Just me or is DH a t**t?

[Hazeldeann]

I started a business and it isn’t going well.

I told DH my concerns about doing loads of training courses at the business centre, doing free work for exposure, spending time and money on networking, but not getting the paid jobs. I said this is pointless, I quit.

You’d expect him to say come on, it’ll be fine, keep going, or something supportive?

Nope. He said “If you give up this easily then self employment obviously isn’t for you”.

He’s a fucking unsupportive twat and I hate him.

"He got me pregnant and that got me fired". I sure hope that what this statement is a faux pas on your behalf and that you are not obfuscatingly implying he forced you to have that child.
Because if that was the case, you have more concerning matters to address.

You wanted him to empathise and offer encouragement and motivation when it all seemed like it wasn't working, and instead you feel ashamed and a bit pathetic and vulnerable.
Im not a fan of the tough love thing. I hate it.

If the business wasn’t working best to give up before you lose more money ??

I've been self-employed for the last 15 years for similar reasons to you.

I have advice but, to be honest you don't sound in a great frame of mind. You sound very resentful of your husband.

My husband has also not always been terribly supportive, even though he benefits from the flexibility. But you're on the back foot if you've only hd one customer. It sounds like any attempts at support would be met with hostility too.

Ultimately, you need a plan. If it's going to take a while to get going, you're either going to need another part time job in the meantime or fit it in around childcare.

It sounds like this isn’t really your problem here. It sounds frustrating for you and for that I feel bad for you but I think you need to set a deadline for yourself to achieve. If you can’t get there you might have to go with a different pla. Sounds like you’re very resentful of being the child’s main caregiver but it seems your husband is kind of doing everything right now and your business plan isn’t gaining anything useful in the long run. You need a plan bc it sounds like you have to go back to work. Build your business slowly in your spare time.