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Cup and the Teaset face 2012- and this year, Beatrice means business!

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cupofteaplease · 06/01/2012 17:02

Hi. Chances are if you've opened this thread, you may have followed us from here I thought the new year needed a new thread (also the old one was nearly full!)

The basics: Beatrice has central arthrogryposis and extensive cortical dysplasia. She is 16 weeks old and weighs 8lb 1oz. She is on continuous oxygen at 0.2 litres. She is fed Infatrini with Duocal mixed in via NG tube. She is undergoing ponsetti treatment for her talipes, she also has splints for her hands and is now in a pavlik harness full time for her shallow hip sockets. She is coping very well with all of her treatments. Smile Her community children's nurse describes her as 'defying all the odds'.

The positives: If you have a 4 month old NT baby, the following will probably seem pretty poor progress, but for Beatrice who was stiff and non responsive at bith, she has made great gains. Smile Bea seems very alert in this last week and is becoming more vocal too! She happily shouts at me when something isn't going her way- a vast improvement as she couldn't even cry when born. She moves her arms in all directions now and manages to lift her legs, even with the cast and harness. When she is under her play gym with lights, she moves her arms and legs in appreciation. She also mouths when she is hungry. Her breathing pattern seems much more regular since being on oxygen. She not only recognises my voice and turns to find me, but she can also distinguish other people talking and will move her head in different directions to find who is talking. We assume her eyesight is very poor, although we know she can see shadows and bright lights when it is dark. She adores the cinema and has been twice now!

The downers: Her weight gain is painfully slow- on average 2oz per week. She has fallen off the growth charts completely. She is still sick a couple of times a day. She is having a barium meal and swallow study on Monday to see if there is anything going on. Her sats are irregular and heartrate is very high, so weaning her off oxygen (which she started when she had pneumonia before Christmas) hasn't started yet.

Support: Beatrice was finally awarded DLA at the highest rate today, and we have been told to apply for a blue badge as parking in tight spaces with her oxygen is somewhat problematic Hmm. Next week, our lovely physiotherapist who has been administering the weekly plaster casts is going to start coming to our house to do some massage and play and encourage her arm movements even more. The referral to Helen House Hospice is still being processed. After Bea's casts have come off permanently (just 2 more to go!!) I plan on taking her swimming at the hydrotherapy pool in the special school where my SIL works as a SLT.

At the end of January we have a review with our 'lovely' paediatric consultant, Dr Scrooge. We havent managed to shake her off yet!

Thanks for following us here- I'll add some more pictures in a minute. Smile

OP posts:
marchduck · 31/01/2012 20:40

Cup, praying for your beautiful Bea & for you

lisad123 · 31/01/2012 20:43

And saw your other message too, of your still stuck there next week (hopefully not) I'm happy to come meet you. X

Francagoestohollywood · 31/01/2012 21:03

Thinking of you

ArborFields · 31/01/2012 21:08

Hoping you all find strength right now. Sending love and prayers to your family.

dontrememberme · 31/01/2012 21:08

thinking of you all xx

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 31/01/2012 21:11

(((((Cup))))))
No words sweetheart x

tooloudhere · 31/01/2012 21:17

X

FuzzzyDuck · 31/01/2012 21:18

Have no words... Keep that beautiful baby bea tight in your arms xxx

JugglingWithSnowballs · 31/01/2012 21:21

Much love Beatrice Primrose x

Thumbwitch · 31/01/2012 21:23

Oh Cup! I'm so sorry to hear that, you poor love. :(
I hope that, if it is time, it is peaceful for Bea and you all. Prayers for your whole family lovely lady - be strong. xx

JugglingWithSnowballs · 31/01/2012 21:33

Candle lit for Bea and for you all this evening x

NaughtyMrChicken · 31/01/2012 21:34

Sending love and hope x x x

annalovesmrbates · 31/01/2012 21:34

No words but lots of thoughts and prayers for you and your precious beautiful Bea. X

annalovesmrbates · 31/01/2012 21:35

No words but lots of thoughts and prayers for you and your precious beautiful Bea. X

cupofteaplease · 31/01/2012 21:35

She wakes up and is all eyes and waving arms, my beautiful Beatrice. Then she falls asleep and her breathing slows until it stops. Then. She gasps, and is all eyes again. It's very difficult, I don't know what I'm praying for- a miraculous recovery or a peaceful passing. I'm so confused. But calm again. I was crying so hard earlier. I have told dh to sleep, he's been up since 1am. The nurse is a bit full on. I just wish it was me and Bea. Wish we'd made it to the hospice too.

OP posts:
Whatevertheweather · 31/01/2012 21:36

((((Cup)))) no words just hugs and understanding xxx

mycatsaysach · 31/01/2012 21:38

oh god - so sorry to hear this

xx sending a big hug xx

DottyDot · 31/01/2012 21:39

Xxxx wishing you all the peace and time you can possibly have together.

CMOTDibbler · 31/01/2012 21:39

Oh cup, wish I could hug you. And that beautiful Bea.
If you phone the hospice, you might be able to move there. They keep spaces back for people like you (sorry, can't word it better), so different to planned stays

JenniferLaunders · 31/01/2012 21:39

Can you ask to be given some space to be alone with Bea? The nurse should be sensitive to your preferences.

Big hug and much love x

WomanwiththeYellowHat · 31/01/2012 21:40

Just to say I am thinking of you all xxx

QED · 31/01/2012 21:41

You are all in my thoughts

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 31/01/2012 21:43

I agree with CMOT
It would probably be possible to transfer if that is what you want.
x

Carrotcakeisace · 31/01/2012 21:44

(((cup))) x

BB3 · 31/01/2012 21:46

Oh cup, sending you every ounce of love and support I have. There are no words to make what you are going through easier.

Your little girl has touched the lives of so many x keeping everything crossed for you x

Can you ask the nurse to give you some time alone with your baby?

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