'Sleep is for the Weak' for anyone with August/Sep 06 DC's

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GM, Cruise and anyone else with LO's born around August/September 06' - this is a support thread for when you have no clue as to why your LO is doing the exact opposite to what they were doing last week and when you are thinking WTF????
Post on here and we shall all compare notes and comfort each other!!

sorry co-sleep thing was for gingerninja. I do think they wake for comfort. My ds always sleeps loads better with us than in his cot beside the bed. anyway i'm not nazi on the subject but if it helps why not

x posted here with some of you!!

ginger, as you know, i co sleep too, and also under a quilt dd settles better, not sure if its the warmth or simply the reassurance and comfort. whatever it is, i wont be giving it up anytime soon and dp is happy with the arrangement too so thats good.

and hi cc21, glad that your lo is still having good nights, we're ever hopeful!

Tibsy and Bampa makes me feel better. Thanks. I think DH quite likes it too, seems to have got over the worry of squashing her.

ginger, christ!!! i'm about the same size as you too and thought 7lbs 15oz was bad. [crossed legs emoticon]

mornin maebea.I know what you mean .I didn't have sex for over 4 months,coz I felt so traumatised by the birth.It was really quick.My others had been long labours,this one took me by suprise.I'd planned a home birth throughout,and last week midwife decided it wouldn't be a good idea,as they thought baby was huge,so went to hosp,and during very quick and intense labour,visualised a 10lb baby ,then vontuese and horrible doctor,she was born 7lb13!Ev fine in the end,but with procedures etc I felt so traumatised,I couldn't go there for months,if you know what I mean.It took a lot of courage to have sex,now we do,and I feel healed almost,for taking the plunge,and facing my fears.She's such a mellow baby,a real pleasure to be around,apart from the sleep issue!

ginger diddo on christ!!!! I'm 5'5 and about 9 st and ds was 6lb 11. makes me look like a wuss!

bampa, was that 'dildo' or 'ditto' on christ!!! ha ha ha

Proudly puffing out chest emoticon. Cough, and only gas and air.

shit meant ditto you cheeky monkey

quick question do you think it's bad to take ds to playgroup this morning? he seems much better and i would love a coffee and chat to some people with faces! know it means spreading his germs to all those others which is bad(?)

A germ shared is a germ halved in my oppinion. I'd go

ginger lol, you are wicked!!!!!
totally agree with you however share and share alike....

thanks girls...better get a move on. started at 10. catch you all later x

ooops gotta go, cutey patootie just woken up and got to take her to her group,...if i see a child full of cold in the corner, i know who it is bampa!!!

I'll be wearing a red carnation.....

bampa - go for it, I risked it the other week when DD had a cold and when we got there all the others had it too! Shows how desperate we all get for adult company!
Not too bad a night here, DD slept from 7 - 10 had BF then slept till 5.30 BF then up at 8. Think I might even feel slightly human today - I think that may be down to the fact that it is sunny and DD was in a good mood for the first time in about a week

Is anyone going back to work soon? I can stay off until next Sept but am thinking about a gradual return a bit before then. Still don't know if I can face going back FT and if they would let me do PT as it is a senior role with lots of extra hours usually.
I really need to make up my mind therwise Sept will be here and I won't have done anything about it.

Hope you all have a good day.

morning
ginger the 8lb 11oz has impressed me but not sure how big 81/2 stone is? DS was 6lb 6oz and we were so proud of our 'big' baby. Doctor kept telling me when I was pregnant that he would have to go to the nursery because they were sure I was going to have a tiny baby. I am 5'3 and 47kg (sorry I only do kilos for adults) I had a trauma free labour, managed to get through with no drugs I actually thought about sleep through the whole thing! Had 2 stitches and DH and I were back at it within a few weeks. It's scary at first I would suggest LOTS of ky jelly and now it's just like before for us (obviously different for all you cc ladies ) both DH and I agree that we would choose sleep over sex, our favourite topic is "how much would you pay for a good nights sleep?" and we try to outbid eachother.

Ds just gone down for the night am hoping for at least a repeat of last night but we'll see

Lol at the germ halved theory

ginger - ds was 8lb 2oz and i am 8and a half stone too. did it on Gas and air in 4 hr intense labour! A change frm dd who was 42 hrs, ventouse, forceps, episiotomy, 3rd degree tear, anal fissure two weeks later (worse than the labour ) still only had sex once (I think i am repeating an earlier post here -sorry!)
tibsy - ta for thoughts. I have lost all perspective on what a good night is now! ds settled at 7:00pm. just lately our settling down has been fantastic by recent standards when it was taking up to two hours. He woke briefly at 8:15 and 9 for a quick suck. He then woke at 12:30am, 2:45am, 5am didn't settle till 5:40am, and up for day at 6:45am. Don't quite know if that is good or bad anymore . I guess really, it is awful since he is capable of doing 10 hours. I know that the only way round this is for some crying and refusal of boob but I am not strong/energetic enough!
cc- I was thinking about you at around 5am this morning! Wondering wher you hd gone. give us an update/outline of your nights now and how you acheived them please.
Glad you are settled

ruth - that is a fantastic night. Well done you

Hi Cruise,

A run down of my night is as follows (you did ask...).
Bath at 6.30pm, wind down time then 8oz bottle about 7pm. She usually has between 6-8oz.
Put to bed after bottle, sometimes awake sometimes not. If not she usually gripes for 10-15 mins with music machine on and settles herself.
I normally go in about 7.30am to find her wide awake!!!

She is on 3 meals a day now, lunch & dinner with a dessert of yogurt/fruit. She has been like this for about 3 weeks now. We have had some night wakings but she no longer gets fed. If she really crys then I give in but only give her an oz or so. I've become a militant mum after a few nights of 8hrs sleep.

I think our good fortune is a combination of age/food/the fact she no longer has boob to comfort suck on/being very active during the day. She literally wears herself out through rolling and a strange crawl where she drags herself with her elbows. She's exhausted at bedtime.

To add she has about 2 naps during the day. About 3/4 hour in the morning and 1-1.5 hours in the afternoon.

Not sure this helps anyone much as she has done most of it herself. just take heart that there is light at the end of the tunnel and your lo's will settle...just in their own time it seems

By the way the extra slep hasn't improve our sex-life....I still can't be ar*sed

cc thanks for that. how old is she?

hey cruisemum and gingerninja...how long did it take yr fissures to heal, and what did you do to help it??

everyone re: sex: so reassuring to hear other peoples shyness and issues over sex, its so weird being all teenage again and thinking how you just have to go through with it! im even shy about touching myself, though it helps with any afternoon naps when you can get them! {wink} although whenever i think about my vagina, i think of my baby, which is so unhelpful!!

everyone re: sleep...more importantly! i might be repeating myself, but something i read which keeps me sane in the early hours, is not to be aiming for "sleep all through the night", but an average sleep. so for my 5month old, 2-3 times is ok. it helps me be less angry to remember that! i also heard that "sleeping through the night" means 12 til 5, so thats more achievable too!! maybe, like being a good-enough parent, getting good-enough sleep is ok. dont aim too high! maybe other people arent as grumpy and impatient as me, but those things help me.

tibsy - giving the babyrice at lunch rather than dinner does seem to be helping, he's less fidgety. thanks so much! a big glass of wine for you!

my bad news is that ive got a tooth infection, and i can only open my mouth wide enough to take in soup. i was going to a restaurant on saturday night, with my dp, but if im not better will have to call it off. i swear i never used to be ill before i had my little one, and now ive constantly got a cold, or an infection, or something. tiredness, breastfeeding, or just old age???

oh, and mine was 8lb 15 when he was born, and im 5 3, but im quite sturdy...nearly 10 stone...and was sure i could push one out with no trouble!!! ha!!!

i know what i forgot to ask!!
because my lo (does that stand for little one??have i got it right? {blush}) was colicky and windy, i always put him upright after feeding, and also to sssh him to sleep. now i have to do that every time. does anyone else? how can i get it so i can get him back to sleep without putting him upright? cos even giving him a cuddle lying down doesnt work.
actually, sometimes it does, but not as much as i'd like!

Ruth, I've delayed going back to work until the end of Aug which just about gives me enough time to sort out child care. What a nightmare that is. I want to go back to work and I will be going back part time but I have such a long commute that I'll have to look for something a bit closer to home. It can take me up to 2 hours to get to work somedays so I'll not see DD for those three days which kind of defeats the purpose of having her I guess.

Maebea, my fissure has never really healed. I've had it for years but sometimes it bothers me and sometimes it doesn't. Trick is not to get constipated which if you've got IBS isn't always possible

Cruise, power to you and your birthing. Even tho it was my first I knew it would be a quick one, seems to be a history of them in my family. We're obviously built for child rearing!

Someone asked what 8 1/2 stone was. I think it's about 53kg but I still work in old money so don't know the translation I'm guessing.

Well, DD has discovered rolling on to her tummy the last couple of days so lets hope that's worn her out. She didn't seem interested at all in rolling and then all of a sudden she's rolling everywhere. Odd isn't it. She's still refusing baby rice although sucked on a bit of mango this morning. This weaning thing is very complicated I've given up before I've started.