School lateness punishments, neurodiversity and the law

[VividDenimTiger]

Posting here for traffic really. DD 14 has had issues in secondary school- we suspect ADHD to be honest. I am unravelling my own mid life ADHD traits at the moment too.

For DD, one of the things that manifests in school is persistent lateness. She just can’t organise herself to get to lessons on time. The school has now brought in a punishment for lateness where anyone late more than 5 mins gets sent to a punishment room for the lesson. Needless to say DD is now missing loads of lessons because of her lateness.

I know that it’s annoying for teachers when kids are late for lessons but it feels like this policy unfairly targets kids, like my DD, who might or do have some issues with timekeeping because of other things going on.

Aibu? I am trying to unravel some of this for DD (and myself) but I am really angry about how punitive this policy is- it feels like it disadvantages kids who genuinely have issues with organising their time and themselves. The corridors are really busy in school and she gets upset and overwhelmed and that doesn’t help all of this.

In some cases, cope would be more accurate than thrive. But coping is good enough. It's better than completely withdrawing from society.

Did she actually ask for reasonable adjustments because reading the thread back it sounds abit like 5min chat senco and oh on the waiting list for adhd? Spoken to school is a very vague term.
I'm annoyed with the way some SEN parents are portrayed on this thread which is mainly for the worst. Some of us have done so much work to get our kids to the next level that is has become another job. And then other people come in and tell us we have no idea what we are talking about.

Nope, coping is not 'good enough'. What a ridiculous thing to say.

Many didn’t cope either. Even in the past, the rate of suicide and contact with the justice system was higher in those with a ND condition. The rate of employment was still lower than the rest of the population.

Some who did cope, coped because the education system was different to what it is now.

OP has asked for reasonable adjustments. That is how she knows the school will not allow Loops and will not allow DD to move 1 min early.

This young woman has managed 4 years in what sounds like a not particularly inclusive secondary and presumably 7 years in primary before that. How's that "withdrawing from society"?