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Cup and the Teaset face 2012- and this year, Beatrice means business!

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cupofteaplease · 06/01/2012 17:02

Hi. Chances are if you've opened this thread, you may have followed us from here I thought the new year needed a new thread (also the old one was nearly full!)

The basics: Beatrice has central arthrogryposis and extensive cortical dysplasia. She is 16 weeks old and weighs 8lb 1oz. She is on continuous oxygen at 0.2 litres. She is fed Infatrini with Duocal mixed in via NG tube. She is undergoing ponsetti treatment for her talipes, she also has splints for her hands and is now in a pavlik harness full time for her shallow hip sockets. She is coping very well with all of her treatments. Smile Her community children's nurse describes her as 'defying all the odds'.

The positives: If you have a 4 month old NT baby, the following will probably seem pretty poor progress, but for Beatrice who was stiff and non responsive at bith, she has made great gains. Smile Bea seems very alert in this last week and is becoming more vocal too! She happily shouts at me when something isn't going her way- a vast improvement as she couldn't even cry when born. She moves her arms in all directions now and manages to lift her legs, even with the cast and harness. When she is under her play gym with lights, she moves her arms and legs in appreciation. She also mouths when she is hungry. Her breathing pattern seems much more regular since being on oxygen. She not only recognises my voice and turns to find me, but she can also distinguish other people talking and will move her head in different directions to find who is talking. We assume her eyesight is very poor, although we know she can see shadows and bright lights when it is dark. She adores the cinema and has been twice now!

The downers: Her weight gain is painfully slow- on average 2oz per week. She has fallen off the growth charts completely. She is still sick a couple of times a day. She is having a barium meal and swallow study on Monday to see if there is anything going on. Her sats are irregular and heartrate is very high, so weaning her off oxygen (which she started when she had pneumonia before Christmas) hasn't started yet.

Support: Beatrice was finally awarded DLA at the highest rate today, and we have been told to apply for a blue badge as parking in tight spaces with her oxygen is somewhat problematic Hmm. Next week, our lovely physiotherapist who has been administering the weekly plaster casts is going to start coming to our house to do some massage and play and encourage her arm movements even more. The referral to Helen House Hospice is still being processed. After Bea's casts have come off permanently (just 2 more to go!!) I plan on taking her swimming at the hydrotherapy pool in the special school where my SIL works as a SLT.

At the end of January we have a review with our 'lovely' paediatric consultant, Dr Scrooge. We havent managed to shake her off yet!

Thanks for following us here- I'll add some more pictures in a minute. Smile

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deardear · 07/01/2012 10:17

I have been following from the start but never known what to say but she is gorgeous and you and her family are an inspiration!

kreechergotstuckupthechimney · 07/01/2012 12:26

She is gorgeous, you and your DH/P must and should be so proud of her.
Very best wishes for more improvement and a positive 2012.

Carrotcakeisace · 07/01/2012 14:56

What a fantastic update, moved to tears (again) by what an inspirational little fighter Bea is. Great news about the DLA and all her fantastic achievements

Go Team Bea for 2012 x

CheshireDing · 07/01/2012 17:40

She really has come in leaps and bounds since September Cup :)

I wish Bea and the rest of your Family all the best for 2012.

As usual her photos are yummy :)

maxybrown · 07/01/2012 20:09

ah she is gorgeous, want to eat her up! Well done all of you Smile x

JoyLeeHockeySticks · 07/01/2012 20:17

Yes, Bea is absolutely scrumptious! xx

DancesWithWolves · 07/01/2012 22:41

Yay - a new thread for Bea. So glad to hear you sounding so positive.

DancesWithWolves · 07/01/2012 22:43

Oh dear, just had a little weep and your new photos. What an absolute sweetheart, (and I love your thread title).

StiffyByng · 08/01/2012 17:19

I've followed your previous threads but been shy to post. Your daughter sounds like such a determined and bright character and I'm thinking of you all.

pleasethanks · 08/01/2012 20:57

You and Bea are a total inspiration. She is a cracking wee thing and adore the photo of her in hospital looking at the lights. You must be so very proud.

argghh · 09/01/2012 15:54

Sudden realsied I had not read an update for a while. Lovely news from 'our' Beatrice. Am off to check out the new photographs. Amazing little girls - and amazing mummy too.

fairimum · 09/01/2012 19:47

hope today went ok?

Hulababy · 09/01/2012 20:01

How lovely to read her update and see how she is making such good progress. She is beautiful!

ohmeohmy · 09/01/2012 20:18

Hurrah for Bea. Wishing you all a happy new year. Glad the support is getting into place. Shout if you need anything. I have a sheepskin that needs a home. It is like the wooly bit but on a cloth backing so it can go in the wash easily. Pm me if you'd like it.

cupofteaplease · 09/01/2012 20:44

fairimum Thanks for asking! Today went well. The barium swallow showed that her digestive system is just as it should be, no twists or distortions, which I was worried about. It did show that she has reflux. I feel a little annoyed as I asked a couple of months ago if we could try her on domperidone, but the consultant was adament she didn't have reflux and refused her the meds. I hope when we see her at the end of the month she will allow us to try them. Bea is being sick with or after every feed again, it's very disheartening.

But she has had another good day and is currently awake enjoying the lights from the TV in the darkness- this is her favourite time of day Smile.

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JoyLeeHockeySticks · 09/01/2012 20:52

Was thinking about the barium swallow today - glad nothing is amiss. The reflux issue just shows that you have good instincts and can argue Bea's corner about things. Any progress on getting a new consultant?!

mycatsaysach · 09/01/2012 23:54

wow bea is doing so well
lovely to read your post and hear what she is up to - bless her Smile
cinema too Smile

my dd was teeny tiny too and weight dropped off the scale - she had breathing and therefore feeding issues.the first year is tough and the weight gain is so important but so slow - it improved over time with us (slowly) really hope it does with you too

you sound like you are all doing great - keep it up

now going to look at latest pictures Smile

CaroleService · 10/01/2012 12:37

Angry at consultant.

cupofteaplease · 10/01/2012 12:52

I feel really disappointed today.

I referred Beatrice to a children's hospice back at the end of last year. It wasn't an easy thing to do as I'm sure you can imagine, and I only did it after some lovely mums on MN suggested it. Nobody in 'real life' had mentioned it. However, once I told the nurse I had applied she said it was a good idea, as did the consultant (bear in mind again that dh and I have NEVER been offered any emotional support from the hospital.)

The hospice said the referral wouldn't take long after they'd received Bea's medical details from the consultant, but what with Christmas and New Year I expected a delay. But this morning, I thought I'd give them a ring and just see how the referral process was going. Can you guess the next part? Yep, the consultant hasn't even sent the bloody letter. I'm so, so sick of doing all the fighting and having noone to back me up.

Why us? Are other parents out there getting support or are all parents of disabled and dying children just left to get on with it themselves lest they be a drain on resources? Actually, don't answer that, I fear the truth may be too distressing...

Poor Bea isn't keeping down any milk. She looks pale and tired today. But hey, noone is prepared to give her any medication to help her reflux so I guess that's just another thing she and we have to put up with. Angry

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mycatsaysach · 10/01/2012 13:08

oh yes i remember the huge weight of responsibility very well

sorry to hear today not so great

dd had gaviscon powder as a tiny baby - will the gp not prescribe that?

CheshireDing · 10/01/2012 13:23

Cup you sound so tired today, sending hugs to you and Bea.

Sorry you may have already answered/dealt with these but will the GP not refer you as a Family, or at least you and DH to talk to someone, as the hospital are not doing? I am sure you have said previously you had been to the GP for some medication, is it worth going back to the same GP for the referral?

I wonder are you being too nice and calm with the "authorities" (I mean this in the nicest possible way). Do you need to really kick up a stink about the non referral to the hospital and the lack of reflux medication? Could you even say "I am not leaving until you prescribed medication for it".

Is it possible to get the Consultants Secretary to email you a scanned copy of the referral letter on their letterhead and you can then email it to the hospice yourself? From my experience the Secretaries are the people who will actually get stuff done.

Sorry I know you are probably at the end of your tether.

CestTout · 10/01/2012 13:23

Oh Cup... sorry you are having such a bad day can I send a very un-MN (hug)?

Can you talk to your GP? Can they liase with Dr Doom on your behalf or is there someone at the hospital above her you can demand to speak to? Do you still have the details of the nice nurse you saw before? I can't imagine how hard this all is for you, anyone in there right mind should be bending over backwards to make circumstances like this easier on the family and patient not being damn right awkward. Sorry.. angry on your behalf.

Wishing you a better afternoon and evening, thinking of you all.

fairimum · 10/01/2012 13:41

you can buy gaviscon over the counter but i am worried it might make her milk too thick to do down the tube, although i know if breast feeding can mix it will a little milk and feed on a spoon.... my son has reflux and the domperidone will stop the sick coming up, but wont stop the acid that will be burning her throat etc - ranitidine will do this (often looses its effectiveness and then they change to omeprazole) - also worth thinking about is that it is likely that the reflux could be the cause of the problems with bottle feeding? my son choked and stopped breathing a couple of times due to his reflux - lots of hugs and keep fighting - another recommendation for PALS at the hospital they were the only ones to sort DS problems out and get us seeing the right people!

your GP should be able to prescribe reflux meds?

cupofteaplease · 10/01/2012 13:44

I'm waiting foe the GP to call. We tried gaviscon but it made the milk too thick and lumpy to go down the tube.

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JoyLeeHockeySticks · 10/01/2012 13:55

It's not good enough, is it? Grrrr.

I would get on the phone to PALS and explain the issues or get a relative to. Let PALS do the phone calls and the leg work to get the referral and the reflux drug sorted - that's what they are there for, to fight for patients who are sick and worn out, and for parents who should be able to focus all their energy on looking after their dc and not chasing up treatment . Good idea about contacting the secretary too.

You've done so, so well, Cup. Hugs and a cup of Brew

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