The dreaded SLEEP REGRESSION support and solidarity thread!

[Tiredemma]

Here we are. Sleep deprived, emotional and craving all things sugary just to survive the day.

bah.

He's taken ds out while I go to dr.

Do you think he read my post?

Sorry for rant ladies

I remember when DD was about 5 weeks old- I woke up one morning and said "God I wish I could stay in bed all day" - His reply was 'well you can cant you? you have nothing to do all day"

^^ THIS

This made me realise that he really doesnt get it, and as much as I try and educate the fool it will never sink in. He now readily accepts that in terms of being helpful with the baby- he is of very little use to me.

He woke me up one night at 4am, frantic because his earplug had got stuck down in his ear canal. I wanted to fucking kill him- he couldnt understand why I was so pissed off about being woken, by him, to help HIM with an implement that he was using to minimise his disturbance from DD.

The only thing that saves him from being killed by me is the fact that he will do all of the housework.

Oh Tiredemma I'm sure it wasn't funny at the time but that did make me laugh.

I hate to join the partner bashing (honest!) because mine is generally supportive, but this morning I could have stabbed him. DS's first nap was a disaster nap, 15 minutes' worth, so about an hour & a half later while DP was entertaining him I said, several times, that he'd be needing another nap soon. I went upstairs to do something and could hear sounds that in no way corresponded to DS being calmed down ready for napping. Came downstairs to find him IN HIS JUMPEROO

This came after DP had had a mini rant about me 'moaning all the time' earlier. It's not like him to be so mean and he apologised profusely afterwards, but as I pointed out at the time, he'd feel a bit moany if he'd been woken up repeatedly every night for five weeks! Oh and I even got the 'that's parenthood' comment too. He's now doing the washing up. Good.

Cor I shall be watching this thread! My 5 month can only be described as a shat sleeper. He wakes pretty much every hour and I'm bk to work full time! I hope this ends soon :-(

Ginger, mine is 18 weeks.

So last night my MIL was staying and swapped rooms with me and just brought dd in when we needed feeding, a couple of times she just cuddled her back to sleep, so I only got woken up twice - I feel human again today!

Mil thinks that dd's sleeping bag is too tight which is waking her up, it's a new one I brought a few weeks ago so going to try a different one tonight. Will let you know if it makes a difference.

Well after my mini melt down earlier, instead of taking both boys out this morning I went out on my own with ds1 & left baby with DP! Done as all good, not long been home & now dp has gone out with baby & seems to be enjoying quality time getting to know our new little man a bit better!!! I don't feel particularly refreshed as busy with ds1 but it's lovely a little bit of time just the two of us, I wonder what he makes of it all sometimes must be strange all the time we have spent on our own in his 4 years of life & since ds2 arrived in sept we are rarely on our own!

Also sorry tiredemma your post did me chuckle as well!! Bloody men bless them hey they need a lot of support haha!! Now I'm a mum of 2 of them - note to self do not bring up ds's to be useless wallies!!!

Well a small miracle here tonight, put ds in his cot at 7 - a few cries, murmurs lasting 10mins & he was asleep & has not yet woken up!!! I'm not holding out any hopes that I won't be up with him numerous times through the night but I am so chuffed to have eaten my tea (with my ever suffering DP hehe), read ds1 his bedtime stories at leisure & generally had an evening!!
Hope others are faring well to!

Boo, that's brilliant! Fingers crossed for you x

Great stuff!
Not too bad a start here. Took DS up at 7.30, he was settled enough to put down to sleep by 7.50. Went in to him at 8.30 to preempt a waking after first sleep cycle (just a bit of shushing). He then woke properly at 10.20, I did try leaving him as he was quietly amusing himself but then the crying started, so I've just fed him and am hoping he'll go back off soon. Isn't it 'fun' guessing how the rest of the night will go?

Ds has woken every 2 hours so far since I last posted, and hungry every time. You should have heard him when I just tried to resettle him with the dummy, he was beside himself. Will I ever fill this child up??!
Anyone else having a shocker tonight?

Yup noisy, but it was my 3 yo again, I lost count after 8 times and to top it off my dh was watching tv in bed (when I was asleep) and woke me to tell me she was shouting so I had to go to her. He is now still in bed having a fucking lie in
Dd2 had quite a good night and a really good stretch of sleep from 1:30 - 6:30 despite the fact that dd1 was shouting on average every 30 minutes.

my dh was watching tv in bed (when I was asleep) and woke me to tell me she was shouting so I had to go to her. He is now still in bed having a fucking lie in

How on earth did you resist the urge to not smother with a pillow?

Tiredemma I really don't know how I managed it. The more I think about it, the more annoyed I am getting as I appreciate he can't really settle dd2 but he could have quite easily have gone to dd1. I think we are going to be having words when he finally bloody wakes up

I had shocker last night too!! I cannot for the life of me fill my baby's tummy. I ff and in the early hours my steriliser broke as did my perfect prep machine that I use to make feeds quickly. OH had a strop because he couldn't sleep for indigestion. I'm shattered after weeks of getting up all the time and I'm having to put OH needs above my own because he's worse than I am when tired. I'm getting no breaks whatsoever as LO struggles to nap. Felt really positive yesterday and when lo hadn't woken after 2hrs of being put down I stupidly got excited that he'd stay down a while. He got up after 2.5 instead. Up All night and up for day at 5.45am. Right now if I had a minute of time to myself I'd use it to bawl my eyes out

Ah nibby that's how I felt the other day but you somehow dust yourself off & carry on!! A nice hot bath & a cuppa can be very therapeutic I find!

My night was looking so promising down with minimal fuss at 7 (no wakings so I had a nice evening as in previous post) then 11.30 & that was it every hour & a half- 2 hours I don't know how I can get a longer stretch out of him later in the night as unless I'm going to go to bed at (impossible option as still have ds1 to tend to) I'm not going to really benefit from this sleep! Also 4 hours seems miraculous but this notion alone is irritating me slightly as lots of baby's at 5 months manage 6+ hours easily on a regular basis!!! (Sigh)

Boo they pay us back for daring to dream that things might just be improving! My insomnia kicked in again last night too so I was awake from around 12.30 til gone 5, including right through one of DS's 2 hour sleeps

Madame, 5 hours - that's great. Shame about your toddler though, that's just typical isn't it!

My night was 1 hour, 2.5 hours, 2 hours, then 1.5 hours, so not great but at least she went back to sleep each time after a feed. Then DH says "she had a good night last night" - this is DH who sleeps through all the feeds!

Well I tried to explain to dh why I was so
pissed off annoyed last night but he just didn't get it, I haven't got the energy for a row so will just spit in his coffee instead

Tonight is looking like another dreadful night, dd1 is barking and over tired and dd2 wants constant boob!

Sleepy vibes to all babies for tonight (not likely to listen though are they!). We had 3 wake ups last night then up for the day at 5.15am which is the bit I find hardest to cope with. There is something about 5am, it's definitely my witching hour. My sleep patterns are now so fucked that I was wide awake from 11pm - 1am while DD was asleep. It doesn't help thar she still has a cold, it's like sleeping next to Darth Vader.

She's barely napped today apart from a couple of half hour periods in the car and now seems to have reached a place beyond tiredness. It's ludicrous. I can see when she's tired but nothing I do works - at various points I've tried feeding, rocking, putting her down by herself, cot, pram, nothing works. I refuse to drive round for 2 hours, I'm so sleep deprived it's not safe. Instead of sleeping like any normal child she just whinges or cries. I'm getting worried about the impact on her health and development. Each day recently she's been a nightmare from about 4pm but won't nap and I don't want to put her down for the night any earlier than 6 - 6.30 for fear of 5am becoming our regular getting up time.

Sorry for long whinge! After 7 weeks of rubbish sleep I'm not thinking straight and am completely at a loss.

Snap Artemis I've spent all week (I know that's not really that long but still) being more home based, working on a routine & naps in cot etc, like you yes ds has a nasty cold but apart from the first section of sleep improving (generally 7/7.30-10.30ish) the rest of the night is 2hourly waking max, often only 90mins between feeds!!! He has never slept brilliantly but I used to keep saying "he is only little still 2months, 3 months, 4 months but he is a couple of days off 5months & regardless of sleep/ activity/ feeds during in the day he seems incapable of going to sleep for long chunks through the night! So if it makes you feel any better - I am also at a total loss!!! ????

Hi ladies, I've already decided that tonight I'm co-sleeping at the first sign of things being shitty. I'm too utterly exhausted to get up to feed/resettle a baby who is clearly not going to sleep for more than 2 hours at a time no matter what I do.

Whatever it takes for you to get thru i say noisy!! We were away last weekend for a relatives birthday celebrations - MIL was worried as had leant her travel cot out but had done both the spare rooms out for myself, dp & both ds's - she was very apologetic that I would have to bedshare with the baby all night - I felt a weird sort of relief!! No feeling
"naughty" for not putting him back in his crib!!!!

God we're already off to a crap start (mind you a good start means nothing!).
Been trying and failing to settle DS, who is clearly very tired, for an hour. I rocked him and sang to him til he was almost but not quite asleep, you know, like you're 'supposed' to. Put him down in the cot, he woke up and started whingeing. I picked him up, rocked and sang again, his eyes closed. I put him down, he woke up and started whingeing. I picked him up, rocked and sang, he carried on whingeing. I lost patience, put him down and walked out of the room. I'm too tired. DP brought him downstairs and we sat in the dark while he rocked him to sleep. At least he's quiet, at the moment.

Think I'll go to bed soon. Eyes are on stalks.

I love DS of course, and I only say this out of sheer frustration and exhaustion, but why the fuck won't my fucking child just fucking sleep anymore??!! ('scuse potty mouth, makes me feel slightly better)

Noisy I have been saying the same thing, using the exact same words, about my DD! OH thinks she might be a psychopath (sorry, a 'fucking psychopath'). I think he might be right