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Cup and the Teaset face 2012- and this year, Beatrice means business!

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cupofteaplease · 06/01/2012 17:02

Hi. Chances are if you've opened this thread, you may have followed us from here I thought the new year needed a new thread (also the old one was nearly full!)

The basics: Beatrice has central arthrogryposis and extensive cortical dysplasia. She is 16 weeks old and weighs 8lb 1oz. She is on continuous oxygen at 0.2 litres. She is fed Infatrini with Duocal mixed in via NG tube. She is undergoing ponsetti treatment for her talipes, she also has splints for her hands and is now in a pavlik harness full time for her shallow hip sockets. She is coping very well with all of her treatments. Smile Her community children's nurse describes her as 'defying all the odds'.

The positives: If you have a 4 month old NT baby, the following will probably seem pretty poor progress, but for Beatrice who was stiff and non responsive at bith, she has made great gains. Smile Bea seems very alert in this last week and is becoming more vocal too! She happily shouts at me when something isn't going her way- a vast improvement as she couldn't even cry when born. She moves her arms in all directions now and manages to lift her legs, even with the cast and harness. When she is under her play gym with lights, she moves her arms and legs in appreciation. She also mouths when she is hungry. Her breathing pattern seems much more regular since being on oxygen. She not only recognises my voice and turns to find me, but she can also distinguish other people talking and will move her head in different directions to find who is talking. We assume her eyesight is very poor, although we know she can see shadows and bright lights when it is dark. She adores the cinema and has been twice now!

The downers: Her weight gain is painfully slow- on average 2oz per week. She has fallen off the growth charts completely. She is still sick a couple of times a day. She is having a barium meal and swallow study on Monday to see if there is anything going on. Her sats are irregular and heartrate is very high, so weaning her off oxygen (which she started when she had pneumonia before Christmas) hasn't started yet.

Support: Beatrice was finally awarded DLA at the highest rate today, and we have been told to apply for a blue badge as parking in tight spaces with her oxygen is somewhat problematic Hmm. Next week, our lovely physiotherapist who has been administering the weekly plaster casts is going to start coming to our house to do some massage and play and encourage her arm movements even more. The referral to Helen House Hospice is still being processed. After Bea's casts have come off permanently (just 2 more to go!!) I plan on taking her swimming at the hydrotherapy pool in the special school where my SIL works as a SLT.

At the end of January we have a review with our 'lovely' paediatric consultant, Dr Scrooge. We havent managed to shake her off yet!

Thanks for following us here- I'll add some more pictures in a minute. Smile

OP posts:
JugglingWithSnowballs · 31/01/2012 21:47

If you need your DH then let him be there for you !
Love to you all x

MessNessPess · 31/01/2012 21:47

Thinking of you Cup, Bea and the Teaset x x x x x

notjustme · 31/01/2012 21:48

Oh cup, I am so sorry that this is happening :(

cupofteaplease · 31/01/2012 21:48

We have tried the hospice, they are full- 3 emergencies and 4 end of lifers. I guess that's the story of her life, everything working against her, yet still she ploughs on. So, so proud of my tiny girl.

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Milliways · 31/01/2012 21:48

Praying for you all - she was given to the most loving supportive family possible.

OrangeChicken · 31/01/2012 21:49

Little Bea and your family, we are praying for you also. Cuddles and hugs to you all ... Be strong and whichever way things turn know you are surrounded by warmth and love and God's protection ...

notjustme · 31/01/2012 21:52

Another candle lit here for Bea the brave xxx

OrangeChicken · 31/01/2012 21:53

Oh and Cup - not everything has been working against your darling girl - she could not have been given to a more loving and supportive family and that is the most amazing thing possible to have working for you!

JugglingWithSnowballs · 31/01/2012 21:53

She's always had the most important thing working for her though - the love of her Mummy and Daddy and her two big sisters x

BB3 · 31/01/2012 21:56

I second what orange said, Bea has had you all there surrounding her with love and support, helping her plough through. She couldn't ask for a better family xxx

JenniferLaunders · 31/01/2012 21:59

You have been the most wonderful mum to Bea.

Sidge · 31/01/2012 22:05

Sending peace and strength to you all.

Much love xxx

thejaffacakesareonme · 31/01/2012 22:07

Praying for you all

fairimum · 31/01/2012 22:09

thoughts and prayers to you all xxx

archfiend · 31/01/2012 22:12

Thoughts and strength to you all. You are proud of Bea, but don't forget how proud she is of you-you have been there fighting just as hard as she is.

TallyBear · 31/01/2012 22:19

Sending prayers and thoughts to you for this difficult night and beyond. xxxx

KateUnrulyBush · 31/01/2012 22:24

Cup. I am holding your hand. And, if I may, a tiny kiss for Beatrice. Be strong, as always, we are with you.

x Kate

Thumbwitch · 31/01/2012 22:28

I know it's late at night but perhaps you should have the rest of your family with you just now, just in case. They will want to be with her and you as well, won't they?
Ask the nurse to give you some space.
Love and strength to you, beautiful Bea and your lovely mummy. xx

LittlePebble · 31/01/2012 22:32

Oh Cup sending you so much love for you and Bea tonight. Xxxxxx

MessNessPess · 31/01/2012 22:32

Do tell the nurse to back off Cup.

SecretNutellaFix · 31/01/2012 22:33

cupoftea- Bea has had the best love a family can have given. You are all in my prayers in the coming weeks.

EdwardorEricCantDecide · 31/01/2012 22:39

Thinking of you tonight cup. Enjoy every moment you have with your beautiful baby. (((hugs)))

ExitPursuedByaBear · 31/01/2012 22:45

Oh Cup. I don't know what to say. Except that you and Bea together define everything that love and life is about. Life the Universe and everything is so huge, but it all comes down to those small precious moments. Just hold her and pray, to whatever god you believe in.

Sending you as much love as it is possible over the ether.

CestTout · 31/01/2012 22:47

Thinking of you all xx

AitchTwoOhOneTwo · 31/01/2012 22:53

bless you, bea.

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