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Anyone want to accompany me while i sleep train DD?

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MrsKoala · 07/12/2017 13:58

I am starting to sleep train 13mo DD tonight. She has been a terrible sleeper since birth and always co-slept on the boob. I had a consultation with a sleep expert today who has talked me thru a gentle process of sleep training.

I am starting tonight as DH is away for a week from next Thursday, so i want it in place for then. DH is not particularly supportive because he hates them crying (and i love it obviously Hmm ) so it would be great if there was someone who was doing theirs at the same time for a mutual support group!

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MrsKoala · 12/12/2017 18:44

I don't have much patience at the best of times but at the moment i feel genuine hatred for everyone and everything. Everyone is in my space and i just want to be left alone to sleep.

DH is working fromhometomo, he is taking the kids to school/preschool/nursery and i have said i'm not even getting out of bed. I'm going to sleep till 1pm. It's my cleaning day but i need a rest.

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Cariad1988 · 12/12/2017 19:43

I struggled so much with CC naps that I gave up! I'm ST alone as DH has no idea about the method and I couldn't put myself through it so I let her nap in the pram and on me, not ideal, it's so hard to get anything done in the day Confused Don't know why days and nights are so different to her!

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MrsKoala · 12/12/2017 21:05

I’ve taken to my bed with feverish shivering. I’ve left dh up with ds2 and dd. There is no way I can do training now. I can barely sit up.

I think I’m just going to have to muddle thru till I’m better.

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LapinR0se · 13/12/2017 06:51

You poor thing MrsK. How are you this morning

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MrsKoala · 13/12/2017 07:05

A bit better now, just really really tired. I have coughed up my body weight in goo over night, i can't imagine there is anything left in there. I;m going to sleep all morning and hop i can shke it now.

Hope to resume the training tomo when DH isn't here. The sleep consultant suggested it might be easier without him!

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boodles101 · 13/12/2017 07:05

Oh that sounds terrible MrsK I really hope you managed to sleep and wake up feeling a little bit more human.
DS was up twice last night so I guess the night before was a fluke. But he is very snotty this morning and has awful nappy rash so i think this tooth is on its way.

FannyTheFlamingo · 13/12/2017 10:27

Hope the end is in sight for your illness MrsK!

DD woke 5 times, but each time was for teething gel and she was asleep again before her head touched the mattress! I seem to be awake for half an hour or more each time though, which is a pain. This is tooth number 6 coming through....this time 6 weeks ago, we had no teeth!!

boodles101 · 13/12/2017 18:46

That sounds tough fanny DS didn't have any teeth this time last month either.
Missed your message earlier MrsK as posted at the same time but glad you are slightly better.

Besom · 13/12/2017 18:57

I did something similar with Dr with sport of a sleep consultant. Best thing I ever did as it completely saved my sanity,. Good luck.

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MrsKoala · 13/12/2017 19:40

DS1 doesn't feel/register pain and we never knew he was teething. He'd just wake up with teeth. We thought what the hell is everyone fussing about! DS2 suffered a little. But both of them got them all really close together too. But DD is a whole different kettle of fish. 6-8 weeks of misery per tooth. She's still only got 8 but started at 6mo. DS1 had 8 when he was 7mo! Now i know why people say teething is hellish.

Anyway, I feel better. Slept 9.30-1pm. Still coughing and snotty, but defo over the worst. Unfortunately it's hit DS2 and DD today. DS2 has coughed so much he's puked all over the bedding. I've stripped off the duvet cover but it soaked thru and we don't have another super kingsize one so i've had to put it back on the bed sans cover and stinking and wet at the bottom and side. Not sure what i'm going to do with it really. Hope it dries out and fabreeze it?

DD went down with a bit of a fight tonight (no nap today tho) but keeps waking every 10 or so minutes.

DH packing to go now. Xmas tree still prostrate - everywhere has sold out of stands. I've just shut the door to the front room and pretending xmas isn't happening.

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boodles101 · 14/12/2017 14:26

Oh god that cold is really doing the rounds in your house mrsK. Did you manage to sort the duvet situation? Intrigued that DS1 doesn't feel pain?!
How did your DD sleep last night?
My DS woke at some point but I was just exhausted and could barely wake myself up, no idea what time it was but I made DH go in and settle him and he went straight back to sleep with his dummy. He woke again maybe about 4 ish. His nappy rash is so much better today too and the tooth is on the verge of breaking through, wish it would just hurry up!
Also, there's still loads of time to get things done for Xmas so don't worry about getting things done now. Especially if the kids are sick too.

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MrsKoala · 14/12/2017 20:13

DS2 had his nativity today which he was too ill to attend. So that's both nativities ruined this year by this bastarding cold. He slept in the afternoon as he was so tired - which of course means he's not tired tonight. DD still snotty and gooey eyed, but she went down well for her bedtime at 6.45. Again she hasn't napped today.

The duvet has been sponged off and hung over the bannister and fabreezed and seems fine so i have put a new cover on. Thank god. The hassle of having to get a new one would have pushed me over the edge today.

Regarding the pain Boodles. DS1 has never really registered pain. It was one of the first things that alerted us to how different he was from his peers. He never cried. He'd stand with his bare bottom against hot radiators and and icy freezers and not flinch. He walked at 9mo and had permanent black eyes and even had to go to a specialist plastics unit to be sewn up as he split his cheek open thru the muscle and he still didn't cry when he was 15mo. It's all part of his sensory processing disorder. He's a sensory seeker. So craves physical stimulation. DS2 is similar but not quite as extreme - but he fell out of an upstairs window and walked away with only a few stitches on his chin and was running around the hospital despite having had emergency helicopters out last year. So they are just tough as old boots really. DD appears to be the same as well. Other children seem so different to mine - who run head first into walls and laugh Confused Ah well - no sense no feeling! I think to myself that when society breaks down over the next 15 years, i can be training them up to take over the world in a mad max dystopian post apocalypse styleee or they could just play Rugby Grin

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boodles101 · 14/12/2017 21:18

Oh wow, you have some hard-core kids! Very interesting too. They will definitely be the zombie fighters of the future!
DS is in bed, I'm relaxing with a glass of wine. DH has gone away for the weekend and the tv aerial isn't picking up any signal. Frantically searching catch up tv for something to chill to.

Gayu · 14/12/2017 23:12

Hi

Let me know how it progress... I m planning to train my 10 month old who wakes every hour at night... Let's see... How it goes for you...

Cariad1988 · 15/12/2017 01:12

Hey guys! I come and read this thread every night to see where everyone is at! It's a comfort knowing your not the only one while your going through it. My biggest hurdle is my DH who goes to bed 2-3am and makes loads of noise from the moment she goes down! Many an argument has been had. DD's white noise machine can only cover so much! She had her night feed early tonight as he was banging around at 1am and luckily she went straight back down. I can still bloody hear him downstairs though, sick of having the same hushed argument Envy

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MrsKoala · 15/12/2017 01:27

Tonight has been as predictably shit as i thought it would be. DS2 didn't go to sleep till 10pm and then coughed so badly for a solid hour i had to sit by him holding him up and have a bowl at the ready. DD woke at 11. and DS1 at 11.30. I got DS1 off at 12 in bed with DS2, but I've been shushing and rocking DD and she is having none of it. I tried to even lay her in the bed with me and the boys but she can't settle with them coughing and me being near her and not feeding her.

To stop her waking the boys i've brought her downstairs now. I haven't had any sleep at all yet. I am so fucking tired and angry. I've got 3 nights of this.

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Cariad1988 · 15/12/2017 05:23

That's awful @MrsKoala. Have you got any family or friends that could come help out so you could nap in the day? I get migraines and my DH is always too 'busy' to really help with DD so I rely on my DM. Hope everyone is feeling better soon xx

boodles101 · 15/12/2017 06:42

Oh that's awful MrsK, I agree is there anyone who could help you during the day at all?
DS had another good night & went from 7-6. Not sure if I didn't anything different or not but I'm glad cod I've woken up with a sore throat too.

LizzieSiddal · 15/12/2017 07:26

Yes please get someone to help you today. Tell them you’re desperate! You need to have some sleep.

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MrsKoala · 15/12/2017 08:15

Thanks all. I'm okay.Just tired and this cold is lingering making me grumpy. DD went eventually at about 3 and then ds2 woke at 6. So i got 3 hours.

Fortunately it's ds2 xmas party today so, altho he doesnt usually do Fridays he will go 9.30-12.30. DD is tired so i'll race home after drop off and try to feed her to sleep so we can both have a nap.

7-6 is brilliant Boodles. I hope it continues for you. :)

Last night dd did 6.45-11. Which is her longest stretch of sleep yet. So it wasn't all bad.

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FannyTheFlamingo · 15/12/2017 10:42

We did 7.30-5.30am, with 2 wake ups. I thought she'd go back down at 5.30 like she did the previous night, but no, we were up and playing. DP is going away today until Sunday night, although, it doesn't really affect the bedtimes because he doesn't help anyway! 😂 I might get some better sleep without having to listen to the snoring!

Hope you manage to get a nap today MrsK. I've had a few 3hr sleep nights. They're not fun.

IsaSchmisa · 15/12/2017 10:46

You're still progressing. Last night was always going to be horrific, but it doesn't mean the tide isn't in the process of turning. DD is breaking the night feeding and waking habit. That much is clear. You're doing this.

Also cariad your husband sounds fucking useless.

boodles101 · 15/12/2017 14:00

How have all our husband's managed to get a weekend away?? Where's my weekend away?!

Great that your DD has done her longest stretch of sleep so she is improving!
Fanny I'll definitely get some more sleep with DH here, I think he has woken me up more times this week than DS has. How do I sleep train him too??

LizzieSiddal · 15/12/2017 14:23

I do hope all your Hs will be giving you time off when they get back. It’s the least you deserve.

FannyTheFlamingo · 15/12/2017 15:13

I need to finish sleep training DD, then train DP to stop snoring and to be able to fall asleep without the TV on, and then I'll try to sleep train myself not to wake up every hour. One day all 3 of us will sleep all night!

My 'time off' starts in January, when I'll be going to the gym 3 nights a week and DP will be doing bath, bottle and bed.