, fear, worry and so on about him I would not have the emotional or physical or mental capacity for another child, even an NT one, as much as I would have loved one. If DS had been my first I would not have had another. However you do manage a lot more than what I could with your work, amazing job, working full time etc so you may be able to cope better than what I ever could! I think whatever decision you make will be the right one and you always have to tell yourself that. Keep talking to us if it helps.