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DLA WAIT TIMES THREAD 48

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OneGreenBird · 30/06/2024 14:40

Time for a new thread ready for another week of waiting.
Hopefully lots of us get the results we're so desperately awaiting 🤞🏻❤

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Mamof2devils · 10/07/2024 21:41

Brittany95 · 10/07/2024 21:02

that sounds perfect for my son .Thank you so much for all your advice i really appreciate it ☺️

Your very welcome 😊

Crystalsangel08 · 10/07/2024 22:10

Shannon1995x · 10/07/2024 20:41

Hi ladies I rung up today my scan date is 20/03 and got told that it is with the decision maker now and should hear back within the week ☺️ When I spoke to them last week they said could take up to the 7th august I’ve seen someone on here with same scan date got told the same thing so hopefully theirs will be with the decision maker now too

Fingers crossed my scan dates 22/03 called Monday said with dm called today and told its not with dm and will be 16/17 weeks before it even goes to a dm 😭

KMC93 · 10/07/2024 22:30

Mamof2devils · 10/07/2024 15:56

Your so funny ain't you.. I work for every penny it's earned NOT given and that's why the money I get for dla is in a bank untouched and as for con artist hmm okay.. I didn't slate anybody but you took it upon yourself to take it was aimed at you so that's your problem not mine.. I have met some nice genuine people on here and others are just on for information how to fill thier application out to get what they can not my fault your blind and can't see these people.. your still going on about rubbish.. I don't need to brag what I have or haven't got but atleast I can say it's all earned not given.. i dont need dla no but have to have it or my children dont get the support needed.. also i donate to charity and help fundraise every year and every Christmas i give tobthe local toy appeal and make a hamper for feedling families even though my children have me worn i still help others where i can.. like I said before it wasn't aimed at everyone it was a certain few so no I'm not judging everyone at all so get back on your high horse and tell someone who gives a Dam what you like.. jealousy gets you nowhere and that's all your are they way you keep going hiding behind your keypad 🤣👍🏻

Wow, fucking judging people for receiving benefits is bizarre, Not everyone has the benefit of being able to earn full time with no help of anyone else, you saying "I earn for every penny it's not given" I've always worked, my whole life, I met my partner who had a lot of issues undiagnosed, we had children who had a lot of issues, autism, ADHD, my partner was diagnosed with autism and paranoid schizophrenia, I become a carer for an adult and 2 children, I had to give up work, had to rely on "benefits" for you to judge like that is horrible and so judgemental, why are you receiving DLA if you don't need it? So think before you speak because you sound like a privileged dickhead who wants to judge everyone I totally agree with @OneGreenBird x

KMC93 · 10/07/2024 22:36

@Mamof2devils Can I just say keep your opinions to yourself

Mummyof5kiddos · 10/07/2024 23:36

I’ve just been catching up with todays thread, some people have said they have only claimed Dla so there child can get the right support, can I ask what this support is?

KMC93 · 11/07/2024 00:04

Mummyof5kiddos · 10/07/2024 23:36

I’ve just been catching up with todays thread, some people have said they have only claimed Dla so there child can get the right support, can I ask what this support is?

Can I just say why does it matter to you? we are all from different area's with different supports, people need support for different reasons.
Honestly what the fuck has happened to this group, everyone questioning each other motives is bizarre to me,
We all came here for advise for our children as we are all in the same boat even if we all have different needs with our kids.
Priority no Priority, HRC, MRC, no care atall, people putting their own opinions on what their child deserves should not be judged by anyone who knows nothing about each others needs, it's so bizarre haha, sorry to rant mummys/daddy's. Sort it out and stop being so judging.

Mummyof5kiddos · 11/07/2024 00:14

KMC93 · 11/07/2024 00:04

Can I just say why does it matter to you? we are all from different area's with different supports, people need support for different reasons.
Honestly what the fuck has happened to this group, everyone questioning each other motives is bizarre to me,
We all came here for advise for our children as we are all in the same boat even if we all have different needs with our kids.
Priority no Priority, HRC, MRC, no care atall, people putting their own opinions on what their child deserves should not be judged by anyone who knows nothing about each others needs, it's so bizarre haha, sorry to rant mummys/daddy's. Sort it out and stop being so judging.

I’m genuinely asking for advice, it’s hard to get support for our children these days, if Dla can give them extra support in any kind of way then I’m interested to know. Your right though this thread is just full of nasty comments, there’s clearly no support here anymore, just people bitching at each other

KMC93 · 11/07/2024 00:26

Mummyof5kiddos · 11/07/2024 00:14

I’m genuinely asking for advice, it’s hard to get support for our children these days, if Dla can give them extra support in any kind of way then I’m interested to know. Your right though this thread is just full of nasty comments, there’s clearly no support here anymore, just people bitching at each other

My eldest 9 is diagnosed autistic and also overactive bladder she has alot of needs day and night, alot of washing, changing, cleaning bedding,.the list goes on she wakes me up numerous times to change her and her bedding as I cannot put pads/nappies as she has sensory issues and does not like the feeling of it in her underwear, my 6 year old is so full on ADHD, she is a danger to herself and everybody else, can only describe it as an absolute nightmare. I cry everyday, she is so full on. My partner, suffers with extreme paranoid thoughts, I've put up with this for 10 years, people ask why? Because I love him he is an amazing dad an partner, we have had some dark times,.times were I wanted to leave and never look back, he is on medication and is a lot better, I do receive DLA for both my children, I come on here to support others who haven't recieved news yet, to support anyone who needs it, makes me so sad the comments I read on here x

Mummyof5kiddos · 11/07/2024 01:03

KMC93 · 11/07/2024 00:26

My eldest 9 is diagnosed autistic and also overactive bladder she has alot of needs day and night, alot of washing, changing, cleaning bedding,.the list goes on she wakes me up numerous times to change her and her bedding as I cannot put pads/nappies as she has sensory issues and does not like the feeling of it in her underwear, my 6 year old is so full on ADHD, she is a danger to herself and everybody else, can only describe it as an absolute nightmare. I cry everyday, she is so full on. My partner, suffers with extreme paranoid thoughts, I've put up with this for 10 years, people ask why? Because I love him he is an amazing dad an partner, we have had some dark times,.times were I wanted to leave and never look back, he is on medication and is a lot better, I do receive DLA for both my children, I come on here to support others who haven't recieved news yet, to support anyone who needs it, makes me so sad the comments I read on here x

I know how you feel people ask me the same about my husband he is clearly adhd but wont get diagnosed, he says he’s lived with it long enough so it wouldn’t make a difference but he’s really hard work at times but my view on it is I wouldn’t give up on my children so why would I give up on him. I have DD 14 with mental health and asd, DD7 with adhd and DD5 with adhd and asd traits but we are still waiting on assessment with her, my 2 youngest are so hard work no sense of danger, physical towards themselves and others, constant meltdown, they are just go go go all day then awake most of the night, they need constant watching to keep them safe. I just feel like there not much support especially when you’ve got multiple children with additional needs and we have to work it out ourselves which isn’t easy most of the time 😕 that’s why I asked the question because any extra help or support would be brilliant

Vic747 · 11/07/2024 06:42

Mummyof5kiddos · 11/07/2024 00:14

I’m genuinely asking for advice, it’s hard to get support for our children these days, if Dla can give them extra support in any kind of way then I’m interested to know. Your right though this thread is just full of nasty comments, there’s clearly no support here anymore, just people bitching at each other

All local authorities are different but here children who receive dla are entitled to extra council funding to help them support the child either fir extra staff or equipment or resources. My son needs practically 1 to 1 supervision at school at all times but because he doesn't yet have an ehcp he wouldn't have gotten and extra funding to help him dla has given that. It has also given us entitlement to 3 bedroom allowance on housing benefit, we previously only had 2 bed allowance because I have 2 boys but me son needs his own room as he is up all night and keeps his brother awake if they are in the same room.

MotherAndDSon · 11/07/2024 07:58

Good luck everyone 🙏🏻hopefully loads of awards today 🫶🏻

Mummyof5kiddos · 11/07/2024 08:34

Vic747 · 11/07/2024 06:42

All local authorities are different but here children who receive dla are entitled to extra council funding to help them support the child either fir extra staff or equipment or resources. My son needs practically 1 to 1 supervision at school at all times but because he doesn't yet have an ehcp he wouldn't have gotten and extra funding to help him dla has given that. It has also given us entitlement to 3 bedroom allowance on housing benefit, we previously only had 2 bed allowance because I have 2 boys but me son needs his own room as he is up all night and keeps his brother awake if they are in the same room.

Thank you lovely, I think I will have a chat with school about it, I know nursery / preschool get extra funding when a child’s on Dla but I’ve never checked to see if it’s been passed up with her. That’s amazing you’ve been able to get extra bedroom allowance, I totally agree they definitely need there own bedroom and space when you have a child with additional needs, that’s brilliant you can get that, I bet it helps so much

NimbleQuail · 11/07/2024 08:43

Saw on fb someone awarded yesterday from the 4/03 so I could easily have another 9 days. Let’s hope they plough through it. Also I have heard that the new head of civil service is excellent so fingers crossed there’ll be some improvement in the future.

CyanFawn · 11/07/2024 09:02

I can totally agree with what's been said though, as this is my 5th or 6th thread since waiting and this is the ONLY one where people are so obviously looking for ways to recieve the highest award or asking how to get priority, you only have to see someone say they got hrc and people are straight on it asking how what evidence ect, if your have sufficient evidence then you should get the right award, I do believe people are missed or given wrong awards ( like people with no evidence getting awarded and people with loads get declined) but come on not every award is wrong and for people to say they don't want certain awards comes across they only want money because unless something is clearly wrong you should be happy with any award to help with your child's needs! I've seen people asking whether to send evidence from school ect because it doesn't fit their narrative.

This priority aswell, if people genuinely need it then fair enough but I think some try to use it just to skip the wait times. I could so go for priority, our household income has dropped dramatically I'm on maternity leave and won't be returning as my husbands just been diagnosed with a life changing disability so he's had to leave work to start treatments so I need to care for him, plus my child has anxiety, tics, depressive disorder on medications, on asd pathway (finally at teenage age and being lost in covid) been referred to salt, has specialised therapy at camhs, has soiling issues, runs away consistently (suspected pda), self harms, on melatonin as doesnt sleep without it sleeps a few hours with it and then is dangerous when awake so has to be supervised constantly and is in alternative provision within school. Not to mention they eat a rediclious amount of food whether given or not.

Their meltdowns this weekend alone as caused holes in the wall, drawing everywhere, bedroom door pulled off not to mention soiled clothes, bedding and things cut up (clothes) and that's just one day. But im still going to wait it out until theure awarded because others have been waiting longer. The arguments and deregulation is another thing, I'm hoping if they get dla I can build a sensory corner in their room to help deregulate and get communication aids because even though they're verbal they have no understanding of feelings and emotions and cant express these at all again they're a teenager not 3 or 4 where certain behaviours can apply for others their age, what they do i dont know any other teenagers to do (but obviously there are just not ones i know) I've been eligible to apply for years but never have just because I didn't want someone I didn't know judging me but something needed to change to get things they need and so I applied.

To say that there's not people out there who use and abuse the benefits system is being nieve. I've sent 15 plus pieces of evidence that probably equate to 60/70 pages and still worried it's not enough yet people send nothing and get awards, obviously got a certain way of filling the forms. (Told to base on worse day which I disagree with it doesn't give a proper sense of the childs everyday needs. My sleep diary I sent showed a night they slept all night, a night they didn't sleep at all, a night they ran away, a night they woke 2 or 3 times and the need to change and shower this was all in the same week and I feel accurately shows a weeks nights with the child. I could of sent one before melatonin where they literally slept a hour and was up but that doesn't reflect a week now)

Again after 5/6 threads this is the ONLY one that's been like this regarding award amounts and priority. It's no longer helping and supporting 😕

CyanFawn · 11/07/2024 09:10

GemzZ92 · 10/07/2024 18:25

14 weeks on friday!

Wonder how long before we hear.....

I'm 14 weeks plus so many days, I had to ring yesterday to ensure extra evidence got there. I was advised they're going to case managers by 15 weeks and taking a week or so for decision so if I've not heard back by the end of the month ring back. Who actually knows though all the different things were told the whole thing needs overhauling.

S/D 01/04.

Herecomestheson0106 · 11/07/2024 09:21

Today is 15 weeks since my MR scan date. No decision yet and I'm too nervous to call. I haven't even called to check if they received evidence I sent separately. The first time we were declined I rang and the way I was told it had been declined made me feel so stupid - the letter explaining why I'd been declined made me feel even more stupid too. I hate this whole process and I'm trying to psyche myself up to phone but if I'm told it's been declined again I'll be so disappointed so I'm just feeling a bit lost.
fingers crossed it won't be too much longer before I know.

NimbleQuail · 11/07/2024 09:27

Herecomestheson0106 · 11/07/2024 09:21

Today is 15 weeks since my MR scan date. No decision yet and I'm too nervous to call. I haven't even called to check if they received evidence I sent separately. The first time we were declined I rang and the way I was told it had been declined made me feel so stupid - the letter explaining why I'd been declined made me feel even more stupid too. I hate this whole process and I'm trying to psyche myself up to phone but if I'm told it's been declined again I'll be so disappointed so I'm just feeling a bit lost.
fingers crossed it won't be too much longer before I know.

I totally get how you feel. I hate calling as I feel like I’m begging and don’t deserve to be requesting DLA. It’s ridiculous really when you think of everything we go through.

SD 14/03. No news.

Murphy47 · 11/07/2024 09:43

i hope there’s lots of awards today 🤞I agree it’s the system itself that needs reviewing these wait times and the anxiety it causes people is just ridiculous , personally I’ll be grateful for my little boy to get any help that he’s entitled to and will be much appreciated and needed , which I’m sure most on here feel the same else why apply , he’s 9 years old and has a EHCP in place which I’ve sent as evidence , we all have our own reasons , I wish everyone 🍀 luck today and going forward x

Mamof3boy · 11/07/2024 09:54

So I've contacted dla for update on my son's application it's been 18 weeks today since it was scanned new claim(he's 3),
Ds is a clerical case because they have no national insurance number because I didn't claim child benefit when he was born because I didn't know I could with 3rd child (silly I know I just found out)
They informed me to ring back in a couple of weeks for update they are waiting on a ni number and it's taking a while has anyone else experienced the same situation and had it done sooner than expected? 18 weeks is already a long enough wait to get a yes or no for my son who is gdd co morbid autism and non verbal x

Mamof2devils · 11/07/2024 10:44

KMC93 · 10/07/2024 22:36

@Mamof2devils Can I just say keep your opinions to yourself

No I won't keep my options to myself I'm not the only one to notice THIS THREAD as got people onit who are trying to abuse the system I didn't say all and I didn't name them but if you can't see that's your problem, I didn't say I was judging people who need benefits to survive I stated there are some that are abusing the benefits for what they can get, I don't think I'm better than anybody else cos I'm not struggling with money at all, I struggle every day and night with my 2 children they have autism adhd sensory problems they also wet the bed etc it's no easy ride and I wasn't stating anything other than some people are abusing the system and moaning they don't get the best of everything, I've been on these threads months giving advice and helping out were I can but when I see some people abusing other people's trust for information to help them get hrc etc yeah it winds me up, we all have opinions and I voiced mine if you took it the wrong way then that's not my problem but I did state this and it's funny how the people who been doing it have not commented on thread since, there's lots of information I have given people through private message to help then through the hard times and things they need, I wouldn't dream of putting it on here for everyone to see as there is some people who will take advantage of it when they don't need it,
Yes I am not struggling financially and I've come to agreement with work where I've had to cut my hours down due to children and now have aloud me to work from home, doesn't mean I look down at people who don't have this option, I work for universal credit reading chats and listen to calls to help with things that are been missed could improve and also spot fraud so yes I spot certain people on this thread and I voiced it hoping that people realise life's not always full of genuine people and to becareful what they saying, yes it is nice to help people out and share our experiences of wait times evidence etc but please becareful with certain information you share is what I was trying to get at! And like I've just said the people I was aiming it at seem to have disappeared or staying quiet now

Herecomestheson0106 · 11/07/2024 11:00

NimbleQuail · 11/07/2024 09:27

I totally get how you feel. I hate calling as I feel like I’m begging and don’t deserve to be requesting DLA. It’s ridiculous really when you think of everything we go through.

SD 14/03. No news.

I hope it's not too much longer for you. I feel I have a way to go but I was hoping with it being MR the timescale of 15 weeks would still stand after having a huge wait beforehand.

I really don't think I've explained myself well enough in the application. I struggle to articulate things in general so I'm feeling very deflated and that despite plenty of evidence we probably won't be awarded.

OneGreenBird · 11/07/2024 11:13

Mamof2devils · 11/07/2024 10:44

No I won't keep my options to myself I'm not the only one to notice THIS THREAD as got people onit who are trying to abuse the system I didn't say all and I didn't name them but if you can't see that's your problem, I didn't say I was judging people who need benefits to survive I stated there are some that are abusing the benefits for what they can get, I don't think I'm better than anybody else cos I'm not struggling with money at all, I struggle every day and night with my 2 children they have autism adhd sensory problems they also wet the bed etc it's no easy ride and I wasn't stating anything other than some people are abusing the system and moaning they don't get the best of everything, I've been on these threads months giving advice and helping out were I can but when I see some people abusing other people's trust for information to help them get hrc etc yeah it winds me up, we all have opinions and I voiced mine if you took it the wrong way then that's not my problem but I did state this and it's funny how the people who been doing it have not commented on thread since, there's lots of information I have given people through private message to help then through the hard times and things they need, I wouldn't dream of putting it on here for everyone to see as there is some people who will take advantage of it when they don't need it,
Yes I am not struggling financially and I've come to agreement with work where I've had to cut my hours down due to children and now have aloud me to work from home, doesn't mean I look down at people who don't have this option, I work for universal credit reading chats and listen to calls to help with things that are been missed could improve and also spot fraud so yes I spot certain people on this thread and I voiced it hoping that people realise life's not always full of genuine people and to becareful what they saying, yes it is nice to help people out and share our experiences of wait times evidence etc but please becareful with certain information you share is what I was trying to get at! And like I've just said the people I was aiming it at seem to have disappeared or staying quiet now

Can't tell if you're implying I was one of them because I didn't respond to your last message to me or if you mean the people your original post was aimed at? but if you were referring to me - I've gone quiet because I've had an awful night with my son, no sleep and he's hit me about 20 times in the space of 10 hours so just exhausted and even though I don't think out opinions will ever align I just cba to argue. Shall we just all leave this and agree to disagree? This thread has become one big argument when it really didnt need to, as for opinions we all have them but think its best if we don't voice them (within reason obviously) because at the end of the day all our opinions are going to differ so voicing them will only cause endless debates and thats not what we're here for.

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KB1994SD · 11/07/2024 11:14

SD 03/04
I’ve called today and they said its with the decision maker and I should hear back by the 25th of July.

the man did ask for my sort code the money will be paid into. Is this a good sign or just a security question?

OneGreenBird · 11/07/2024 11:18

KB1994SD · 11/07/2024 11:14

SD 03/04
I’ve called today and they said its with the decision maker and I should hear back by the 25th of July.

the man did ask for my sort code the money will be paid into. Is this a good sign or just a security question?

Shouldn't be much longer then 🤞🏻
Im pretty sure that's just a security question, I've been asked this almost every time I've called

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Mamof2devils · 11/07/2024 11:28

OneGreenBird · 11/07/2024 11:13

Can't tell if you're implying I was one of them because I didn't respond to your last message to me or if you mean the people your original post was aimed at? but if you were referring to me - I've gone quiet because I've had an awful night with my son, no sleep and he's hit me about 20 times in the space of 10 hours so just exhausted and even though I don't think out opinions will ever align I just cba to argue. Shall we just all leave this and agree to disagree? This thread has become one big argument when it really didnt need to, as for opinions we all have them but think its best if we don't voice them (within reason obviously) because at the end of the day all our opinions are going to differ so voicing them will only cause endless debates and thats not what we're here for.

It wasn't aimed at you no.. the ones who have been doing it haven't commented on thread since I mentioned it, I no some people won't agree and some people will agree I didn't want it to cause people distress just wanted to warn people some people ain't what they seem, sorry about your son, my oldest lashes out aswell it's never ending you feel like you have to tiptoe around them as anything little thing can set them off 😳