High Needs baby support thread

[LittlePixieMa]

Any of this familiar?

1 baby needs to be constantly held
2 feeds frequently during the day
3 feeds or comfort sucks through the night
4 won't sleep alone
5 HATES the pram and/or car seat
6 takes short naps
7 doesn't like being held / left with others
8 gets bored or over stimulated very quickly

Feeling exhausted and want some support from others with spirited fussy babies

If so join the club

Back to waking a million times a night! Lost count how many times he woke! Knew the good sleep wouldn't last!

Anyone got any match sticks to keep my eyes open?

TofO you okay? Haven't 'seen' you for a while

Oh no pixie I hope he does some good napping for you today!

DD was a bit sleepier last night and not as sniffy... Hoping she's over the worst of it. She actually slept til 6 instead of 5! (Probably due to her being ill!) obivously there were still multiple wake ups.

She's boob snoozing now!

Sorry to hear there were multiple crap nights going on last night. Same here. He woke about 9pm so I took him to bed, fed him and put him down, then the effing cat decided to scratch on the door furiously. He NEVER does that?! It was so loud it woke DS! Took me about an hour to settle him and then he didn't sleep for a stretch of more than 90 mins all night. Zzzzz. Pass the matchsticks this way too please!

Hey all
How's your day been? Still need match sticks under my eyes! Soooo tired.

Little pixie is asleep, went for a late nap at 6, but he's still asleep....... If I let him stay asleep a. I'm stuck on the bed with him and b. Will he wake and then not sleep tonight?!!!

No idea what to do!!

What did you do pixie?

I've felt crap all day. Can't wait to go to bed! Just watching the strictly final. Wish there wasn't so much talking!

I left him asleep, big mistake.... He's now wide awake

Today I have been mostly.... Trying to get dd to nap! It's relentless. It'll get better soon, won't it?! I'm trying white noise playing all night tonight! Every day I've got some sort of new experiment, fingers crossed! Hope you both have a better night.

How did the white noise go Db4d? Haha, I've tried and bought so many things! 2 different bouncers, electric swing, 3 different white noise and womb apps!! Haha

Bad bad night. My fault though. Info eat dairy or eggs it gives him bad wind which wakes him a lot as he tries to parp. I had an egg sandwich yesterday.

How did the white noise go Db4d? Haha, I've tried and bought so many things! 2 different bouncers, electric swing, 3 different white noise and womb apps!! Haha

Bad bad night. My fault though. Info eat dairy or eggs it gives him bad wind which wakes him a lot as he tries to parp. I had an egg sandwich yesterday.

Not a brilliant night here either. His cold seems to have revived itself and he's a bit chesty. Might phone the out of hours. He doesnt seem v happy. We started the day at 5:45 too. He's not usually an early waker so I'm struggling a bit! DH is playing golf which is probably just as well as its a bit miserable here at llama towers!

Did you see someone llama? Hope he's feeling a bit better.
DD woke herself a few times coughing last night so not sure the white noise got a fair trial! I think I've given up too easily on other machines/apps in the past! We put it on really loud too. Will report back.
I spent from 5 - 6am pacing the bedroom swearing shh-ing DD back to sleep. Got another hour out of her but she was lying on me so I didn't get any more sleep! She hasn't napped a lot today but has been quite happy? she's asleep now, on me (for a change) 😬

Oh no, poor little ones full of cold, so many things going around :-(

Db4d no I didn't take him to Dr but wishing I had as he seems bad again this afternoon. A bit chesty and v miserable. I gave him calpol at about 3pm and he brightened up a lot but is cranky again now it's worn off. Not sure what to do. I'm worried about his chest. He sounds fine breathing now while I'm feeding him but when he cries he sounds a bit rattly.

We tried white noise but I didn't think it made much difference through the night but I think it does help with falling asleep.

Poor little llama - perhaps call the out of hours dr, will probably chill you out a bit xx

Took him to Dr and she made me feel like a neurotic first time mum. Anyway he is fine. Cough sounds worse than it is and she said it just needs to run its course. I am reassured anyway.

How is everyone else doing?

DS had a nap in the buggy today. Three times in a week. A breakthrough!

Llama - you're not neurotic, think it's always best to get things check, plus we pay so much tax and NI --we should go more often to get our monies worth

Wow, pram nap!!! How?!!! DH decided to take DS to town in the buggy yesterday...... Big mistake, but was handy to put shopping in and plough down annoying Xmas shoppers

DS did his first 'real' poo today, poor thing cried so hard. Must be scary after months of runny ones.

I'm currently lying on the bed with him, with one boob out!!

Always better to get these things checked out!
DD keeps waking herself up by coughing. Sounded worse today. She won't let me put her down to sleep so I am marooned on the bed with her on me. I haven't had dinner and I'm desperate for a wee 😩
Is that a moving buggy or stationary llama? DD will only sleep in the buggy if there's continuous movement!

Poor little pixie with his scary poo!

So he's done 3 pram naps in the last week. I'm hoping it's not just cos he's sick. He's fallen asleep when I've been pushing him about but then I've been able to park it in the hall once home and he's stayed asleep for 20 mins ish each time. Amazing! I had to keep going and looking at him to make sure he was ok. Hoping this is a breakthrough and not temporary. I've not really done anything to make these happen other than persevere with the buggy.

My DH always insists on putting ds in those awful baby seats in the trolley at the supermarket. I have to disown them while I do the shopping and DH ends up carrying baby with one hand and pushing trolley with the other. I always do the supermarket with ds in the sling and he quite enjoys it.

I am also in bed with boob out.

I've just found this thread - please can I join in?

I have a 4 month old dd. Since she was born she needs to be rocked to sleep, lots of sushing/singing and bum tapping. She never, ever naps by herself. All everyone does is give unsolicited advice (that I should let her cry it out) and now she's reached the dreaded 4 month sleep regression. I'm on my knees with exhaustion here! Could do with company/support :)

Llama that is awesome, go little llama napping in the buggy!! I never persevered with it, couldn't cope with the crying.

Welcome shadow, yes do join us!! Coffee?!
The 4 month sleep regression is a killer! Little pixie only woke a few times before that. Then was every hour, now (6.5 mo) it's all over the place! It will get better......

Bad night here, up a trillion times, then yapping away at 5.30 so I plonked him on my husband and said go sling him, which he did. Then passed him back asleep 15 mins later, and he continued to wake every 20 mins.

Need a triple espresso here, and matchsticks

Thanks Pixie ! Sounds like you've had a tough morning so far. We have too! She woke at 12am so gave her a dummy, same at 1am and at 1.40am I fed her. She then woke at 4.30 and dh fed her and rocked her to sleep. He'd wait a good 20 mins and go and put her down in her cot and despite snoring a second ago, she would then start screaming 😴 this went on until 6.45 until I took over. Tried to Co sleep with her but only managed 20 mins. Still...It was a better night than the previous night!

I wish I liked coffee, I may need to train myself because tea just isn't cutting it atm!

Morning all

Welcome counttheshadows I know what you mean about unsolicited advice! I might be speaking too soon but I'm glad I followed my instincts to pick DD up, babies need physical contact imo.
I don't know how it'll pan out but I'm working on the assumption DD will do things in her own time!
And as everyone keeps saying, they are babies for such a short time.
The sleep regression seems so unfair, just when you think you're in a reliable routine! dd used to be more predictable too.
I have a friend who advises me the boob may not be enough now and asks repeatedly if i've started weaning yet... I doubt a teaspoon of carrot mush is going to make her suddenly sleep through and start taking naps of her own accord! We're going to wait til after all the fuss dies down after Xmas to try her on something. She'll be almost 6 months early jan.
Sounds like you're doing well with the buggy llama hope it carries on!
De ja vu here, 5am wake up again. Managed to get her back down 6-7 again but did I sleep? Noooo!
In need of a strong coffee and food but again marooned on sofa with DD asleep on me! Atleast I can MN!

Thanks for the welcome death :) The unsolicited advise really winds me up. People keep telling me I'm wrong for letting her nap on us; apparently we should put he down and let her cry herself to sleep. That's not for me though, and she won't get herself to sleep no matter what we do. One day she went a WHOLE day without a nap because we were trying not to rock her etc. So if this is the only way she naps then so be it!

I'm also getting the whole "breast milk isn't enough for her. Try some baby rice etc". I've decided to stick to the guidelines in my area of weaning at 6 months and doing BLW. Personal choice, but feel it's the right one for us, but will people just respect it and shut up? Noooo!

Are any of you going away for Christmas? We are going to my mums Wednesday - Sunday. We've always used the moses basket before but she's too big so she's in the cot bed at home so dm has got here a travel cot. I'm dreading it :( I'm so worried that her sleep will be worse in a strange place/strange bed.

Crap night here too. Up a trillion times and crying as well which he doesn't usually do during night wake ups. I must have fed him about 10 times. He was snotty and coughing though too poor mite. I think we have hit the 4 month sleep regression at the same time as being struck down by this awful cough and cold bug. I ended up sleeping with him on my chest a couple of times last night, no mean feat as he weighs a ton but it did mean he slept a bit.

Re the buggy, I kept taking him out in it but taking the sling as well and each time he started to melt down I'd take him out of the buggy and put in the sling. It meant I spent a lot of time walking around with a baby in a sling pushing an empty buggy feeling like a bit of a tit but it does mean his buggy tolerance has increased!!!

Zzzzzzzzzzzz

I am with you on getting naps in however you can! When DD hit 3.5/4 months and started napping less etc I read a lot of stuff saying babies need to be taught how to 'self soothe.' It may well work for babies with different temperaments but DD wasn't having it! Was relieved when I read that actually, self soothing was a developmental milestone and can't be taught. I mentioned upthread a book that explains it all but I'll try and post a link to the info!
I'm not really looking forward to Christmas to be honest. I think DD will be a bit overwhelmed by it all but I've decided to go with it and I've told everyone we're going home if it goes wrong!
Sounds like a good strategy with the buggy/sling switch llama! Poor little guy doesn't sound well. Having similar with DD she's lost her voice a bit 😕