DLA WAIT TIME THREAD 40

[Fee89]

DLA WAITING TIME 2024

What did they tell you yesterday ? X

just called to update bank details… and obviously ask for an update lol lovely guy, I spoke to think his name was Asher? He said oh yes can see you’ve been waiting along time since January. It’s with the decision maker and you are close to a decision as it’s not letting me update your bank details on the system. He said once you received your letter you can call back to change them. I asked how long he thinks that will be as need to close my bank account down. He said will be before 2nd May. I’m hoping it’s going to be a positive outcome and not a decline!

What’s your scan date?

I believe it’s 09/01 or 10/01 x

Firstly, congratulations! I'm really happy for you!
We have the same scan date so your post has made me really hopeful! 🤞🏼❤️

That it was taking 20 weeks and not to bother ringing.

I rang. 32mins on hold. Told its with d.m. he tried saying they recieved 31st. Letter infront of me clearly states 30th and everyone else has said 30th!! Asked what date it went to d.m he looked and said it doesnt actually say. He then tried counting my weeks. Dont think so sunny jim. So cut him off from counting told him im 12 weeks and can count. He said he reckons another 6 weeks but il def get a text and letter 🤦🏻‍♀️ x

@Jkiss fingers crossed for you xx

I'm calling on my lunch break today. Hoping I get through within the hour!!
Just keep checking my messages.
We need more awards to keep our spirits up! X

@SAM2409 we telephoned for the forms and later returned them Special Delivery. On a positive note you may not have received a text as it could be with a DM rather than “ still being looked at “ which the cynic in me has interpreted as still being in the holding pile xx Fingers crossed for you xx

I’m calling now on hold! Scan date 17/01

@Tiredmama00 Congratulations xx🥳

I got told the same date when I rang last week 2nd may and my scan date is 17/01 calling now for update

Good luck x

@Emzi538 wishing you all the best for that Teams call xx

@Fee89 we are all with you for the final slog, hopefully they are over estimating times and you get good news soon xx

Sorry if a bit of 'moan' here, but having a bit of breakdown here.. I guess it's just too much going on the same time, and DLA with now already 24 weeks of waiting not helping with my anxieties at all. All the appointments, other boys (I have 4 of them) needs, oldest one starts university this year, 10 year old secondary, loads of changes ahead. My youngest one who's autistic lately being super anxious and everything frustrates him easily. I'm still on therapies myself, because of my PTSD. Finding myself not coping well larely with everything what's on my shoulders. I don't have my family around as I'm not native, since my boys father passed away, his family don't bother to even reach out How's boys (long story as their have their inner family dramas before) I'm remaried already, but he comes with his own responsibilities etc..and sometimes it's just too challenging.
Sorry if opening too much.
I'm close to call them again today, but so anxious to end up where they can't say anything, and I'm that type of person who doesn't know how to be more straight forward and stand by my rights.

😅 they always try it. Like we can’t count ourselves !

@Anxiouslywaitingmum Fingers crossed for you xx

@Kee3k Good luck xx

Im so sorry you’re going through all this 😞you’re so strong. You’re boys only have you so you don’t really have any time for yourself 💔. Have you had a look at respite with family support? Have a talk with your local family support see what they offer. They would offer me respite few hours a week, they would take my boys or they would stay in my house and I would go out. You sound like you need it.
also I really think you should give DLA ring your mind may become at ease, they may tell you there is some progress. Ask if they have recieved the marriage certificate and ask on an update and let them know 6months of waiting is just unacceptable!xx

@Matilde08, you are not opening up to much, it’s absolutely logical and valid to feel overwhelmed when demands on us out way the resources available to us. What you achieve on a day to day basis by be consistently available to your boys is amazing. 24 weeks without an end sight is a long time, I sincerely hope that your wait is over in the next few days xxx

So apparently it went to a decision maker on the 17/01 which is my scan date… I said well when I called last time they said it haldnt even gone to a decision maker yet… she said yeh it’s in a handling que they get done it order. It’s taking 16/17 weeks I said well I was told 2nd may last time she said it’s around the end of may. Said well why does it says 15 weeks on my letter she started stuttering then repeated herself again saying 16/17 weeks.

hmmm sounds odd! Completely different info! I think they’ve been told to try and give the same information so it’s a blanket 17 weeks wait. Makes me wonder if they do even bother checking or if they have different systems.

Thanks dear for your kind words and advice.
💐 well, I guess thanks to you I just gave a go and called them. Choosed option "wait more than 20 weeks".. was connected by the voice I remember with the same call holder person. This time was more straight forward mentioning scan date and waiting for too long with no update. Found out they have not received copy of my marriage certificate, but she will pass me to the services who can look on our claim and the progress of it. I was connected with young man this time, who wasn't too chatty, a bit slow with talk, but said it with the decision maker at the moment. Recommended give it another two weeks if nothing, call them back. I don't know if I have given up or just can't see the light at the end of tunnel. But I would really like to believe him and it's a good sign. But what I have read here and by your experience, I have no clue what to believe..