DLA WAIT TIMES THREAD 46

[Matilde08]

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That's the thing the way they award is crazy I have no idea how they can judge what child needs what and I understand what you mean it's frustrating because we all want what's best for our kids and let's be honest nothing is ever good enough because in a world that's going to be hard for them anything to ease it is appreciated but it's the constant fighting for it that gets you down xx

Scan date 9th April
I called yesterday to ask for the address for additional evidence
They told me it is currently with a decision maker which I was shocked about
How long usually is it with a decision maker for?
Reason I ask is I'm wondering if it's worth me copying and sending off additional evidence. The evidence I have just backs up previous evidence I sent just don't know if it's worth sending it in

I would definitely send it in. Are you sure its with a DM ? Some advisers seem to just say anything.

Or are you on priority

It's a hard one as they could say he's getting support he needs from pension even tho he is entitled to dla.. if I was you I'd go seek advice from citizens advice see what your best options are, they be able to explain everything to you

The priority option is there for anyone to use. It's not a new thing. If you feel like you apply then call them up.

I do understand but you don't know why they've been put as priority like I said I never asked for it I've been waiting 15 weeks and I've been put as priority today my child doesn't go without but if I had financial support I could do so much more for him to help with his needs I have 5 children 2 have special needs every one is in need some way or another I doubt it even means anything it feels unfair at times but think of how you feel about your children we all feel the same way fingers crossed we all get good decisions quickly xx

I would ring back up see if your told the same and ask if you have time to send extra evidence in, if not just keep it if you need it

Sorry that was for @Mhow

Yeah we all have strains and needs and like you said some may not seem so bug compared to yourself or someone else, but theres always someone out there worse off than you i think.

Yeah there is a big fear around judgement or atleast there was for me too. I often wonder about me being a rubbish mum and if others think this when they witness my child's behaviours. They have depressive disorder, anxiety and tics and just had forms sent of from his camhs consultant for autism assessment with possible pda. They also present with ebd behaviours aswell which is why it's taken so long to get diagnoses ect as they show so many behaviours from so many different things.

I've probably been eligible to apply for around 2/3 years but never have until now when the strains are really showing and costs are soaring

We've allegedly been with a DM for a month now, scan date 21/02

@Mamof2devils @Sharkay06
Will wait for that letter to find out more and it's a good advice to ask for advice from citizens. I need to be more prepared before MR

So frustrating now March dates are being awarded 😭

I'm making a new thread ladies 💝

Your deffo not a rubbish mom I feel ya tho I often think this because sometimes I shout and then I feel guilty because they have different needs then I get confused because I don't want to treat them any different to my other kids it's just so hard isn't it just a constant battle to try and look after them to ensure they are getting all the support they need and trying to stay sane yourself lol xx

Citizens advice will help you understand everything better and will advise what you should do next, they could also help with Mr.. ring them to make an appointment as they sometimes take a while depending on area.. if letter arrives before appointment great bit if not still go see them as they can help ease alot of questions on your mind so you won't feel so stressed

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/special_needs/5101123-dla-wait-times-thread-47

That's a good advice! Will focus on that and book an appointment.
Up since 3am this morning not only of my coughing, but stressing and overthinking.. that's ridiculous what they do with our minds 🫥🙃

My Sd is 15/4 . I was also made a first on Monday and yesterday is was with DM…. Let’s go crazy together whilst we wait 😂 I was told it could still take a few weeks even now it’s with DM …. Have you been given a time frame? X

Hope you get sorted it's not good what they doing to you but they will be able to answer every question you have so definitely take a load of your mind

I undersrand it is frustrating with the long wait and see scan dates after yours. When i was awarded for my oldest sd 20/02 5 weeks ago i didnt want to post knowing it would piss people off. But i did anyway because i wanted to share my win for my daughter like everyone else. New claim no priority.

this thread is great for many reasons but i think people need to understand by knowing more from others, the con is seeing people awarded earlier than you.

my oldest went smoothly. Im still fighting for my youngest after 14 months so ive experienced both quick and long but being bitter about others is no good during this already stressful process and not to mention how hard it is having special needs children. It’s the world we live in, we have no control over anything so might aswell just love and support. Some of us will have quick and easy outcomes some will have long and painful.

good luck to all who are waiting. Im MR for severely disabled child tax credit. Missing out on 3k due to migration to UC after a 31 week DLA wait. Please remember to inform TC if you migrate. I wouldnt wish this battle on anyone. Sd 28/04/2023 still not done…

Ok thanks

No I'm not.. I repeated it to the lady I spoke to and she said yes it's eith a decision maker but no decision yet..found it strange myself

Great post. I do agree- of course I wish every luck and a speedy process, it can be very stressful for everyone as we all have our own battles x

@OneTiredMumma84 😂 thankfully I'm out today otherwise I'd have gone crazy sitting waiting for a text to come through 🫣 he said I should hear by next week 😬 fingers crossed for us 🤞🏼

i haven’t stopped this morning packing my house up so been busy, now my boy is home as reduced timetable in school so my mind will be kept busy all day again now with his ‘mum look at this!’ Haha

I’ve just called and got through without even having a ring, he said the other call handlers has put it on the wrong priority list and he has made it priority first and to look at the letter I sent for reasons why, he said I will have a decision in a week and to call back next Friday