The great non-sleepers - the sequel

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New thread!

Almost hourly wake ups here from DD2. My eyes feel like theta tenfold with sand and DD1 will probably be up soon.

Last week DD2 had 2 nights in a row where she did 8.5 hours stretches!!! Now I'm thanking my lucky stars if she does 2!

@sakura03, it was really nice. however, it's rare to get a stretch over 4 hours, and even rarer to get one over night when I can sleep.

Good luck with the hip scan today @WhoAteAllthePercyPigs feel free to ask me any questions x

Grrrr my boobs woke me up at 2am while DD was still fast on. I fed her while she was still sleeping 😂 (don't ask how that happened). She woke up at 5am, so she slept for 8hrs, then another 2.5
Oh, and she lasted 1hr in the cot. I strangely missed for that hour she spent in there...

As for drinking while bf...I haven't had a drink since October 2016 😣 We co-sleep, I don't want it to affect my supply or harm DD due to her gastric problems. I would probably pass out after a glass of wine anyway.

same here about alcohol. I have had a few nights where I have had a drink since ds born. on new years eve i even had 3/4 bottle of prosecco but I had pumped enough milk to bottle feed that night just incase it had an effect. to be honest though I haven't really wanted much more than a couple as I found it went to my head and the thought of dealing with the sleepless nights whilst hungover put me off the idea. a glass or two though has been bloody enjoyable. what I did find annoying though was other people's comments and judgements. most people were fine/not bothered but did get an odd few 'you will make the baby drunk' type remarks which whilst probably intended to be harmless, annoyed me in my sleep deprived hormonal state and took the enjoyment out.

when i was just getting to breaking point ds has been kind and given me two better nights. he managed a 4.5 hour stretch followed by 3 x 1 hour sleeps after that with about half hour feeds inbetween each one. so I probably clocked up 6 ish hours of broken sleep in total after falling back asleep myself. long way off sleeping through but I can handle that.

dh has also been in the spare room the last two nights as bless him he has been 'tired and needed some rest!!! yeh take one day I what I have and then you will know tired!
we both don't want to get into the habit of sleeping in separate beds but it does make me wonder whether these better nights are just coincidence... I have certainly found it easier to get back to sleep after feeds without dh snoring or taking up my space in the bed!

Sorry to hear that so many have partners that really don’t get just how exhausting it can be looking after a baby all day by yourself, especially on little to no sleep!

I’ve not had a drink yet whilst breastfeeding, don’t think for any particular reason other than I think one drink and I’d be gone - I too was told though that as long as your sober enough to hold/look after baby then you’re fine regarding breastfeeding, but it’s one of those things depending on who you speak or what research you read.

We had an ok night last night; slept 9:45-1:30, fed and resettled. He then slept til 7:30....he was a bit moany at points and needed comforting but much better than the previous nights!

Yeah, not such a good night here either, with baby waking up every 2 hours and fussing :( he'll be 16 weeks on Monday, could it be the dreaded sleep regression? I hope not...

I haven't had a drink yet for about a year and tbh don't even miss it. We co-sleep so drinking would make it unsafe. And I'm tired enough as it is, alcohol would just make me sleepier.

DS will be 5 months next week - how did that happen??

Last night he was awake every hour wanting to feed, it's so knackering. I read all this stuff about how babies should be able to drop some night feeds now but he is genuinely hungry when he wakes up!

I like to have a couple of drinks on weekend evenings with my DH and I'm EBF - it's a treat for me and the amounts that go into breastmilk are vanishingly small. Mind you I also had a glass of wine or two while pregnant, I felt like the risk was very small.
It's so true though that I'm a much cheaper date these days - one gin and tonic is enough for me!!

DD1 is at nursery and DD2 is sleeping. I SHOULD be spending this golden precious time to sort laundry and clean the bathroom

BUT

I'm having a hot cuppa and eating a whole bag of some mini eggs.

@sleepisfortheweek there's no should about it - you need to take the opportunity to rest and that's that! I'm cracked open my box of Ferrero rochers I got for Christmas while DS naps and before we pick DD up from nursery.

DS had his hip scan today and all looked as it should. Thanks for your support @otherendofthesockportal. How's your DD getting on with her harness?

DH took DS this morning while I got sleep so he's out of the dog house

SleepForTheWeek Enjoy!!! I've just put a wash on and "should" hoover and clean the flat but I've just come back from a long walk with ds in the pram and guess what I'm sat down with a cuppa and a cookie. I've decide I will get off my backside by 4 pm and put ds in a sling while I get the housework done. Im only doing it because I've got a friend coming tomorrow- dp is quite good at doing it on Saturday mornings bit I'd like it done today. By the way I've only got one child so you've definitely earned the break😉
WhoAteAllthePercyPigs I love Ferrero Rocher😊

I still have leftovers of my birthday cake - time for some chocolate indulgence I think

I've also been cleaning! We are veritable super women!

Just letting DD2 feed and then going for a walk to the supermarket for a Friday night treat for the DSC.

My LO has been playing in his cot while I sort out his room. He has sooo much he has grown out of and I've been trying to sort it into 'keep' and 'donate' piles. The donate pile is bigger but the keep pile is probably too big still!

It's just as well he will be in a sleeping bag when he eventually goes into the big cot because he has now learned to roll over and was all over the place and getting stuck. He can roll front to back, and has done for ages, but now if he rolls back to front he can't seem to get back.

@Nina my DD is the same. She can roll both ways, but she fusses as soon as she gets fed up with being on her tummy

Same problem here with not rolling from his stomach to back. He actually did it earlier, only once though.

Everything is sleeping in my house but me. I'm stuck under DS and DH is sleeping on the sofa. I'm sooo hungry and there's no tea cooking I've been poking DH with the remote but can't get him to wake up

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs great news about your DS :) my DD will probably be in the harness for a bit longer. I'm glad it's on this time of the year as she gets a bit sweaty underneath it, I can only imagine that would be worse in the summer. She doesn't notice the harness though which is all good.

I wrote a really long post while at the hairdressers earlier but lost it! It was the first time I'd been able to catch up and had hands free to write anything. DS1 and DS2 between them have been limiting my sleep to around three hours in dribs and drabs but I can't even play on my phone, DS2 is getting super fussy feeding and DS1 will nick it.

Those with two waves to sleepfortheweek - how do you manage when they both need you at the same time and you can't physically do it? DS1 is very unsettled and clingy to me so only I will do to settle him, read him to sleep, help him in the night etc etc. And DS2 is an ebf bottle refuser so barring winding there's nothing DH can do to help overnight either. I want to help DS1 feel more settled and be happier with DH settling him and I'd like DS2 to take some expressed milk in a bottle but nothing seems to be working.

Good tactics tonight meant both were down by 7.15, we now wait to see if DS2 has had enough milk to get past one sleep cycle and if DS1 will sleep through and stay in his own room. I really hope so, I'm at my wit's end, even after a lovely day with lots of help

@meepmoop I hope you've woken your DH now!

@ninamariep that's quite impressive!

@whoateallthepercypigs
Great news about your LO, that must be a relief!

Fingers crossed for a better nights sleep far all. I’m pie eyed with envy for anyone with 3hours+, I’m hoping she manages that soon. It’s the gas... ! She keeps farting herself away lol

I agree with everyone else here, that a moderate amount of alcohol doesn’t enter the breastmilk so it’s fine. The problem is the lack of sleep! I am now FF for the last week and I still wouldn’t drink - I’m already so tired that a glass of wine would see me passed out on the table, snoring....
gah
DD awake nooooooooo
Nooooooo...

That was meant to be “Fart herself awake...” !

@Catscatsandmorecats it can be quite difficult. DD1 is definitely more clingy to me, she was bf until 2 and only I could settle her during the night but from age 1 me and DH took turn about putting her to bed and although she prefers me doing it she settles fine for him now. Since having DD2 she has also accepted DH more during the night and for helping her do things after a couple months of hell to begin with.

DD2 is ebf and although she's a rubbish sleeper she's quite a laid back baby and luckily DH can rock her to sleep during the night or at bedtime, as long as she's been fed.

If I'm feeding DD2 during the night and DD1 wants me she just comes into the bed and cuddles in and goes back to sleep on a good night, but in the first couple of months there was tears and tantrums.

We basically just take it a day at a time, DD2 is nearly 7 months now and it's definitely easier now

@cats I must admit we're lucky in that DD will settle for DH. In fact, only he will do at bedtime! It started once I stopped breastfeeding her; DH felt bad that he'd not been able to help at night so started doing bedtime with her. We used to take it in turns but once I got pregnant he took over. It has worked out well as it means he does bedtime now with her so there's been no disruption to her routine.

If she needs me while I'm feeding or comforting DS, I try and get her involved 'come and help me comfort your brother, come and get cuddles while I feed him.' Mind you, I'm well aware that as with everything, this is just a phase and she may well start acting differently!

Checking in for the night shift! Here's hoping our babies are kind tonight. I'm hoping for a couple of hours of sleep on my own in the morning as it's Saturday! Good luck everyone!

Taking DSD to ballet in the am so an early start for me. Hoping DD2 is well behaved tonight as no chance of a lie in.