The great non-sleepers - the sequel

[Jellybean2017]

New thread!

Hi all
Can I join?
My DD has gone from doing one 5/6 hour stretch and another 3/4 hours to doing only 3/4 hours then another 2. Obviously even though it's just an hour, 5/6 hours is what I am aiming for!
She is apparently in a "wonder week" this week and she is very clingy and cranky.
Anyone else experienced this?
Hoping next week I get some more sleep but I have a niggling feeling I'm in it for the long haul

Thank you UtterlyConfused111 we’ve just got back home, I’m glad it was really quick and only a small bleed, given exercises to do with ds.

@kimchilala how old is your LO?

DS just had a three hour nap...he was obviously catching up on all the sleep he missed last night. They say sleep breads sleep right? Maybe we’ll get done more sleep tonight!

Right...I think we've had a successful transfer. I had lined the cot with a thin fleecy blanket (no loose edges). Not sure it's recommended, but DD won't be any hotter than snuggles up next to me and she's asleep. She has stirred a couple of times, buy I manages to shush her back to sleep.

I really need to check spelling before I press POST.

Sleepless she is 14 weeks, but according to due date in her third leap.

I am hoping it is the leap and not the 4 month regression come early.

Or it is actually one of these and it's not just that she's sleeping badly at the moment.

Kimchi I am afraid sleel regression came at 12 weeks for us 😭 DD started doing 5-6 hr stretches and all of a sudden refused to sleep in the cot at all.

My DS is 14 weeks too @kimchilala and very similar to your DD, he was sleeping great and then just stopped. Starting waking up loads and generally being unsettled. I had hoped it was the third leap but pretty sure it’s the 4 month sleep regression come early! Is you DD bf? Apparently around this period they also can go through a fussy stage with upping supply which can also impact on their sleep. It never rains but it pours I find....

@AMagdalena
Well done for extending maternity leave! I’m guessing you feel a lot better for it. I’m finishing off bf to go back to work and it’s very hard.
@zampa
Yeah my DH is exhausted inspite of sleeping till 10 every weekend. Although he is learning not to say so to me! He’s not had much of a role model in his family - boarding school at a young age and no dad around. But, I guess I’m saying this because I’m so tired and I just want a few hours of sleep.... my mother used to say that ... “the women is always inferior in every couple, it’s just the degree of inferiority that changes...”
it’s depressing and cynical and after 15 weeks without sleep while DH watches telly all evening and sleeps in... it feels true.

I think it’s the sleep regression! I’m just so tired

I'm going to join you all if you don't mind??

DD2 is almost 7 months, started out a promising sleeper but now it's all gone to shit.

DD1 is 3 and still doesn't sleep through the night - joys!

DD2 was sleeping about 8.45, that's her stirring now and if I'm lucky she'll be up every 2 hours for a quick feed. If I'm unlucky she'll be up as bright as a button for a couple hours during the night, maybe twice.

Good job she's cute!

So DS is on half hour wake ups!!
Going to be a very long night.

Welcome @SleepForTheWeek hope it's a lucky night for you

@Zampa @UtterlyConfused111 I'm feeling hugely annoyed with DH this evening. Apparently he is exceptionally tired today and he didn't get to have a lunch break at work. I would like to know when I get a 45min - 1 hour lunch break with toilet breaks whenever I want. Maybe it's my own fault for not resting when DD sleeps, but there is always bottles to be washed/sterilised, clothes to be washed and toys etc to be put away.

Hi all. Sorry just catching up now! Lots to to take in and my tired brain isn't capable...

Another one annoyed with their DH! So because we have a hospital appointment for DS to get his hip scanned tomorrow, DH is taking time off to.come with us and will be working from home tomorrow morning. I suggested that he could help with the morning routine and maybe take DS an hour in the morning so I can get some sleep after a very bad week. His response? 'Er I was hoping to have some chill out time.' What wouldn't I give for some 'chill out' time?! All I'm asking is support for an hour after a week where I've been solely on night duty! Havent expected him to do anything because he's been at work.

I think they just don't get what it's like to be sleep deprived and have to keep going every day. My DH thinks that because I'm not at work, the lack of sleep doesn't really matter as I can rest during the day. True, I can rest for a bit -:when DS lets me. And of course I'm grateful not to be at work. But continued lack of sleep really takes its toll, especially when you're in sole charge of a vulnerable young human!

Hope the night has improved for everyone. First wake up here at 1.15 so not too bad. But DS showing no sign of wanting to go back down...

Feed #1 has commenced after 2 hrs sleep. I didn’t think ds would last that long when I put him down as he’d been cat napping all evening faaling asleep on the boob so I’m happy with 2 hrs, now can we try for 3 hrs when we go back to sleep ds?
We’re going to have a quiet day, hopefully a walk with ds in his pram in the morning, then put him in the sling while I do house work. Saturday I’ve got a friend coming, she’s booked into my friends b&b as we unfortunately have nowhere for her to stay. We’ll be out doing touristy things and we’d normally go to the picture house cinema (where you can enjoy a glass of wine with your film) but I guess with ds in-tow cinema isn’t an option so have got to think of other things to do for both Saturday and Sunday... and places to eat, first time ds will be out a lot.

Can't believe what some of you put up with from your OHs! Can they really be so dense and/or selfish that they believe that their life can stay exactly the same once a baby arrives???

Oh can I ask you guys a question please? Alcohol when bf, I haven’t had any since before I got pregnant with ds and I just assumed it’s a big no no when bf but a couple of friends have told me that they used to have the odd glass of wine when they had their kids and were bf. Is that okay? I can easily go without but my friend enjoys her alcohol and I guess a glass of wine with dinner would be quite nice. I should probably check the official recommendations😊

You'd have to be so drunk you'd be passed out before any alcohol would pass onto your baby.

It's far more about being sober enough to care for your LO. You can't cosleep if you've had a drink (not sure if there's a 'it's ok after so many hours' like if it had been at lunch time. And there's always a possibility that alcohol could affect your supply.

I've not had a drink yet mostly because I always think 'I'll have a soft drink first then maybe a Malibu,' and I just forget or don't get around to it. Not at all bothered though! Haven't had a drink since a couple of weeks before I got my positive test and that was only because it was my engagement party. I don't really drink at home as I just don't like wine!

As Nina says, you're fine to have a drink as long as you're not getting smashed - and yes co sleeping is a no no.

I love my wine, and missed it during pregnancy. I have had the occasional glass since, but it makes me so sleepy it just isn't worth it. I'll probably drink more once DS is a bit older (and I'm getting more sleep!). Do have a glass or two and enjoy it guilt free!

I've had a drink whilst breast feeding but have found that when I do, lo is far fussier on the breast. I might be imagining it but I think it might have something to do with the letdown. Therefore, I try and keep consumption infrequentbut sometimes after the toddler has had a strop, a glass of wine is nice!

And we’re awake again after 40 minutes... what is that about??
Thanks for the comments guys re alcohol, I’ll see how I feel, I might not actually fancy a drink but it’s just nice to know that it’s okay. When I was pregnant over the summer I frequently fancied a g&t but obviously didn’t have any, it was strange though because I’ve never been much of a drinker...

Hey everyone. Sorry been a bit quiet but have had some relatively decent nights with only two or three quick wake ups. Actually feeling quite human so I am enjoying it while it lasts.

Sorry to hear so many of you have to put up with such thoughtless comments from partners. If only they could swap roles for a day, I'm sure they'd understand then how we are all "working" 24/7 with no breaks and little downtime!

I've had the odd glass of wine while bf too and all OK 😊

Hope everyone is getting some sleep!

Hi, everyone. Like Jellybean, I've had a few good nights recently and haven't been on my phone much. Tonight had been quite good, Dd gave me a 6 hour stretch without eating, so I just got 5 continuous hour of sleep! This really helps make up for last night which was pretty bad and she was very clingy today (so no good nap for me).

Dh also accomplished the miraculous task of carrying a sleeping Dd upstairs in her Moses basket, putting on her sleeping bag, and transferring her to her cot all without waking her!

I've had drinks since Dd was born, but infrequently and never more than two in a night. I was told by a midwife "if you're sober enough to hold the baby, you're sober enough to bf".

Awake again after 1 1/2 hour... not a great night at all but then I guess as we’ve been doing alright for a while (although never had long stretches of sleep like you actino, that must be amazing, I count myself lucky when I get 3 hours in one stretch).