new 'SLEEP IS FOR THE WEAK' thread

[tibsy]

hi ladies, the other one ran out of space, so if no one else starts a new thread, here it is....

morning all

dd had her last lot of injections yesterday so thought i was in for a rough nite it wasnt too bad though

7.00 in bed
10.00 dream feed
12.00 she wanted feeding again [humm]
3.00 dummy in and bak to sleep
6.15 she was talking to her self manageg to get her back to sleep till 7 so not to bad
She still has a really blockrd nose so that isnt helping am absolutly knackered still but she is going to child minders in a bit for a few hours so amgoing b akto bed i think

for all of you who have 2 hourly wakings

go youngmum and youngone!!!!! that sounds like a good night to me

well doen youngmum that looks good to me too. Gotta go. playgroup this morning. Have a good day all migt be tomorrow before i can get back on here due to entertaining ds and friend. X

My night very very good by recent standards. However had drugged her because of cold. So we had two wakings one to feed another to join us in bed then up at 7. Splendid. Even got to spend the night with my DH (obviously he saw babyless bed as an opportunity for becoming HDH (Horny Darling Husband) Men, I laid there annoyed that I'd missed an extra 15 minutes sleep LOL.

crap nite here . ds getting cold. been constipated (him, not me!) too many wakings, one for 90 mins. uuuuurrrgggh!!!!!
so many posts to read. too tired. catch up later (hopefuly)

Ginger, what drugs did you give her and can they be given to make an 11 week old sleep? just kidding.

man, the last two nights have been a disaster. dh and i up all night from midnight, taking shifts holding the little precious one who won't sleep unless held.

i just moved his cot away from our bed and against the far wall and put him down for a nap. Now, for some reason, he who does not nap has been napping for 30 mins and is still going. unbelievable. what the hell difference does it make where his cot is placed? or is it just a fluke? hoping this bodes well for the evening. we sure do need it.

Amberjee, our DS would only sleep if held for the first week or so = total nightmare for us. We cracked it using the following method - put his crib mattress in the bed between us. BF him to sleep lying down, then VERY GENTLY let go of him, tuck sheets around him and transport mattress with him on it into his crib. If he wouldn't settle after a night-time feed then repeat. Seems to have helped him associate being in the crib with sleeping, 'cause now most of the time he goes down in the crib OK, though we still need this trick every now and then (he's still only 3.5 weeks after all!)

DS is finally asleep after some hig-octane screaming (trying NOT to feed to sleep) and a dose of Medised. Got restless a little while ago but managed to shush back to sleep. Hoping for a better night tonight . Boiler suit on again - if he gets too restless, will stick him a swaddle later on.

Hi All,

Had another fairly good night only waking twice 3 am and 5am, fed and back to sleep. However tiredness is really getting to me. Went to M&T this morning and felt so bad left after 1 hr.

Ginger & Cruise - Hope your lo's are feeling better. Ds had a cold recently which made his sleeping worse .

Hope everyone gets a good night!

swizzler - i am intending to stop bf to sleep in the next fortnight. Was it awful? Am dreading it as I think ds will kick off big time. But as it is the main cause of his night wakings/inabilty to settle himself I feel it is the only way forward. good luck - you are very brave. Let me know what happens in the night? I will follow you shortly'

lemondaidgirl - thanks for your thoughts ds woken 6 times this evening already . BF to sleep each time but am soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo tired. Just want some rest and for lo to feel better. n'nite

Cruisemum: fed before settling to sleep tonight, but will continue to feed in the night if he wakes up and I can't get him to settle any other way. Just trying not to let him fall asleep on the boob at the beginning of the night. TBH, he isn't feeding that well during the day (too nosy!) so don;t want to stop night feeds altogether. Would just like a little more sleep!

swizz - my ds is nosey too!!! Hilarious really. Throws his head back to have a good look around. Looks litle a little turtle! Sooo bloody cute!

How long did lo scream for? Just trying to gauge how it will go for me

evening ladies,I haven't been on this thread for ages.
On monday my lo slept through the night for the first time.From 8-6.I couldn't believe it.But last night was so restless,and wouldn't go in cot at all,so was in our bed all night!
How two nights can be so different amazes me.
She's just cutting her first tooth-poor thing.Any good teething stuff ?Or advice.Maybe that's another thread?

morning,

well another nite of wakings and have come to the conclusion i am going to have to get rid of the dummy, that is all she wakes up for so its got to go and i have been up since 6 so will be cutting down day time naps abit to see if that helps!!

morning ladies. not too bad a night. ds went down at 7.15 and i went out with for dinner/drinks. He slept until 11 for dh but then woke up screaming (think teeth, pulling at ear on side large molar is coming through?)but he also noticed i wasn't there so was hard to settle. I came home at 11.45 and ds and dh were sitting up in bed watching tv waiting for me!
Got him back down by 1 with bottle and nurofen for teeth and he slept until 7 this morning. I or course feel like poo due to some champagne, a glass of white, a G&T and a vodka and diet coke. Talk about mixing your drinks!!
Youngmum your bad night. We're the opposite in this house. Dummy has been the thing that has helped ds sleep better as he's gotten older as he looks for it in his cot when he wakes up and puts it back in himself. How considerate of him

bampa it use to be the best thing for us she neva use to wake up when it fell out and wud sleep all nite now all of a suddne when she comes in to a light sleep she crys for it it doesnt help that me and dp rush straight to give it to her maybe we shud let her cry for a few mins to see if she can settle with out it think thats wot we use to do not sure when we started going wrong!!!
Thing is she loves her dummy and id feel like such a bad mummy taking it away

i know it's hard. you just never know what to do for the best. i suppose it's all trial and error to see what works for her. if she was older and could put it back in it would be ok but having to get up every time her dummy falls out means you'll never get any sleep. Maybe you could try and do the NCSS 'pantley's gentle removal plan' which is to let her suck the dummy until she is nearly asleep and her sucking has slowed but then remove it and holde her gently under the chin and shush her. The book says eventually after they stop resisiting and learn they don't need the dummy/breast/bottle to sleep.

morning all and welcome back redbeki! for your good night and fro the crap one.
ginger for your lost 15 mins of sleep, very good!!!!!
dd woke a coupla times in the evening as per, then woke again at 11.30 for a little nibble and again once more. up for the day at 6 i must have got some rest tho as felt ok getting up at that time!
have been trying to increase her day intake to 'night wean' she obviously didnt feed too much last night as my boobs was MASSIVE and very full this a.m

welcome megbusset and bamps, sounds like your night was a success! hows the head this morning? poor lo and his teeth

morning tibsy. Head not too bad. Have had cup of tea and some pancakes but think i need a second breakfast soon to finally sort it out! Going to go back to bed when ds does this morning. Supposed to be going to visit my mum but she'll understand if we are late.
sorry i forgot to say welcome megbusset and welcome back redbeki.

back again. have changed nickname but hope if i say i have ds of 14m you can guess who i am!

hi everyone!
just checking in to say hello to all fellow non sleepers. we have had another bad night, up since 3am. feel like i'm going a bit crazy today through lack of sleep! just tried to get dd down for a nap and can already hear her crying in her crib.agggh!!! xxx

Hey all. I am v annoyed today . With DP.

Night before last. LO sleeps great.
7:30pm - 1:30am. Asleep. Not a peep.
1:30am - BF, wont settle into bed with us, suckles to sleep.
2:30am - 7:00am. Asleep in own bed

How about that.

However, this is the start of what I am annoyed about, that night
2:20am - phone rings. And rings, And rings. DP gets shitty cos I wont answer it. I am feeding the baby. He apologies as he was half asleep. Does not get it in time, no no. stored. Luckily, although it wakes DD up, she goes straigh back to sleep in my arms and I put her into her own bed. Luckily.

So, you with me so far. OK, last night.
7:45pm - 8:30pm Asleep. DP on phone to MIL in USA, ignores her whilst I fell asleep. I wake and go deal with her. DP says,' she sounded fine, and it didnt wake you up, you woke up when she needed you' WTF {hmm]
8:45pm - 10:00pm - Asleep.
10pm - phone rings, loudly. In front room, next to LOs bedroom. Rings twice before DP answers it, right next to him. Cue crying baby, instantly. Woke me up with a fright too, asleep on sofa.
It is his BIL. DP has been talking online to him all evening in USA, He knew he was going to call as BIL just told him online. It turns out, it was his BIL calling at 2:£0am night before too. Grrr. He has meant to call MIL. DP goes into kitchen, ignoring baby crying, I go deal with her, raise my hands in exasperation.
10:15pm - just settle LO off, eyes closed, light snoring, almost there, I here a thudding down the hallway - DP opens door, floods room with hallway light and says 'everything ok now?', cue baby opening eyes and hollering. I shoo DP out of the room trying to get him to realise he just woke her up. He swears and gets shitty, decides that exact moment is a good one to have a go.
10:40pm. Finally get DD off to sleep, after yelling her head off for ages. DP has been waiting all this time to have a go at me for my behaviour! mine.
1:30am - DD wakes. DP stays put. BF, some fussing and soft talking, leave her room with her crying a little. 10 mins later, asleep.
7:00am. Awake for day.

Luckily, the night went ok, but not thanks to DP and BIL between them!
DP said I was selfish not allowing his brother to call. I did not argue with him as was not in mood for row. However, we have talked about it before and we both agreed thought we did at least, that as his family live in USA, and he speaks to them every other day, his BIL works until 11:00pm our time usually. He should call BIL if during the week, BIL at weekends earlier in the day, or, as they talk online, arrange for BIL to call at specific time and go into kitchen to take call, where quiet. Or if impromptu call, phone DP mobile first to see if ok to call, to let him know he is calling. DPs attitude is 'so what if it wakes the baby, should I not talk to my brother then?' For someone with a degree in PR he seriously lacks problem solving skills grrrrr[angry}.

There, a very long and p'd off rant. Its probably not really that serious a matter, it just frustrates me as the phone always rings when I am asleep, when LO is alseep, when we take our naps, and I find it hard to get back to sleep afterwards, and I always get a headache if I am woken by sudden loud noise/sudden bright light. I just think it is so inconsiderate, esp as BIL has 6 month old baby too. grrrrr.