new 'SLEEP IS FOR THE WEAK' thread

[tibsy]

hi ladies, the other one ran out of space, so if no one else starts a new thread, here it is....

thanks ladies and fingers x'd for a good night for us all
3 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

tibsy - ds did this last night 6:45pm till 11:45pm...silence! he then woke 11:45, 1:20, 3:40 and 6:10am. Enjoy it while it lasts

happy mothers day, esp to you first time mums! . Had a dreadful night with ds. so tired today I want to hide away and cry. dh in bed.

happy mother's day cruise. Get dh up and tell him to take your 2 lo's out so you can have an hour in bed. It is mother's day after all!

Get that husband of yours out of bed! Having said that, DH still in bed as well.

Not great nigth here - mostly 2 hr wakingd but pretty unsettled from 11-1. Prob my fault for having a glasss of red before bedtime - for some reason, DS objects to red wine but is OK with white. Strange child

my DH had 5 1/2 hours uninterrupted last night (i would have no idea what that is like) but still is the one having extra sleep in this morning. oh well. i went for a massage yesterday which was lovely.
i slept without a clock last night so that i wouldn't know how good or bad the night was. this is my new technique : ignorance is bliss.

swizz - i have a copule of glasses of red every night! . maybe i should stop?! mind you, if you only have one occasinally and your abstainence doesn't help they I may as well carry on . i thought breast milk was largely unaffected by waht you eat/drink...

happy mothers day all!
i forgot it was! so did my mean brat of a baby. just when i thought those 2hr wakings couldnt be much worse, it was closer to every hr. exhausted again, house a mess, dp totally knackered too. my cocyx (spelling? i mean tailbone anyway!) aches when im tired, so does my episiotomy scar and my anal fissure always seems worse too. grrrr. god, what a moaner ive become!
dp told me i looked older than usual today!

not looking at the clock is probably a good idea, although sometimes i do look and think oh, nearly 3 hrs, thats better, and then dont feel so cross.

maybe the babies are all plotting a marathon sleep tonight as our mothers day present?!?

Hi all, and happy mother's day. I am posting frantically all over this board about my 4 month old (today!) dd whose sleep has gone to pot and someone kindly suggested I join you here. I know she's a bit younger than most of your LOs, but I'm cheekily hoping to benefit from (or despair over your experiences...

welcome lillysma. Not sure if you'll find any answers here but you'll definitely find a bunch of tired women to listen/sympathise/support and understand and there's usually a few laughs along the way thank the lord!

maebee - ditto wakings here. ugh - feel like shit.
hi lilysma - it was me who recommended you join us . sorry you felt the need but you will get much sympathy and support here . head aches, body aches eyes sore, patience thin but holding it together for dd who has never given me a sleepless night in 9 years. enjoy your day ladies, only 9 hours tiill you can go to bed....

Am so glad (or should that be sad) that I am not the only one whos DP had a lie in while I was up with DD.
He has not had a lie in for weeks so I shouldn't feel bad but it is Mothers day FGS!

DD has been lovely this morning but another bad night I was up and down so often I lost count!, I think I got about 2 hours straight between about 5 and 7. She has also stopped napping so early in the day and has had 2 naps for 3 days now, both only 45 minutes still. Hopefully she will start extending them a bit now she is missing one out???? [wishful thinking]

Happy Mothers Day and Welcome to Lilysmum. 4 months seems to be the age when they start to show their true colours

hi all Bad nite with dd last nite she was slept 7 till 1 with a feed at 10 then wudnt settle back to sleep for a while and was up on and off all nite dont think the wind helped asit wasrally howling here and you can here it worse in her romm least dp got up and gave me a lay in even if was till only 9 lol

hope you all having a nice mothers day!!!

happy mothers day one and all!!

sorry to hear some of you had rough nights. our good night continued, (sorry to boast ) dd woke at 12.30 for a feed so i brought her in with us. fed again at 3.45am then nothing til 7am. i think that was her mothers day gift to me!!!

welcome to lilysma and amberjee, i love your new technique!!!!

maebee hope you feel better soon and cruise hope you shifted dh out of bed.

kiera - happy mothers day to you, i hope you have a special day with your boys, have been thinking of you x

Hey all, happy mothers day to you all too. My DH also had a lay in this morning while I tended the child. Me and DD went back to bed at 8 tho and he got up and made me breakfast in bed and arranged a picnic (which we ended up eating at home because it was so windy) so he redeamed himself.

My night wasn't half bad. Bed at 10 ish, brief waking at 11.30 for dummy. Woke at 2ish for a big feed and I mean big, she was drinking for ages, back to sleep on our bed until 5. I think she was a bit cold so I put her under our quilt, slept again 'til 6. Magic. Still felt knackered but I'm not sure I'll ever feel normal again anyway so maybe that's the best I can expect.

Hey Lilysma, think i've been on one of your threads. Hope you're feeling a bit better

I did manage to ahve a good mothers day despite feeling sick with exhaustion. dh eventually got up (maybe he could sense the rising fury from me as I clattered around noisily downstairs !)He did some housework while I took Holly and Dominic to the park. Ds slept and dd and I played netball.I have to say I am still pretty good even at 41 ! Got home to an immaculate house and then we all went out to lunch. So, all in all, a good day. ds was a monkey this evening though. I bf him to sleep and went to put him in his cot but dh had left his baby bath which he no longer uses in it so I couldn't put him to bed. I was so as it totally woke ds and he thought he had woken from a lovely nap! I was still getting him to sleep 1.5hrs later . Think he has gone off now so am off to bed. My mum is coming up tomorrow so I will get some support for a couple of days. Makes sucha difference. Night all.

morning all. cruise glad you had a good day after all and that your mum is coming to help. just think your ds and dd one day will be saying the same about you when they have babies that don't sleep!
ginger how lovely is your dh for arranging a picnic. If you read any of the threads yesterday from mum's not having a good day due to their awful partners makes you realise how lucky we are.
Tibsy glad dd gave you a bit of a lie in as your mother's day prezzie.
I had a lovely day. we all had tea and toast in bed whilst i opened my cards (one from ds in dh's bad handwriting to make it look like it's from him) and one from dh saying how wonderful i am! (full of love for them both today
we then went out for lunch with mil and drank bottle of champagne between us. definitely takes the edge off!
ate chocolate for the rest of the day and watched family stone on sky movies. cried my eyes out at the end (think i was slightly pissed!)
anyway hope you all managed some sleep. catch you later

glad some of you had a good mums day. i had fairtrade chocolates and wine and watched Lost. the boy didnt remember it was mothers day night though, and his sleep has got WORSE if thats possible: he was up 6 times before 11.30! gave in and had him in the crook of my arm allnight after that, which doesnt do my sleep any good, my dp slept in the other room cos he was going crazy.
yesterday my dp said he hates his life, and i still feel miserable that he says that. but i know how he feels. sometimes i wonder if ishouldnt have had a baby, i dont think im cut out for motherhood.
i miss my old life, and i am sick of feeling under the weather and exhausted all the time. my dp is ill too always, and his back is too bad to help sometimes, and i resent them all. hes off playing a gig on wednesday, and is dreading it cos he has to stay up late, and i dread it cos im alone with our so-diffficult baby,and oh, no peace.
am off to nap with my boy now, will probably feel much less moany and victimy afterward! i used to be such a fiesty, optimistic woman! will it ever get better?

Help my 11 month old was a good little sleeper, now he see's his cot as a torture chamber and wont sleep we have to get him to sleep and lower him in. He has become a nightmare recently, thought he was hungry so stuff him with porridge before his bath and bottle, then thought he was teething, now i just think he is trying us on. Tried CC without success probably gave in to early, just felt sorry for the neighbours why should they be tortured. Can anyone help

morning all.
cruise - i'm glad you had a good day (grrr) about dh and baby bath tho hope you enjoy your time with your mum

bampa - sounds like you had a good day lol at your emotional reaction to family stone, am sure it was because you're a warm, nurturing and empthic human being and not cos you were p***d..........then again!

maebee - you're feeling so down. its hard too to hear that dp feels that way. do you have any other support close by? its awful feeling that way, i remember going thru that when i had ds and some days, i just wondered what the hell i was doing. it does get better tho and eventually some semblance of 'normal' life does return. motherhood is a HUGE adjustment especially when you have a non sleeper too. if you need to talk, i can give you my email or tel number. we're all here for you

oh and homer, welcome
sorry to hear its all gone pear shaped.
we have lots of ideas, and sometimes a few answers.
bampa has a ds a few months older than yours so developmentally will have been thru what you're going thru now.
will be back later, dd needing some attention

maebee it DOES get better. We've all been where you are.You're just tired and everything seems crap when you're tired. Is there anyone at all who could babysit for a few hours to let the 2 of you go out. even if it's just 2 hours over dinner/bath time and you can be home for putting to bed. I honestly find ds gets easier every day. Once they hit the year mark and become more independent life settles down. Ds has started sleeping better than ever and is so funny now (a good laugh always helps.
Like tibsy if you want to email away from mn you can CAT me. Same goes for all SIFTW sisters

oh and welcome homer. Ds is 14months this week. Don't know if i have any answers but i can try x

8:30pm - 6:30am with one tiny waking at 9:20pm . That's 10 hours. Ten glorious hours! . of course it is bound to be a one off and needless to say i woke at 5:30 and coulnt get back to sleep. but!.... TEN HOURS!!!!! YIPEEEEEE

OH MY GOD cruisemum that is fantastic. You must feel like a new woman today.