Still awake with newborn

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Part 2 ... everyone welcome

Sakura he probably slept so well and got so long because he was asleep on you.

Last night I cried as I was so tired, DD woke up at 4.50, it’s taken nearly an hour to give her bottle as she was messing around. DH is soundly asleep and I am fantasising about smothering him with a pillow. Motherhood is bloody lonely and now I want to cry again,

@theotherendofthesockportal

I thought flowers and cake might make you feel a bit better but now I realise how lame that sounds.

Sorry to hear you’ve had a bad night. I hope that because it’s Sunday your dh can take little one for a while to give you a couple of hours rest.
It’s bloody hard work, isn’t it. And the hard times are made a bizillion times worse with tiredness. Big hugs.

@GingerHanna I have definitely dropped my phone on DS a couple of times... I felt terrible! But he didn’t seem fussed :p
Am just north of Copenhagen fairly close to Helsingør.

@GimbleInTheWabe I track formula feeds and nappies, I tried tracking breastfeeds and naps too but I got a bit too obsessed with it and it was causing me a bit of anxiety so stopped. Only track nappies now cause I want to make sure he gets enough liquid in the day :p I use Glow baby and love that I can put his weights in there and see his curve without logging on to his online journal.

Babe was up for playing at about 5:30 () but DP took him and gave him some formula and had a play with him whilst my nipples got rest and I had an extra hour in bed. Always feel more human when I get an hour of solo starfishing in bed!

Now he’s on his first nap of the day as he has been awake 2 hours and is a crabby monster, so DP has him in the sling and he’s whinging himself to sleep.

@theotherendofthesockportal
It’s so rough when it feels like you’re the only person awake in the world. I hated that about night feeds at first, so I would take little dude into the front room so I could at least not have my boyfriends snoring and deep sleeping taunting me. Not quite an option if you don’t live in a flat I know, but it made me feel better!

@GimbleInTheWabe I track most feeds. Only because I have a shit memory and most nights bleeding to one. It also helps me spot slight increases in frequency. Sometimes I feel like I’m feeding all the time but when I check the logs in the app it’s only a little bit extra and not as much as I thought. It is most useful at night to spot trends in his feeding. What a bad name that looks like it a good night.

I only track pooey nappies because it’s so infrequent. His last poo was Monday and I only remember that because I logged it (excuse the pun).

I track day feeds less now. And also stopped logging the evening feeds he has with dh too. It’s mostly night time.

It wasn't too bad of a night here. DD managed 3,5 hrs in the cot then in bed with mama. Uo every 3-3.5 hrs. I am still shattered, though.

Terrible night. I've had two hours thanks to ds windy pains. Poor little thing. Gave him gripe a few times which made him trumpet and fall asleep....for about half an hour at a time so i was barely nodding off before it started again.

Horrible. No idea what made it so bad. Nothing different eaten yesterday. Feel like its my fault though.

We are both broken today and we have in laws round for Sunday lunch meaning they will want to play and keep awake my boy.

God there will be tears today

Who else feels like they may strangle/throttle their DH due to lack of sleep? I got told last night I would be having a lie in this morning.. nice right so here I am getting excited through an hour and half feed at 4 this morning smug in the knowledge that I can go to sleep after and not get woken.. lol and behold I was back downstairs an hour and a half later after DD fussed in bed and my DH rose his head saw I was doing something about it and went back to land of nod so 6 this morning sitting on floor changing nappies and feeding my princess breakfast milk...think may have good defence

We had a decent night, considering we both have a cold, and yesterday we had family visiting so DS didn’t get much day sleep. Feeds are awful though, a slobbery mess, poor little man fussing and cramping on the boob, chomping down on my nipple, latching and unlatching all the time.

Oh yeah I hate DH at night. He doesn’t help himself either with stupid comments. The other night baby was spitting up so just as I was finishing a feed DH woke up, said “I think he should be held upright” and drifted back to sleep. So I finished the feed, handed him DS and said, “so keep him upright then”, turned my back and went to sleep. Ugh I absolutely hate backseat parenting.

Jellybabie3 I so feel your pain... wish you could tell visitors to leave the sleeping baby bloody well alone unless they intend to deal with the consequences (no sleep all blooming night!)

On a serious note, anyone ever asked visitors to not hold the baby when they’re settled?

Mummyrose..I tell them! You have to deal when they all go home, just think of yourself at 3 in the morning when the little one won’t settle that should help tell them to bugger off😒😒

Ven83 lol😂😂😂 will have to try that one next time.. just really don’t like promises broken especially when he works 12 hour days and I’m here with the little one! Xx

@mummarosie1 I don’t have the problem with visitors wanting to hold ds when he’s asleep. It might have something to do with the murderous look I give them when I know they are about to suggest it.

Yeah this is why DH doesn't sleep in same room as me... There's nothing more infuriating than hearing him snore when I'm awake feeding 🙈 😂

Day with the MIL today, wish me luck...

I'm in no mood for the MIL today. Me and DS are exhausted and just had a barmy with DH for sleeping through the shit storm. I hate the line 'you were up already'

I'm starting to think weekdays are easier......is that bad?

Jellybabie3 I honestly find it easier when DP is working 🙈

I'm the same! So much easier when DH is at work! DD fought sleep for over an hr and I get the blame for it, of course.
She always plays up when DH is at home

Glad to see it’s not only me who is awake in the night plotting the murder of a husband/partner. Thank you to @HashtagTired and @Gierg for your support :)

DH has just woke up so I told him to take DD downstairs with him, knowing that this will wake her up and he will have to feed her, meaning he won’t be able to have his usual Sunday brunch. I want him to know how difficult it is to even eat when looking after the baby.

I don’t allow visitors near the baby if she is asleep. They can admire her sleeping in her Moses basket. There is no way I’m paying the price for someone wanting a cuddle.

Thank god. I am human. Or atleast we are all the same. Today sucks.

I love weekends, one thing that I’m so grateful for is DP does actually do loads of baby stuff on the weekends and I am basically opt in parent and boob on tap on the weekend haha!

Takes me a good half day or so to be used to being solely responsible on the weekdays! Haha

Got such a headache today. I think cosleeping means I end up sleeping so stiff and uncomfy and I get so much tension in my shoulders and neck which leaves me with a stinker of a headache... I’d kill for a full 8 hours to get over this... as it is I’m on the paracetamol....

I love weekends, only because I don’t have to get up at 7:15 and then do the school walk at 8:45. Dh is generally around too and he’s great at helping out/taking over!

@mummmyj I was just thinking about it. We all do so much to protect our DPs night sleep for the sake of their day jobs, but aren’t our “day jobs” just as demanding of good rest? Unless they work in some specific professions, they normally have the chance to tune out for a bit during the day, eat lunch in peace, maybe doze off on the commute home, safe in the knowledge there is not a tiny human depending on them at the time. I find it very hard to tune out even for a minute, always being alert, and every minute of my day is programmed according to baby’s needs, and they never ever stop. On many days I don’t even get to nap during the day. So my husband regularly gets about 2 hours of sleep more than I do, plus spends most of his waking hours dealing with adults who can normally be reasoned with. He even gets to take his morning shower without worrying about the crying baby - that is such a luxury to me these days.