What do you do with 8 week old 6-11pm?!

[DoveGreylove]

My 8 week just doesn't sleep in the evenings. I have tried everything. I am so exhausted. I just don't know what to do with her. Why won't she go down to sleep?? She won't even sleep for an hour or so. The only time she will begin to settle is 11pm and that in itself has to involve feeding to sleep / rocking to sleep.

I just don't understand what people do with their babies in the evening. How do you get them down???

Some people say theirs doesn't sleep til they take them up to sleep between 10-11 but what do you then do with the baby for the rest of the early evening?

Please someone help me :(

Thank you @Sunshinegirl82 :)
I will make more of an effort with the evening routine.
My problem with bathtime is she HATES it in the evening. She doesn't mind the actual bath but as soon as I take her out she cries until she is dressed and can be fed! I gave her a bath this morning no trouble at all, it was all smiles, including drying and dressing her, but in the evening she will cry and cry ...?!

I guess my schedule is more of something to follow to ensure I feed her every 3 hours. So 7,10,1,4,7. But I don't stick to it if she needs to feed before or after those times! And I try to get her down to sleep after 1hr 15mins - 1hr 30 mins of awake time (including the feed).

I guess I should just try and go with the flow. I'm not complaining about her waking up in the night I know it's normal :) it's just a shame she's regressed a bit!

Regression is really frustrating but so totally normal. When I hear/read people say 'my 15 week usually doesn't think that's the first mistake - dont assume they 'usually' do anything.

I can see the anxiety in your posts and I was exactly the same and posted very similar things. I had no idea how to get baby into a routine, allow him to cluster feed/ enjoy the snuggles, not leave him alone for the first 6 months and make sure he had enough sleep. I couldn't seem to work out how to manage those 4 things. And I never worked it out. While I was busy trying he grew up.

You're doing brilliantly. Its absolutely normal to feel shit. No one tells you that!

If evening baths don't work, just do a morning one, you'll all be happier! Do what works for you and your baby. The evening routine is just having a little sequence of events to signal "bedtime", don't worry about it including a bath for now. I also think at 8 weeks the routine is more for you to feel some semblance of control than for the baby.

I think it's really normal to have tears after the bath – it's tiring and tired babies cry. But like people have said, it all changes endlessly so you could try again in a few weeks and discover that evening bath time is just the ticket. Our current "tears at bedtime" issue is getting into her sleepsuit and sleeping bag – bath and towel is nice and snuggly, followed by mean mummy putting her down to dress her, waaaahhhh.

Haven't rtft but I have two kids. And neither slept well.
Our second though she just doesn't sleep properly at least the first would sleep in pram. She's just 20 mins and bing awake! All day night.

Anyways all kids are really different like night and day. Don't listen to these people who say their kids sleep 7 to 7 from birth.
Is the wee one unsettled when watching TV with you? If she's not I'd just let her watch Netflix with one of you while the other tries to sleep. It's hard when your on edge waiting for a cry.

Hahaha yes it definitely is normal to feel shit.