The great non-sleepers, newborn and beyond.

[NinaMarieP]

Thread number four (I think).

Welcome to all past posters and any new ones who are also up at all hours!

DS has been screaming for the last half hour...

He's managed to summon all the animals around us. They get very concerned when he cries

Managed to get DD to sleep at 8.10 was all smug, she was asleep for 20mins, so I thought I would run a bath. Of course she wakes up and is refusing to settle. My bath is now cold. I can't ask DH for help today as he has done a full day of hard work landscaping my mums garden and is asleep on the sofa. Bless him!

Fml baby will not sleep. I think he was overstimulated today.

@Ceesadoo I'm right there with you! I know he's tired but will he sleep. He's flipping between inconsolably crying to smiling

Well I've stayed up late to watch Black Mirror. First episode was amazing but also long - over an hour, so just in bed now. Was lovely to spend quality time with DH but obviously cuts into my sleep time - DS has been asleep since 9 so I'm expecting a waking soon! Ah well, bring it...

So frustrating Hashtag. I really hope tonight is better for you.

This child still isn't asleep! I've changed her pooey nappy and she has just had 6oz of formula. I'm not feeling positive about tonight

Still screaming...

Second wake up and it's not even midnight. Someone send me snacks!!! 😭

DD is asleep and I'm awake with a banging headache. Shoot me now.

Hi all. I've been off a while. DS has been abit of a pain this week going back to 90min - 2 hr wake ups. Hes 12 weeks old now so i suspect a growth spurt. That said hes a gorgeous happy smiley baby 💕

Today we took him to the hosp after 5 days of coffee granule black bits in his poo. The doc wasnt worried but if no better in 3 day's he's going in. Poor baby. Rough week

Hi Jellybabie3. Sorry to hear you've had a tough time. Hopefully it will clear up quickly. DS had black sandy type granules in his poo nappies a few times and HV said it was probably something I ate but to keep an eye on it. We are back to fully yellow ones now!

Seem to be back to two hourly wakeup tonight which strangely feels like a really good thing 🙈 so I am thankful for that. He has also laid down next to me for some of it. Still tired though.

Well he slept for 3 hours 48 mins which is epic! I needed that. I got about 3 hours of that which was really needed!
I fear the rest of the night being less easy. He isn't settling much. So I think that's the end of my sleep tonight, but very grateful I've had a 3 hour chunk. Thanks little man! I'm developing a cough which isn't helping when I'm trying to settle him quietly!!

Hi @Jellybabie3. Sorry to hear about your little one. Hope everything's ok.

Stiill awake as I tried laying him down and he got upset 🙈 so tired. Think I can hear DH snoring from spare room above. So jealous.

Talk to me about poo 💩
My ds is 17 weeks today. He's combo fed breast and bottle. He has one bottle of formula a day, maybe two.

He used to go once a week, and it used to be paste-y consistency. Maybe a like houmous, sometimes a little firmer. Coloured like korma. (Sorry for the food comparisons).

The last couple of weeks he has been more frequent, perhaps every other day, or maybe every 2-3days but perhaps twice in one day and it has been much looser. Sometimes just a bit of residual paste on the bum after taking the nappy off but most of it absorbed into the nappy rather than houmous on top, of you know what I mean?

What are poos like in your household?

I actually quite like houmous and korma, but not sure I'd look at it the same again...

Thanks @Jellybean2017 and @HashtagTired. I will be keeping an eye on him. Wierd as i was always told coffee granules was a redflag and to look at nt diet in case of allergies. My DH mentioned to the doc that we had alot of fish on Christmas eve - the night before it started. I had been limiting fish intake as per instruction previously (mercury isn't it?) But the doc screwed her face up and said he cant be sensitive to seafood. Fingers crossed it clears up. Needless to say we are tense with every explosive nappy!!

We are also up after dead on 2hours again. So annoying!! Growth spurts are very odd!! I notice this one may last til February!!

My diet even

Hi I've been away not posting for a few nights. Dd has had two nights now if inconsolable crying for a few hours in the evening (right when I want to be sleeping). It appears to partly be due to wind, but we wonder if she's also crabby from being passed around relatives and friends. I can't wait until the holidays are over and we can go home.

We spent the day in A&E because there was blood in her spit up this morning. We given a clean bill of health from the ER doc and pediatrician, who both suspect that I have a small nipple crack and that's where the blood came from.

Dd had green liquid poos and lots of them! Almost every nappy change is both pee and poo.

LO went down at 9.30 & woke at 11.14, 11.40 & 12.10 before I gave up and let him sleep in my arms again. Second wake up required rocking back to a sleep that only lasted ten minutes and third wake up involved a screaming meltdown because he was awake and I was trying to lie down with him instead of sitting rocking him. He was absolutely raging and positively roared every time the dummy touched his mouth! I try not to take it personally but it feels like he's really angry with me sometimes.

Finding it all very hard to deal with again even though I'm only dealing with him half of each night. My OH goes back to work on Tuesday so I'll be doing both (or all) night feeds again from then and if he carries on like this I think I will have a proper breakdown. I can't even get him off to bed any earlier most of the time because he's so happy and awake playing on the floor or in his jumperoo and he just won't feed unless he's really hungry for it.

I so thought we had gotten over this rough patch but we only had maybe 2-3 good nights and then it’s been back to shit like the last month had been. How can it still be so fucking hard at nearly five months? Isn’t it supposed to get easier? Aren’t you supposed to find routines and finally get a little more sleep and stop feeling like just getting dressed and leaving the house is a huge victory? The whole thing is exhausting and not just the nights - and I fucking hate the nights and I bloody hate my LO during the night most of the time too. Every day just feels like a host of mini battles to achieve feeds and naps. My OH keeps reminding me that LO doesn’t mean to be so difficult but that doesn’t help, it doesn’t make it easier and all it does is make me feel guilty for having so little patience.

I'm aware loads of you have it tougher but I really am not enjoying being a mum a lot of the time. I find it claustrophobic, stressful, exhausting and overwhelming. And it's something I've been desperately longing for at least ten years.

Sorry for the length just needed to get that off my chest.

Wide awake here. DS woke at 1.30 and now will not go back to sleep. If I'm not feeding him he's wriggling and screeching. He has done two poos in quick succession and now has hiccups. Wouldn't mind if he'd just lie quietly on me but this is so hard to cope with, I just want some rest!

@ninamariep it is SO hard. The hardest thing you will ever do. What you are feeling is totally natural. Being a mum means ups and downs. Times of intense joy but also intense misery. And the first year is bloody hard. It's only now my DD is 2 that I'm really beginning to enjoy her company. Babies are demanding and you don't get much back. The sleep deprivation makes a challenging situation even tougher.

I hate it when people say 'oh they'll get to 12 weeks and start to improve, even sleeping through the night!' Er bollocks to that. My DD got worse at 12 weeks and never really got better at sleep till she turned 2! (Sorry). Every baby is different. I wish I'd appreciated that - I used to come home from mum and baby groups and cry because I felt like such a failure with my non sleeper.

It does get easier - or you get more used to it. Five months with DD was a very difficult time for me. I think it started to improve around 7 months (ok sleep didn't but I started to cope better). You're doing an amazing job and he's lucky to have you as his mum.

Hashtag we tend to have around 2 poos a day maybe more. Recently more korma coloured, sometimes explosive.

But do keep an eye on your mental health Nina Marie, sleep deprivation can really mess it up. Keep talking - on here and in RL. I found my DH wasn't the best person to talk to about it as he struggled with my emotions so I turned to frlends. You'd be amazed at how many people are going through the same thing or have been through it.

Oh fucking hell he's done another poo...

Thank you whoate. I just feel awful especially when I see people on here who's babies have woken every ten minutes for hours saying "I'm knackered but I'm loving just lying here having cuddles and looking at his/her face" and I'm here thinking "go the fuck to sleep and stop being a dick."

There are great parts which I enjoy, he has a lovely smile and I love making him laugh. He's learning so much right now as well, he's not far off rolling over and also getting his feet into his mouth and it's fascinating to see him suddenly doing something new.

He fell asleep mid feed there so before I changed his nappy (he managed to sleep through that right until I was putting his sleepsuit back on!!) I picked him up for a cuddle and told him that I loved him.

*whose.

I'm awful without sleep. I feel worst when I feel like I should be asleep but I'm not. Night feeds don't bother me too much it's the other wakings I struggle with.

Oh and poos here are extremely yellow and pretty much liquid averaging three a day. Literally primary colour yellow!

Ha, never mind thought, I actually just asked DS, 'why are you being such a dick?? Just sleep!' I started off calm and patient but it's been almost 2.5 hours and I just cannot do this anymore! He's still awake!