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sleepycat13 · 14/01/2018 21:20

@Nicellen glad you have been able to talk to dh and hv and that they have been understanding. it's so hard having a newborn at times. I hope you manage to have a half decent night too.

ds has just fallen asleep whilst dh was giving him his bedtime bottle and he managed to transfer him to his crib too. that never happens. i normally end up feeding him to sleep on the boob for at least half hour. so with that im in bed aans hoping I can fall asleep too. annoyingly though I seem to be able to pass out whilst feeding in the middle of the night yet at all other times I just can't shut off.

dh has been in the spare room for the last few nights as I had two weeks of sleepless nights with ds and reached breaking point and dh was just driving me insane. so looking forward to yet again being able to starfish in my king size bed!! must not get too used to this...

Zampa · 14/01/2018 21:25

After her midnight bedtime last night, DD1 is currently screaming herself breathless in her room, whilst OH sits with her. Attempting to get her to sleep in her cot as otherwise she'll co-sleep forever!

DD2 being well behaved in comparison.

Meepmoop · 14/01/2018 21:35

Why does DS wait until I'm just falling into a proper sleep to wake up! It's actual torture

NinaMarieP · 14/01/2018 22:13

I'm not hopeful for a rerun but hey anything is possible!

He's had more time on the boob today so more milk in and hopefully that means he will last a nice long time but you know what there like for just making it up as they go along. They don't obey any sort of rules or patterns or logic!!

Good luck everyone for tonight!

PodgeBod · 14/01/2018 22:19

Can I join? I need somewhere to talk about DDs sleep and eyes glaze over in real life.
She's 16 months, breastfed, has never slept through the night. Her sleep is actually getting worse in that she used to sleep in her cot (even though she woke every couple of hours) but now will not settle after her first wake up unless she comes into my bed. She will not sleep for anyone else. She just wants to be on the boob all night and I'm really sick of it. She scratches, kicks, tweaks the nipple of the boob she's not feeding on, bites... it keeps me up .
I'm trying to night wean in the hopes that it will lead to her sleeping through the night but prepared for a rough time of it.
I also have an almost 3 year old who sleeps really well but needs a happy and well rested mother, not a tired grump.

UtterlyConfused111 · 14/01/2018 23:16

The next 8 hour torture shift begins....(known as the night for many)

I do enjoy this thread. I think a non sleeping book/tv club sounds great....I too have been reading a lot while burping and feeding baby all hours of the night.,.

I am currently waiting for baby to burp. I am thinking perhaps the farting/squirming all night might be helped by winding more, so I decided to do this more thoroughly now and lo and behold... 20 minutes later and there is STILL no fecking burp. Gah.

Breaking bad is great as is black mirror. Currently watching Peaky blinders. Cillian Murphy was described to me as “sex on legs” in this. Yup.

Not sure how the night will go either. Let’s see. In laws still here and and still making a racket; they closed the door and got the light pull tangled in it (how bloody hard is it to close a door?!) but she was awake anyway so it didn’t care. I’m now praying they have a restful night too! Just one more night of them though.

@meepmoop
I swear - it’s like she knows. As I fall asleep ten minutes after a feed; she wakes up again... just as I am nodding off. It is torture.

@ninamariep
Well done! Woo hoo! Hopefully it returns. At least it means baby is CAPABLE of it. End at the light of the non sleeping tunnel for you I hope.

UtterlyConfused111 · 14/01/2018 23:17

Seriously, where is this burp?!
She’s farting away though, like fireworks going off in bottom half of that sleeping bag.

Meepmoop · 14/01/2018 23:46

Just had a call to say my Grandad has passed away, only 13 days after his wife. He was in hospital but he's the type of person who was going to battle on for ages.

DS won't stay in his cot but he's being very snuggly which is lovely.

sleepycat13 · 14/01/2018 23:51

@PodgeBod welcome to club no one wants to be in. you are ok good company. I can relate to the boob pulling. that's all ds does whenever we cosleep which is why i mostly try to avoid it, but then the alternative can be no sleep... sigh

ds is awake. first sleep is always the longest and every sleeo after that is more of a nap. having a first wake at this time is bad news

sleepycat13 · 14/01/2018 23:52

@Meepmoop I'm sorry for your loss. that's really sad news. I hope you are ok

Zampa · 15/01/2018 00:55

Sorry for your losses @Meepmoop. Losing two people in quick succession must be very difficult. I hope that they both got to meet your lo.

First wake up here. Usually I don't go to bed until midnight but tried an early night for once. Result was an additional three hours sleep! Hoping DD2 feeds and resettles easily.

All quiet from DD1's room. Wondering if OH got her to sleep or gave up and is co-sleeping in the spare room ...

PodgeBod · 15/01/2018 00:56

@Meepmoop I'm so sorry to hear about your grandad

We're on our second wake up now. DD is confused and angry and keeps trying to forcibly gain access to the breast. I've told her they have gone to sleep.
Unsupportive partner keeps moaning that he has work in the morning. It was ok for me to have broken sleep when I was working, though may well smother him by morning and then he won't have to worry about being tired at work

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Jellybean2017 · 15/01/2018 02:07

to you meepmoop, I'm sorry to hear that.

Welcome @podgebod, hope you manage to get some rest soon (and resist smothering DH 😂)

Bad night here. He wouldnt settle for hours and has been awake about four or five times since 9. I've given up counting. Annoyingly I just changed his nappy and he was all smiley so I had to try to ignore him and not make eye contact. As he was so happy I thought I'd just lay him in his Next2Me and try to sleep, but obviously he started crying within thirty seconds and is now back on the boob. Sigh

Hope everyone else is sleeping soundly 😴

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Zampa · 15/01/2018 02:16

Have been up for 90 minutes with DD2 but she's rewarded me with some of her first proper smiles and some nice chat, as well as a cleavage vomit.

She's just fallen asleep on me so attempting a transfer ...

Good luck Jelly.

sleepycat13 · 15/01/2018 02:51

as predicted it's a bad night. on wake 4 or 5. I have also lost count. not sure o can handle another 5 hours of waking every half hour

UtterlyConfused111 · 15/01/2018 03:03

@meepmoop
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you’re ok.

@podgebod
Welcome to the club :-(
There has been some earlier chat on this thread about hitting DHs with a spade so sympathise with the desire to smother him. If it helps mine sleeps in the bedroom to preserve his sleep; I sleep/cosleep in a single bed in the nursery with the baby and he hasn’t done a single wake up or night with DD1 or DD2 ever. Yet he is strangely tired and had a two hour nap today. Grrrrrr.

And .... another bad night here too.
Ive hit a new low though. She’s had her first long sleep of the night and now she’s awake... she’s not going back to sleep now for another 2/3 hours by which time DD1 will be awake so I’ve given up. I’ve put her in the sling and made a cup of tea and toast and started putting away the laundry - at least this way I can get a hot cup of tea and breakfast which is hard when DD1 is up. It’s 3am. Happy days.

NinaMarieP · 15/01/2018 03:12

Sorry for your loss, @Meepmoop.

As expected sleeping through was a one off fluke. But he went to 3am today so I can't complain too much! As he was sleeping beside my OH he didn't even need his dummy once between 10 and 3. Of course!! But when he sleeps beside me he thrashes around every hour!

And seriously @UtterlyConfused111 your DH thinks that parenting, or rather fathering, is a day time only role???

sleepycat13 · 15/01/2018 03:15

@UtterlyConfused111 I can relate to having tea and toast now!! ds is awake again and smiling at me
I really don't want to wake myself up anymore by getting up and as dh has gone to spare room I resent moving to the sofa and leaving our comfy bed empty. but I am also so fed up of sitting in bed and feeling like it's groundhog day.

Catscatsandmorecats · 15/01/2018 03:33

@meepmoop I'm so sorry about your Grandad, I hope you are ok.

@utterlyconfused111 you have my sympathy, tea sounds ridiculously tempting.

@podgebod. Hello! There are a few of us her with older siblings who could really do with parents who are a bit less sleep deprived.

We're on feed three here, which isn't too bad but between 2 and three I have been up with DS1 for two hours. He's really out of sorts at the moment and sleep is a real issue, I'm going to a behaviour clinic this week to see if they have any ideas.

I'm also up for a TV club - the new season of black mirror was brilliant, the last one was particularly dark with great references back to earlier in the series and previous series too.

Sakura03 · 15/01/2018 03:44

Just lost my entire post....

Sakura03 · 15/01/2018 03:53

Meepmoop so sorry for your loss.
Crap night here... 22 and 57 minutes sleep...... I'm knackered...
I knew it was too good to be true having slept 4.5 hrs last night and then we were out and about today where he had 2 long stretches of sleep. Sofa bed not comfortable...

88mph · 15/01/2018 04:07

Hello, I'm new on the forum but definitely not new to this club. My oldest sleeps through the night unless he needs a wee. The youngest is coming up 18 months and still wakes every 2 hours!

When he's teething it's every bloody hour. He's at this stage of not wanting to feed to sleep but not being able to settle himself which just results in many tears and even less sleep! For the last couple of hours he won't even settle next to me. I've given up trying. I'm at the point where I'm so done in I can't even get upset about it, I'm that drained.

I remember when he was a few months old thinking it would get better, he'll start sleeping longer, it will go the way it should. Nope. 18 months and still sleeping worse than a newborn.

Sorry. I'm just having a moan. But it's nice to know there's some solidarity here!

HashtagTired · 15/01/2018 04:08

@Meepmoop sorry for your losses

Better night here. Totally going to jinx it by writing this but he's just woken for his first feed. Dh brought him to to me at midnight so I don't actually know how long he's gone but happy he gave me these hours. Two nights in a row! Makes a huge difference from the hourly wake ups we've been having of recent weeks. I've no doubt it will return to 'normal' again soon but really really hoping this is just the other side of the 4 month regression (he's 19 weeks).

First day in a crèche tomorrow! Well, it's an hour. And I'll prob stay with him for a few mins. Then pick him up early. Maybe I'll just stay with him the entire hour 🤦‍♀️

PodgeBod · 15/01/2018 04:31

UtterlyConfused a 3am start to the day is rough hoping things get better for you soon.
It took ages to get DD2 to sleep and I was just enjoying a bit of sleep myself when DD1 decided to join the party. Now sleeping the wrong way up clutching the edge of the bed with no blanket. I would take them downstairs but I really don't want to wake DD2.

PodgeBod · 15/01/2018 04:52

It's all over, everybody's up except for DP