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SleeplessInSc0tlNd · 10/01/2018 20:49

@sleepycat13 very similar here. Sleeps well in sling/car/pram when our walking (easily 1-2 hour naps) but otherwise it’s little naps post feed which can last anywhere from a few minutes to 20 minutes at most.
I’ve done that a few times too, only feed off the one boob through the night so the other one is full for expressing (usually end up in a wet patch of my own milk despite breast pads ) but only really expressed on days when I’ve thought it would be easier to take a bottle rather than feed, so I don’t have any routine with it.

AMagdalena · 10/01/2018 20:56

I wish my DH could help out more at night. Unfortunately, DD is a bottle refuser only resettled by the boob (rarely by rocking), so DH only does nappy changes at the weekend. No point in him being awaky any more.

So I have now decided to extend my maternity by the additional 3 unpaid month ans breastfees for as long as I can. I had originally planned on stopping at 6 months.

theotherendofthesockportal · 10/01/2018 22:34

My DH does not help at all at night. I resent him for this, he works with dangerous machinery so needs his sleep. I keep telling myself that this won't be forever and one day I will get a good night sleep again.

@user1489931797 my DD has reflux and is much better since being prescribed omeprazole, although she acts like we are trying to poison her when we administer it to her. I also found the probiotic drops that @Ven83 recommended to be a huge help, they stop her being constipated.

The other thing that helped sleep wise was buying a swing. I fear the day it runs out of batteries. She now has all her day time naps in the magic swing that saved my sanity.

SleeplessInSc0tlNd · 11/01/2018 00:53

So DS was fed and asleep for 9:45pm, out like a light. He’s now been awake since 12:15, just wanting to play and make noise. It’s going to be a rough night.....

Meepmoop · 11/01/2018 01:18

Not a good night here. DS is waking up every hour, still keeps rolling on his front. DH has come back from work with an upset stomach so can't help.
Well he's helped by going in the spare room so DS can come in with me.
Struggling to get him to settle in with me though

HashtagTired · 11/01/2018 01:40

My Our new bed arrives today! Hurrah! And dh is taking time off work to put it together. So tomorrow night I shall be sleeping in my new bed. I think I'm going to treat myself to new covers too - change the bed earlier than usual. Gotta love fresh sheets!!

Dh brought ds up to me about 00:30. Ds was wide awake 'not sure why, he's just had a bottle' I'm told.
I go to put ds in his sleeping bag and notice a small wet patch on his back from a wet nappy. I go to change him and there's a massive poo. That'll be why he's wide awake then! Full change, clothes and all, bagged, boobed and now he's fast asleep.

I'm off to sleep now too.
Catch you up at feed #2 at about, hmmmm, 2:30?

HashtagTired · 11/01/2018 01:45

@AMagdalena that's good re: mat leave. Does it feel good that you've made that decision now and that you have another 3 months?
I did 6 months with my first (i phased the return to work using my KIT days, doing 2 day weeks for a further 5 weeks, then using up holiday for 1 day a week after that).

This time, I've decided to take the full 12 months. Feels like such a long time though. I would go back at 9 months but then I would have to pay for two children in childcare over the summer holidays so decided to hold off until mid September. Actually that makes it more like 13 months leave, with the last month being holiday.

Zampa · 11/01/2018 02:37

Feed no. 1 here and delighted!

Decided to try the Cocoonababy again as it's no less safe for overnight sleeping than me falling asleep with DD2 in my arms, which was happening too often. She was then put down in it awake at 2330 last night and has only just woken up at 0230 today.

Other than 2 nights when I got 4 hours, that 3 hour stretch is the longest in 7.5 weeks.

I actually feel refreshed!

NinaMarieP · 11/01/2018 03:38

We lasted until 2.30 from a feed at the back of 7!

But he has both pooed and then puked all over himself and my bed so we are still up... swings and roundabouts eh!?

I'm taking 9 months paid (my normal wages are pretty much the same amount as statutory maternity pay so I'm not losing out, a month unpaid but doing a KIT day once a week and then four weeks holiday so I'll have been off 11 months. I came off wrk at 35.5 weeks. (2 weeks holiday then 2 weeks maternity... but came off a few days early because I went over my ankle and landed on the road on my way to work and could barely walk for the next few weeks!!)

WhoAteAllthePercyPigs · 11/01/2018 03:42

So. Fecking. Tired.

Sakura03 · 11/01/2018 05:13

Oh no WhoAteAllthePercyPigs here was hoping you were getting some sleep.
I’ve had 2 x 2 hours so far since 11pm and I’m hoping to get another 2 hours before our days starts.
Ds is booked in for tongue tie devision this afternoon, I really hope it will make things better in terms of breastfeeding.

Zampa · 11/01/2018 07:04

Slight hubris in my earlier post. Took 2 hours to settle DD2 but she did then sleep for another 2.5 hours. Hurrah for the Cocoonababy!

Never thought I'd be cheering 5.5 hours of interrupted sleep.

Meepmoop · 11/01/2018 07:53

Well I managed to get some sleep co sleeping but feel like I've failed my he's staying in his room no matter what stance. But at the end of the day I need to sleep. Definitely can tell the difference in my depth of sleep when he's in my room and when he's not

UtterlyConfused111 · 11/01/2018 08:19

Thank you for the birthday wishes!
@meepmoop
I definitely agree about the quality of sleep and I’m willing to bet there are studies done to show that cosleeping parents and babies have less deep sleep. We had a much smoother night than last night - up twice for a feed but from 5am she was really uncomfortable from gas poor thing. It’s been a consistent thing with her - she farts all night and gets really uncomfortable, squirms in her sleep and cries a little in her sleep. I had her in bed with me this morning and she finally slept... I got a few hours so feeling much better but it’s definitely not good quality sleep when she’s in bed with me. On the brighter side that’s the first time in a week I’ve done that - the whole stopping bf isn’t helped by cosleeping
Any ideas for dealing with the gas?

@sakura good luck with the tongue tie. We had it done for both and made a big difference

@whoateallthepercypigs
I was like this yesterday... I hope it’s better tonight

@theendofthesockportal
My DH hasn’t done a single night. Ever. Similar situation re you for work but even on weekends if I try to get him to help he is so “exhausted” etc that he then sleeps for the rest of the day till evening. I’d rather have him awake during the day to help with DD1 who is an active active toddler.... anyway he’s just not useful. And I’m too tired to pursue a battle and “make him help” although when he complains he’s tired during the day (because he was out drinking the night before with friends) I confess to a desire to take out a pillow and smother him.

AMagdalena · 11/01/2018 08:23

@Hashtag It does feel good to have made that decision now. I know I am not ready to leave DD and won't be in 3 months' time! Plus, I would have to stop breastfeeding which I don't want to do.

We just woke up (9.10am local time). My boobs woke me up at 2 am, then DD woke up at 7am and we just got up. Obviously, we co-slept, but I think I've gotten used to it as well.

SleeplessInSc0tlNd · 11/01/2018 08:30

So after being awake from about 12:15 to 2:30, DS eventually went back to sleep. Reminded unsettled most of the night though and proper wide awake at 6am wanting fed. Even when he was asleep I was still wide awake (typical). I swear though that DS knows just when I’m on the brink cause when I was completely exhausted feeling DS just starting laughing in his sleep (must of been dreaming of boob) and my heart melts and I think he’s just wonderful despite the sleep deprivation hope those who had a bad night manage to get some rest today, I’m hopeful for a nap!!

xxrealistmumxx · 11/01/2018 08:34

utterly my LO is the same squirming and farting and crying out and from 5am pretty much always end up being held in an upright position where he'll sleep for another hour or so. I'm just hoping things get better as his digestive system matures. He had reflux from about three weeks and only ever slept in the sling for the first four months during the day. I also had to hold him to sleep at night for the first 6 weeks or so. It's hard bloody work but things do generally improve with age.

Happy belated birthday user

xxrealistmumxx · 11/01/2018 08:34

utterly my LO is the same squirming and farting and crying out and from 5am pretty much always end up being held in an upright position where he'll sleep for another hour or so. I'm just hoping things get better as his digestive system matures. He had reflux from about three weeks and only ever slept in the sling for the first four months during the day. I also had to hold him to sleep at night for the first 6 weeks or so. It's hard bloody work but things do generally improve with age.

Happy belated birthday user

xxrealistmumxx · 11/01/2018 08:42

Sorry don't know why my posts are coming up twice and with no paragraphs!

sleepless my LO has a bottle of formula before bed - makes no difference to sleep but I'm glad he can take formula as it means I can get a break from expressing!

EspressoPatronum · 11/01/2018 08:58

Ahhhh my people! Hello! I've only skim read a few posts, so just wondering if all of your terrible sleepers are tiny babies? Mine isn't 😒😫 and after a year and a half of shit sleep I feel like I'm cracking up!

Lallypopstick · 11/01/2018 09:03

Why do babies hate having their nose wiped? I’m trying to help you here!

Welcome EspressoPatronum most of us have babies under 6 months, though I have seen posts from mums of older children.

Ven83 · 11/01/2018 09:22

DS seems to be waking up every couple of hours last few nights. But as we're co-sleeping it's not so bad.

He had a major meltdown last night whilst I was upstairs changing the bedding and getting myself ready for bed. It took like 15 minutes in total, but he managed to scream to the point of throwing up and almost choking. And that's with DH doing his best to calm him down.

Zampa · 11/01/2018 13:23

@Lallypopstick I think baby snot gives them magical powers and if you wipe their nose, they are some how diminished ... That's the only thing that can explain the nose wiping hissy fits!

@theendofthesockportal @utterlyconfused111 I also have an "exhausted" OH who sleeps in the spare room and doesn't help with DD2 at night. However, I'll give him a break this week as DD1 has been waking and he's gone to her. Still frustrating when he tells me how tired he is, like I'm not!

Zampa · 11/01/2018 13:27

@EspressoPatronum I offer you my sympathies. DD1 was regularly waking at 18 months and it's tough if you're working. She still wakes at least once a night at 2.5 and sometimes nothing can console her. At least DD2 can be settled with a boob!

DiscombobulatedWomble · 11/01/2018 13:57

OK so why does little miss sleep fine in her Cot during the day.. to the point where I got her to sleep in the sling earlier, & managed to transfer her from sling to cot.. she woke up, but was perfectly happy to lay there and suck her hand until she drifted off again, but if I try that at night she'll scream the place down the minute her bum touches the mattress :l so frustrating!