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first night of cc.dont shout at me but i want support

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kittypants · 02/05/2007 20:25

ds is 16 months.up untill 8 months slept great,then stopped!then we coslept till just over 1 year which was great but didnt last as we all seemed to wake each other.we also tried pu pd which was great for a bit but also didnt last.then i just conditioned myself to hourly waking,only falling to sleep which bottle no matter the time.but now hes drinking 4 pints of milk a day not eating because hes full on milk but waking all night for more milk as its not enough.i think hes also comforted by the sucking.
so tonight we did usual bedtime routine.quiet time,bath,bottle(but this time on bed not in cot),story and bed-but i took bottle out with me.i went in after 2,4,6,8 minutes then every 8 minutes after that as i think thats my limit that i can cope with.it took 1 hour in all but hes sleeping cuddling his sleepy cow.i want to hear positive stories to keep me going in early hours of morning!!!please dont anyone tell me off etc,i need support.

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SoMuchToBits · 10/05/2007 16:31

How is your ds today kittypants? Hope he is better.

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kittypants · 12/05/2007 09:14

hes much better-back to normal.thanks
so were starting again with the sleep!hes still been going to bed with no bottle fine and cries for 2 minutes is resettled and then off to sleep and is ok doing this a bit in night but by 1am i give him bottle-mummy giving in to poorly baby!so ive got that to sort!wont start till tomorrow night as have rare night out planned tonight and dh wont do it.

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kittypants · 21/05/2007 13:05

right am reading to start again.had enough-need sleep!

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lilysma · 21/05/2007 20:42

Help, I need some support. First night of cc and she's been going for an hour an 10 minutes. Mainly grizzling but sometimes starts shouty crying and a bit of screaming. The grizzling sounds quite sad . Somebody tell me this will end soon! She's 6 months old btw and I just got to the end of my rope this weekend with 2 hourly wakings and GW not working and decided to do it. Dh and I are alternating going in every 10 mins. I am finding the expression of relief on her face when I go in very hard. She just doesn't seem to be stopping

cruisemum1 · 21/05/2007 21:35

she will lilysma, she will. First night always the worst. She has a lot of adapting to do....bless her little cottons

SoMuchToBits · 21/05/2007 21:39

Good luck for tonight kittypants, and I hope you make some progress soon lilysma - it's hard to start with, but does get better.

lilysma · 21/05/2007 21:54

Shit, she cried for an hour and a half and then went quiet, so I assume she had gone to sleep, but now she's crying again after 45 mins of silence . God, is it going to go on like this all night? I'm so scared it's not going to work and I'm putting her through it all for nothing...

katelyle · 21/05/2007 21:59

lilysmama - do bear in mind that lots of people think that 6 months is too young for cc - the person who devised it said that it was only suitable from 12 months.

SoMuchToBits · 21/05/2007 22:04

I think that can sometimes happen lilysma, as they go to sleep, and then wake up again in the part of their sleep cycle which is quite shallow. This may happen a few times before she learns to get to sleep by herself. But it's up to you whether you want to continue with it. If you really want it to work, though, it's best to be consistent. Hope you get it sorted.

lilysma · 21/05/2007 22:04

Hmm, not really what I want to hear right now, if I'm honest. Also I can't actually find any published source that repeats this 'only suitable for over 1 year olds' business. It just seems to be floating around on mumsnet. But maybe you can correct me. lots of people I know have done cc with much younger babies - i.e. 2-3 months. I have held out as long as I could but am beginning to get depressed due to 3 months of two hourly wakings and unsuccessful attempts at ncss, GW etc etc! Will keep all posted.

SoMuchToBits · 21/05/2007 22:05

FWIW we did it with ds when he was younger than your dd. He is now a very happy 6 yr old, with good sleep habits.

lilysma · 21/05/2007 22:05

She seems to have settled again for now after a visit at 3 mins and then one at 5. Fingers crossed. I'm going to feed her when she wakes after 11 as she's not fully weaned yet so I don't expect her to go right through the night. Will try to put her down awake afterwards tho!

lilysma · 21/05/2007 22:07

BTW, am I supposed to check her when she goes quiet to ensure that she's safely asleep? I assume not as I might wake her, but others have posted someting that suggests this is what you do. A bit confused tbh!

lilysma · 21/05/2007 22:08

final ps, thanks for all your encouragement everyone!

SoMuchToBits · 21/05/2007 22:14

I didn't go and check ds when we were doing it, if I couldn't hear anything on the baby monitor. Well, I would go in if he had been quiet for a long time, but not after just a few minutes, as I thought it might be enough to disturb him.

DaddyJ · 21/05/2007 23:14

lilysma, I was waiting to see which thread you would eventually settle for

Sounds like a very encouraging start!

It was the same with our ds,
1 hour 15 minutes of crying followed by 30 min sleep, then she woke up for more crying.

Only the very first time, though, with every successive time the protest crying gets less and less
(if it does not after 3-4 days, a softer version could be helpful).

Hope the 11pm feed (about now, right?) and the CC afterwards goes well.

Good strategy that, you can certainly do sleep training without aiming for sleeping through.

Best of luck!

lilysma · 22/05/2007 00:47

Thanks Daddy J and somuchtobits. She woke again at 12 so I bfed her for 15 mins until she just seemed to be sleeping on the boob and then put her back in bed. She woke up and has been crying for 10 mins so far . It is harder in the middle of the night .

lilysma · 22/05/2007 01:49

I seem to be the only one in the world awake . She has now gone quiet after another hour of crying . I'm going to try to get some sleep now before the next awakening...

Albert · 22/05/2007 01:52

I'm here and DS is a surviver of CC. It was a nightmare but I persisted. First night was totally horrendous but by night 3 we had just about cracked it. This was many years ago as DS is now 7 and sleeps like a log. Hang on in there, it really is worth it and it does work.

cruisemum1 · 22/05/2007 07:59

lilysma - thinking of you. hope your lo settled down eventually. she is bound to resist any change. But you are doing her an enormous justice by letting her learn to sleep through. She will be happier, more able to cope in the day and better able to thrive and learn

lilysma · 22/05/2007 08:23

Thanks all for your support. She woke again after 3 hours and cried for another half hour before sleeping another 2 hours til 7.15. So basically her usual waking pattern with decreasing crying bouts. I didn't sleep a wink until about 6 though . It seems it was me that needed the sleep training and weaning from her. The two small mercies that I'm grateful for are: 1) She greeted me with a big smile this morning 2) She didn't scream much, just cried, and cried and cried. The bad bit is that she ended up crying for a total of 3 and a half hours over the whole night, which is loads more than anyone else I've heard about. Do you think this is okay?! Not sure what to expect tonight, but assume I have to carry on as last night now that I've started...

cruisemum1 · 22/05/2007 10:56

you boith did really well lilysma,. more later, ds wriggling

cruisemum1 · 22/05/2007 10:56

you boith did really well lilysma,. more later, ds wriggling

DaddyJ · 22/05/2007 18:17

lilysma, no that sounds about right, the first few nights are very exhausting for both!

Things get briefly worse before they get better (much better ), you are doing well, though.
Stay cool, calm, composed and give it two/three more nights, then take stock.

Good luck tonight!

SoMuchToBits · 22/05/2007 18:21

Glad you managed last night OK. I hope tonight will be a bit easier, it should be hopefully. It is hard to start with, but I found it got better quite quickly, so hope it's the same for you. I also carried on doing a late night feed (usually at about 10.30), and ds would just go straight to sleep afterwards. All the best for tonight.