Anyone want to accompany me while i sleep train DD?

[MrsKoala]

I am starting to sleep train 13mo DD tonight. She has been a terrible sleeper since birth and always co-slept on the boob. I had a consultation with a sleep expert today who has talked me thru a gentle process of sleep training.

I am starting tonight as DH is away for a week from next Thursday, so i want it in place for then. DH is not particularly supportive because he hates them crying (and i love it obviously ) so it would be great if there was someone who was doing theirs at the same time for a mutual support group!

Bedtime for dd was at 9 tonight. Dh did it again as I’m still ill (I’ve been dripping about the house all day). I heard her cry briefly at 9.30 but he is in bed with her so I assume it was just settling her. I am in bed with the 2 wheezy boys. I can’t lay down as I can’t breathe at all so I’m propped up on pillows trying not to wake them with my nose blowing.

How are things MrsK

I’m so I’ll! I’ve been up since 2. :(

Kids all slept till 6.30 tho. Dd woke and asked for Booo, but slept the whole night.

My boob is agony tho. Really engorged. I feel like shit. Thank god it’s the weekend and dh can take the kids. I don’t think I could do the walk to school like this. I think it’s really hot me because I’m so tired.

It’s not mastitis is it?

What is that like? I’m fluey. Can barely find the energy to walk. Head pounding. Snotty. Sore throat.

Mastitis usually presents as flu symptoms and pain in your breast(s). I would go to a walk-in as it’s serious if left untreated

Yes, get that looked at. But excellent news re DD at least.

At least you can use DH as much as you need to over the weekend. My DP is slightly less accommodating and I get no sympathy and very little help when I'm ill, because he never gets ill so he doesn't understand how awful it feels.

Definitely get the boob checked out, mastitis is a bitch!

Sorry you are feeling shitty MrsK
We had a lovely evening, dinner and drinks. I also wore a non breastfeeding bra fo4 the first time in forever! Nice to wear something that's not a frumpy, old lady style bra!
DS went to bed fine according to DM. He woke at 12.30 but settled and then slept til 5.30. I fed him straight away as I was engorged due to missing the bedtime feed. He then slept til 7.30 so a good night for us!
I did notice him dribbling this morning though and think his top tooth will be through very soon so fingers crossed that doesn't bother him too much.

I completely agree with Isa about the men being loud etc cos they don't suffer the consequences. If DH truly knew what the lack of sleep was like, he would be fully onboard to get things sorted asap!

Oh Dear Fanny. I hate that about people. My Dad is also unsympathetic but that's more because he always has to be the illest. DH is really sweet when i'm ill. He tries to let me rest as much as possible.

However, the house looks like a hurricane has swept thru it. He has taken the boys out and left dd napping as i wanted to get the routine back today.

i gave her a big feed and myboobfeels much better. I think it's just a heavy cold. I think i underestimated how much milk she was taking in the night and my body needs to adjust.

Glad you had a nice date Boodles. Teething always fucks up sleeping here.

Can you express a bit, to take things down slowly?

My DH helps when I'm ill but you can guarantee within a day or two he starts to 'feel a bit throaty' as he puts it and then the man flu begins!
DS only has 2 teeth that came through about a month ago. Had a few nights of hell with it so im hoping the next one is over quickly!
Hope you managed to get some rest while everyone was out and DD napping MrsK.

I'm really angry with the children. I got up to cook them dinner. Each something different, sweet n sour chicken for dd, egg fried rice for ds2 and fish and chips for ds1 and all of them have refused even a mouthful. That fucks me off at the best of times but when i'm feeling like shite and have dragged my rotting carcass out of bed to make it, it has made me beyond angry. I'm at the 'fuck you lot and get on with it' stage of illness.

DD has been on the boob lots today so that may be why. She has also been following me round grizzling with her arms up. So i think the late night/long nap yesterday has made her tired today and slip back to old habits.

I will start her bedtime at 7pm tonight.

Oh no that's not good. I can't imagine cooking 3 separate meals, it's bad enough when my 1 child refuses food. Will they not eat the same thing?
Your DD might be making up for the lack of boob comfort from overnight?
I've put DS to bed and starting to get a cold too. Just hope that it's a small one from the lack of sleep lately and it goes as quickly as it came.

Hope everything's going ok there MrsK!

Just wanted to pop on and say that CC is the best thing I've ever done. Not even 2 weeks in and tonight, DD didn't even want to lie on me until she was sleepy, she wanted to go and lie in her cot. Best decision I've ever made. She slept 7.30-5am without me having to settle her at all last night.

I’m glad Fanny. That’s such good news. Dd has been chattering and jumping about the cot for an hour now. Not crying, but not remotely sleeping. She’s just starting to get whingey at me. I am sitting here in the end of the bed feeling like death warmed up.

I’ve lost my shit at the styrofoam the shithole house. I couldn’t find her bedtime book because of course leaving it next to the cot and expecting it to still be there the next day is a ludicrous idea.

We had our tree delivered and yet again it won’t fucking stand up. We haven’t bought the dc any Xmas presents yet. Dh has said he’s on it but hasn’t done it. He’s convinced he can buy it cheaper on eBay but keeps losing every bid. Tomo I’m just going to order it all from Argos with my credit card!

Wow. Just as I sent that she just laid down and went to sleep!!

Amazing! DH took both boys to bed at the same time and read them a story and they were both asleep by 8.30. This is the first time since we had DD that one isn't up. Shame i'm too ill to enjoy it.

Goodear going MrsKoala! Hope she stays that way for the whole night a few hours. Both ds's were exhausted after today. Ds1 went in his cot at 7.30 and went to sleep as usual, I left him to it.

Ds2 is still falling asleep on the bottle. Not tonight though. Bloody 45 minutes it took. I'm knackered and was not wanting to be cuddling for that long. I'm starting with him after Christmas . I worry about him crying and waking Ds1 up .........

So MrsK is your DH starting to see the benefits of a bit of routine?!

Oh that is rubbish!! Amazing that they're all in bed, but rubbish that you're ill. Hopefully it's the first night of many and you'll be able to enjoy it soon.

I've got 3 DSC and DD to buy for....did it all on Amazon in about 10 mins. I remember a few years ago, being so excited to get out to all the shops and do loads of Xmas shopping. Now it's all about getting it done as quickly as possible!

I'm going to speak to the sleep consultant tomo about what to do if she's happily playing for a while. I wonder if i could just leave her to it. I was sat on the bed about 1.5 metres away from the cot today, so it wasn't like i was comforting/shushing/patting her.

Yes Notta - its the domino effect of every being woken up isn't it.

I shoud go to bed but i am so bunged up i feel as tho there is a golf ball in the back of my throat. I'm scared of lying back in case i choke.

Lapin - He thinks it's fine if i do it, but he wont be held hostage by it! He wasn't really that bothered with the situation before so it makes no real difference to him.

Have you tried a hot bath or shower to loosen it, or even just head over a bowl of hot water with a towel?

I'm just boiling the kettle to do the head thing now. It's totally compacted. Nothing is shifting when i blow - sorry far tmi i know. But i;m getting panicky about suffocating.