SPLIT NIGHTS! Anyone solved this pure hell?

[cookiesandcream24]

13 months old. Been going on for months on and off.

Up for 3 hours (almost to the minute every time) until she's ready to go back to sleep again. Usually after midnight.

I have been putting up with this for months and feel like I have tried everything possible nothing is working to change it.

Has anyone experienced this and found ANYTHING that works to stop this huge awake window in the night

Sounds like a plan 🙂 hope it works!!!

I'd cut out one of the naps, x
I'd do stay 1 until 2 or 1:30 until 2:30 the latest. X

Good luck with it @cookiesandcream24 We unsurprisingly, as we’d had our ‘run of 3’, had a split night last night (about 2 hours, which now seems to be an improvement) and now DH is upstairs battling with her to get to bed sleep.
I keep a note of everything on an app ans wrote it down on a bit of paper today to see it in black and white. Nope, no pattern 🙈

@cookiesandcream24 how are you getting on? We’re surviving, just! Much less split nights but wake ups every night, only 10’mins or so but will only be appeased if we go in for a cuddle. Also a complete and utter nightmare going to bed. Taking 1-2 hours every night, not sure if it’s time to drastically cut the nap or even drop it. She’s 2.3 yrs now but will still regularly have a 1.5-2hr nap xx

Ahh was wondering how you were getting on! Hooray for the split nights being less, that's something right?! Just gets replaced with something else though by the sounds of it 😩

We're doing ok thanks but had a really bad run of it since we last spoke on here I think. Just got so fed up with it all, knowing how long it's been going on etc. So we've decided to get some help from a sleep consultant. I'm booked in for a zoom call with her end of March, you get a tailored plan and support for a month. Not cheap but I got to the point of being past caring.

BUUUUUT we dedided to try one more thing and this was to reduce her nap down to 1.5 hours and be better in tune with her awake windows and sleep queues. So now she goes to bed at 6.30 😱 which is amazing for her. Before this it was 8-8.30 and sometimes later. Now I've chopped the nap it's def getting her more hours sleep. And so far split nights have been less, not gone but I have seen an improvement and we've been doing this it's less than a week now so going to keep at it. This really is a better bedtime for her age. Would be hilarious if we managed to solve this before getting to the consultation but I doubt it very much. I've paid a deposit but you don't pay the full fee until the time comes so will see!!!

Ahh if I were you I would def try capping your little girls nap. Give it 7 days and see where it gets you...

@LillyMac500 ah forget to tag you. Message below!

Sorry @cookiesandcream24 have had a pretty crappy week. After saying very few split nights, we had two last week as well as nightmare bedtimes & multiple wale ups 😭 I’m thinking there may be final molars coming in or possibly the 2-2.5 yrs regression.
I have an appointment with Sleep Scotland next month at long last. Hopefully that helps with whatever state we’re in at that point, and also going forward how to better deal with bad sleep.
Hope you’ve had a better week! X

Hi @LillyMac500 sorry you've had a crappy week. Really starts dragging you down when you've had a run of ok nights then it comes back 😩

How's this last week been? Any better at all? Did you try cutting her nap down?

If it makes you feel any better it's been horrendous here. So much so I've called the GP to ask for a referral to see a paediatrician. I've still got this sleep consultant booked too for the end of the month but I'd quite like to not spend a fortune on something which is most likely not gojng to have any effect. Will see how long the wait time is for the NHS route first.

It's def gotten worse since I've been messing with her routine trying out different things. And she is so utterly miserable in the day, as we all are ☹️

I hope your meeting with the sleep people is good anyway, they must be able to suggest something! Obvs I will share anything I find out from my appointments too. Are we able to private message on here ...

@cookiesandcream24 I’ve sent you a PM

Hi Ladies,

How is the sleep now? Is it any better??

I've stumbled across this thread and can't believe it, I feel like we have been going through exactly the same!!

My little one is 2 year 5 months and has bed doing this since exactly 1 year old. She also head bangs, so every single night pretty much for the past year and a half we have had the most stressful nights full of loud repeated banging against the cot.

Its been horrendous and utterly soul destroying and there's absolutely nothing you can do to help!!

Like you guys, I cut naps, lengthened naps, earlier / late bedtimes. Nothing worked.

We have just got a bed for her so at least when she wakes, I can go in with her. Once she's awake, that's it. There's no point trying to leave her / keep going in and out.

I'm really hoping that it's better for you all now ??? I need to have something to hope for! Xx

@TinyDancer275 hello, sorry you’re going through this same hell. We’re still in it I’m afraid - like you, started when DD turned 1
and she’s now 2.5
We’ve tried everything other than change to a bed, which I’m reluctant to do as I think it’ll just result in her coming straight into our room so we won’t even get the odd night where she falls back asleep. We’re currently in the process of dropping the nap, well DD is, I’d keep it! Some nights she’ll sleep through, some nights not - regardless of nap. Since last weekend we’ve had 1 sleep through, 3 split nights and 2 very wakeful nights with multiple wake ups. Can’t wait to see what tonight brings 🙄
I hope you come out the other end soon, I know only too well how horrendous this is x

Hi girls..I finally found this post, after months of struggling with the same issue...13 months old, following a routine given by sleep consultant, having split nights almost every night. I found myself in many of your posts and tried to get tips and apply them. At the moment nothing works, I'm at my limits and many times I lose hope..any update in your cases? Something that worked? Thank you.

Hi @BlieCoffee
We are still kind of the same unfortunately. I'm sorry to hear you're going through this too.
My daughter still wakes and sometimes she will do a few nights a little better. But then back to it again

I'm sorry I can't give you any comfort right now as I know how desperate you can get trying to find a solution!

Hello, I know this thread is a little old but I was just wondering if anyone has seen any improvement?

My DC is 27 months and we’ve been having split nights every single night for more than a year. I dread going to bed because it’s always the same, 2-3 hours wide awake, regardless of naps or bedtime or exercise or food or bloody anything!

Just hoping someone found the magic solution…?

Hi @Rach247

I'm really sorry you are going through this!!

We are still having the same problems really... we have found no magical solution yet, I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news!!

It would be interesting to know if anyone else has had any success!!

My little one is 3 in November and I'm thinking now ( hoping) that she's eventually grow out of it xx

Xxxxx

I'd be calling a sleep consultant if my kid was still doing this consistently at nearly three - that's not right, and it's no good for you either!

@cherrypickers thanks for the advice. I tried many sleep consultants - did not work unfortunately. You name it, I tried it.
I am aware it is not good for me - it's been absolutely horrendous.
There are other possible issues we have now found out, possibly autism.
Sometimes there are no answers and people do have to live with it unfortunately, as hard as it may be.

My baby had split night for 5 months.(he's now 17 months old).after reading more about it, I decided to try one last thing, which finally worked somehow. ...so instead of 19.00 bedtime, I started a later one (20.30)...in the morning, I would wake him up at 6.30 regardless of his awake hours during night...after about a week, nights became much better. He was sleeping most nights ok, about 10h/night, for like 2 months, sometimes waking up briefly. One month ago tho, without any change in his routine, he started again split nights...last couple of week are better, so maybe it was a phase or something...some babies are just difficult sleepers, idk anymore...I also tried sleep consultant by the way

Same as @TinyDancer275, I tried a sleep consultant and everything else possible. Some say over tired some say under tired - with mine there’s no rhyme or reason. I think sometimes it’s just your luck. We have good nights & bad nights and for long stretches we have split nights. My DD is also nearly 3 and this has been going on for nearly 2 years. I’ve discussed with my HV til I’m blue in the face and GP has been less than helpful. We’ll get through it 🤪

This is exactly what I’d do as well.
I have had success with “wake to sleep” like the previous poster, but I think dropping the nap would work better.