If you have KS2/3 aged kids who are NOT SEN honestly how easy or hard do you think SEN parents have it?

[Notjoinedup]

I’m sitting here about to explode.

My two autistic children are in mainstream, hanging on by the skin of their teeth, there is no other even half suitable setting nearby. One of them has ft 1:1.

There is a school trip overseas, run by the language department. As it happens I never even considered putting my kids’ names down, it would absolutely be too much for them. Places are limited to 30, and there are about 150 kids in the year.

It has kicked off because not everyone that wanted a place got one. And I’m listening to a parent bleating on social media about how her child will be emotionally held back by her not getting a place, how it’s unfair that there are limited places, and that everyone that wants to go should go.

Clearly SEN parenting is a parallel universe because there are significant things that kids like mine can’t access, despite any amount of adjustment, it’s all too much for them. But fuck, let’s all take a moment to remember one kid who didn’t get to go to bloody Belgium for 4 days.

Is NT parenting THAT easy? Is that all they have to worry about?

The difference is OP isn’t saying it to the parent, is she?

My DS (14) is NT, he still wouldn't be choosen for such a school trip.

He hates school and behaves accordingly.

The snag is, he'd be on his best behavior if he was given the chance to go. It would make sense for him to learn the language if he gets to actually use it. Hence improving his behaviour in class. As a parent I feel sad for him, but nothing I can do about it. We can't take him for various reasons I can't get into.

My point is, there are issues all around, it's impossible to compare or judge.

Everyone is entitled to be annoyed about certain decisions that affect their DC.
It's not a race to the top/ bottom for who's got the worst deal in life.

It wasn’t about a race to the bottom or some sort of hardship pissing contest.

It was a parent whining about the emotional damage that would be done to her child if she didn’t get on the school trip.

And from my personal perspective and lived experience, it’s bollocks. That’s all. Proper bollocks.

Some people will have harder worse and more upsetting lives than me. That doesn’t detract from the bollocksness of this particular parent.

And so what? How does that impact on you? How does her complaining actually affect you or cause you strife? Where/how did you see it? Unless she directly complained to you you are being ridiculous! If you saw it on her sm, unfollow/unfriend her as you obviously loathe her.

Why do you continue to post on this? It’s clearly triggered you. Perhaps you should take your own advice.

Fellow SEN parent here - YABU. You cannot forbid any NT from complaining because you have it harder....

Sorry? Because I'm not in the "omg op you are RIGHT everyone who doesn't agree is wrong' I shouldn't post? The majority of my recent posts are in response to another poster, however you haven't asked them why they're posting?

I have a ND child and a NT child . Yes I would have been upset as well if my NT child didn't get a place because he would have wanted to and would have been able to as well. At the same time I understand what you r saying about your ND children because my ND son doesn't get to do a lot of stuff , like the school trip u mentioned, I wouldn't even put his name down as there would be no use . But I would have been gutted if my NT child didn't get a place, I'd probably rant too lol.