The non-sleepers are still not sleeping

[NinaMarieP]

New thread, guys!

DS doesn't go to nursery but if I go out he will sometimes go to sleep with whoever is looking after him if he's tired enough. He apparently would cry and fall asleep on them after being upset for 5/10minutes

I'm sure I've seen on other threads people say the nursery staff are magic at getting babies to sleep so she might be different for them.

Frozenmargarita17 I don't yet but I will do at the end of July so know what you mean about dreading the nights!

We have been working on a sleep consultants advice, Sunday night he woke at 12 and 4, last night just once at 1.30. Still up at 5.30 though! Such an improvement from our hourly wakings but I'm worried it won't last, especially when I go back to work.

I wanted to let her grow in to sleeping through because I really can't do sleep training. She's doing really well but she needs her daytime naps to be right. I'm hoping that they find a way to get her down without her screaming.

She is just so stubborn.

I know what you mean we tried a bit of sleep training a few weeks ago which did help a bit but I don't want to leave him to cry especially now he can stand up.

We're on our first wake up already, DS didn't have an afternoon nap so maybe he's overtired but he wasn't acting tired. I knew he went to sleep to easily

Good luck meepmoop

Dd had a late nap so went to bed late too argh

frozenmargarita hello- I'm a long time lurker on this thread I have a non sleeping 14 month old who started at nursery 6 weeks ago. I was also worried about naps but they are completely fine. At first he only did short naps at nursery, but it sorted itself after a few weeks and he now does a good long nap there (he's dropped to one nap). In fact I asked his key worker the other day how she gets him to nap and she said she lies him in his cot and plays twinkle twinkle- right!!! Muggins here walks around with him!!

We're about to start sleep training, have just got a sleep consultant- he's been a terrible sleeper since 4 months of age and we're both at work now so really need to do something. However he's now getting his first molars so need to wait until that passes.

Hope you're all doing ok... Reading this thread has made me feel a lot less alone in the last few months.

Hi @kiwiblue that's good to hear. I think at over a year I'll start to feel better about doing sleep training. At the moment she still feels like my little baby and I can't bear to hear her cry.

I really hope it's like you said. Thank you so much for replying to me - I have been so worried about it.

@frozenmargarita17 - I hear you. I still can't bear to hear him cry.

Please try not to worry and please do not feel guilty. I have been exceedingly impressed with my nursery. I think nurseries get a tough deal as people think they aren't personal and the workers don't care. In my experience they are amazing and care so much. They couldn't take better care of my DS. Re naps I was also worried, I couldn't believe it when they got him to nap on the second day of settling. I never thought that would happen. They're used to doing it though and they will manage it! As I say we did have a week or two where he wasn't napping much at nursery and as his sleep is bad at night I started to worry he'd get sleep deprived- but all of a sudden he started doing 2h naps at nursery. It will sort itself out

I can't get DS back to sleep and in his cot. He doesn't want me to rock him and wants to position himself on his own and which is making smile as he's trying to fall asleep in weird ways. I wish he would do it in his cot though and not on me as I feel like a climbing frame. I'm literally sat here with him wiggling all over the place.

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Teething tonight I think. He's been awake since 2am. Wants cuddles (I love cuddles, especially sleepy ones), but he's just not settling.

Calpol administered for the second time as he woke up before midnight too. He's been unsettled all night

Just sleep little one, sleep.

Hi was after advice my 14month daughter still doesn’t sleep through the night she wakes anywhere from 3-6 times and sometimes for 3 hours at a time. I’m 9 weeks pregnant with my second and work a full time job so I’m exhausted. We’ve tried everything we can think of ( she doesn’t wake up for food more for comfort) so after any advice please

Could you co sleep?

So not last night but the night before, we had a good night (by our standards)... DS2 co slept from 11pm, suddenly woke up screaming blue murder and struggled to get him to resettle. He had a comfort feed then slept until 2.15, quick feed then slept until 4.30, very tiny feed and slept until 6 when he had another feed and slept until 7! Felt a million times better for having more than 20mins sleep. Last night we went back to the normal waking up a million times 🤷🏼‍♀️

frozen my Ds(9 months) goes to nursery 2 days a week and naps there. They cuddle him or rub his back. He only did 20mims to begin with but at the end of his third week he's napping for an hour and a half at lunchtime. He doesn't really nap at my in laws and comes home really over tired. You'll be surprised what they do when you're not there.

Ds is over his chest infection and the thrush has cleared up. He's still waking at least 3 times in the night (counting after I go to bed at 10ish) and is difficult to put down in the evening.
DH has annoyed me this evening, apparently he wasn't going to help at bath time because "he'd looked after ds all day and wanted 5 minutes to himself". I spent 8months looking after my ds 24/7, DH would be in his study all day only coming out for meals. And DH brought ds to see me for lunch! I didn't say anything because I've had a stressful day at work and didn't want an argument.

@MummyCuddlesSolveEverything not sure I got this right? Your husband took DS to see you at work at lunch time??! What for?
@Meepmoop that makes me so nervous! Is he feeling better from his cold?
Well, in here it's been the usual. I got frustrated because I was writing posts but unable to complete and post them and when back to it everything was gone :/
2 nights ago DD slept 2 hours in a row after crying 20/30 min! The rest was the usual smelly crap. Last night was good as well! Down at 19h,awake at 21h,22h,1h,3h,5h! Not bad! Less than 30 min crying after the 10 pm wake up.
By crying I mean I go to her in periods of time, I don't leave her to cry unattended.
Tonight. Down at 19h.awake at 18h30,and I've been stuck her for nearly an hour now... She won't settle. Seems to be having nightmares... Can such a young brain have nightmares?? So pretty sure rubbish night ahead

Why oh why oh why did I not go to bed at 8pm?? Out of nowhere ds2 just slept for 4 hours, first time in his life! I kept wanting to go to bed but was afraid I would wake him.
He's just woken for a feed now, oh my god I could have just had 4 hours sleep 😩😩😩😩

@lizzlebizzle33 every time! They know! The hours of sleep I could have had if I had believed that DD would sleep. Over Christmas I remember I spent 3h in a chair in front of the fireplace, making time on my phone, because I thought she would wake up soon. Soon lasted 3h!! I was so upset I didn't actually do something with my life or have a stretch in the couch... But then the days I try... As soon as I approach my bed or fall asleep, there she is!!

@Bartos he's much better thank you, still not sure if I'm ready to give it ago yet. Did you're night get better?

I've done that many times @lizzlebizzle33 I've given up trying to guess now and just go to bed after an hour.

I've got a dilemma DS went down for a late nap and is still asleep. I'm lying on the grass outside enjoying doing nothing in the fresh air (ignoring some very noisy power tools and the dog burying me under toys as I'm ignoring him) do I wake him up so he goes bed earlier or enjoy my outside time and have him up all evening?

Well he woke up so that was the end of that.

I think we need a new thread, anyone got a catchy name for it? I'm not very creative!

bartos me and DH used to meet once a week for lunch before Ds was born. On Fridays by Ds has a swimming class just before lunch about 5minutes from the office (they drive passed on the way home). I enjoy seeing them both, it's just annoying that he plays the ' I've been looking after him all day' card so he can get out of doing anything when I get home. Even though when I was on mat leave I did everything, all day.

Lizzle happens every time, I get so annoyed that I wasted my chance but you never can tell.

New thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/3286710-we-re-still-not-sleeping

Can anyone help? My nearly 18 month old still does not sleep through the night she can wake up several times and sometimes for 3 hour intervals. I've tried everything from comfort to leaving her to cry. Im 6 months pregnant with my second and also work full time. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Try posting on the new thread linked above @Lozzame this one is full!