The dreaded SLEEP REGRESSION support and solidarity thread!

[Tiredemma]

Here we are. Sleep deprived, emotional and craving all things sugary just to survive the day.

bah.

My ds never has so not sure if that makes me feel better or not, I should imagine it's extremely frustrating if they once have?? I don't think my ds can sleep for more than 4 hours in a stretch ever!!!! My mum said tonight is he sensing I'm stressed cos I start getting tense at bedtime & therefore he "plays up" - interesting notion! Note to self - must relax!

Well, after a couple of nights of respite (ie an amazing 2-3 wakings) we are back to every hour. Or, as it was between 2-4am, every 15 minutes.

She's not hungry which is good I suppose but needs help (and a dummy) to get back to sleep.

Tried leaving her rather than rushing in straight away but she just gets more worked up and then is harder to get back to sleep.

What to do?!

If you find the answer winespider please she as lots of us mumsnetters are at a loss!!

Same pattern for me - down at 7.30 not a peep til 11 then every hour & a half!!! Tired.com & really fed up of feeling like this! No more baby's for me ever!!!!!!

*share with us not "she"

Just to confound me, DS slept from 8.30 til 1.10, woke to feed, went back down (asleep) at 1.45 and slept til 5.00! I then brought him into bed so didn't check the time after that but think he fed twice before we got up at 8.

This counts as a good night for us after Saturday's debacle. The only thing I can think of that may have caused it is wet put him in his door bouncer thing yesterday before bath time and he was jigging away for ages. Maybe it tired him out?

DP has urged me to stop reading what the experts say i 'should' do to get baby to sleep better because he thinks it's just stressing me out when it doesn't work. He has a point, but the fear about creating bad habits really does play on my mind.

Last night was back to hourly awaking after a couple of nights of two hourly wakings!

Does anyone else struggle to fall asleep? I'm usually up by 9am but despite being very tired at 9pm in the evening, I can't fall asleep until midnight. I can see who DD gets her sleep fighting instinct from!

Last night dd went down at 8 but then woke 4 times before we decided to get her back out of bed so we could watch mr selfridge in peace (kind of), She then went to bed at 10.30, woke at 2.30 then up at 6 for the day. That's a good night by recent standards. Just don't know why she won't settle in
the evenings now.

Fingers crossed for everyone tonight.

My little man has gone down far too easily tonight, he fell asleep feeding which isn't really a good thing, he still has this dreaded cold so is ridiculously snuffly!!! Dreading the night ahead but I guess it can't get any worse!!

Hello all and welcome new joiners

I've been pretty much bed bound with flu for 4 days, DH has heroically looked after ds and brought him to me for feeds & naps. Still co sleeping of course, but having reviewed my sleep records (ahem, obsessive, moi?) it would seem likely we are out of regression and what we have is a new normal. The difficulties we have are entirely engineered by me

Ds has done a few longer stretches, including 5 hrs, which he's never done before. Never in the history of mankind has anyone been more pathetically grateful for 5 hrs sleep as flu suffering, pain wracked, sweating, shivering me.

We just need to iron out a few issues.....stop feeding to sleep, stop co sleeping with ds hand on my boob ALL NIGHT and get him in his cot. Pah ha ha ha ha!......All before June when I go back to work and will not be there for every bedtime.

Going to lurk but bow out for the time being. Good luck all no doubt see you on another sleep fred!

All the best Cake glad to hear things are improving, it gives me hope! Get well soon

DP put DS down at 7.45. Like yours Boo he went down easily, but we've already had our first wake up. I have agreed to let DP resettle him however he wants without worrying about 'rules' as I'm under orders to chill out, lol.

Hi ladies-I just replied in another thread in here similar to this one but OMG- knackered.com!!!! My
Bubbins was doing pretty good sleep
Since I co-slept with her from 5 wks on-and continued to do at least 3hrs min in each go when we started transitioning her back to her cot over Xmas...but since 17.5 weeks (now 19) she's been awful!

Settling her for her day time naps has only just returned to 'normalish' and manageable but her night time sleeping is still horrendous! Waking constantly and having to treat me like her personal vending machine!! And unlike before when either feeding to sleep or co sleeping were both secret weapons-now they are the only 2 methods I can use at night but she still wakes constantly crying until I shove a boosum into her mouth!!! Arghhh!!!

Great to see that I'm not the only one experiencing this but I sincerely hope that since her day time napping attitude has semi returned to normal that her night time will follow shortly!!!

Exhausted!

Welcome Gidget.
Bit of a weird night for us last night. We finally got DS settled just after 9, then he woke at 11.45 and DP gave him a bottle. This was our new strategy to see if he's really hungry when he wakes and to give me a break. He downed nearly 7oz so I think we have our answer! Dp got him back to sleep by 1.00 and he next woke at 4.45, so I brought him into bed to bf. Then slept on and off til 8.30. Annoyingly it took me a while to drop off, but you can't have it all eh.

We're having nap refusal issues this morning, due to teething I think. Or maybe DS is trying to tell me he doesn't need his morning nap anymore. Considering he usually totals about 2 hours a day in naps WITH a morning one, this is slightly perturbing!

It's all gone a bit quiet here - is that good or bad?!

We now have teething making DS unsettled at night

I was about to 'return' last night.

DD woke up at 0045 and just would not settle at all- really unlike her.

Not sure what it was but she didnt go off until 0230- I was pacing the hallway like a demented cat.

God, when will this end. I am full of nothing but dread at the prospect of weeks of anything from 4 to 10 wakings a night. It's been every 15 - 30 minutes between 3am and 5am since the weekend. And that's after 10pm, midnight and 1am. Sharing it with DH but even so.

Sometimes I just want to pull the duvet over my head and leave her. I know she's not hungry, she just can't self soothe. It's really affecting my ability to enjoy her, not least be aide she's unsurprisingly grumpy the day after a bad night.

I've only gone quiet as I don't know how else to express my tiredness & my despair at ds's frequent night wakings!!! I'm lucky in that I'm having minimal trouble getting him in his cot at 7ish a bit of whinging but nothing unbearable only lasts 5mins but generally from 10.30-11.30 he has his first wake & then wakes every other hour so generally 1,3,5 & often awake with a big poo & up for the day at 6.30!! He is very good in the day I should add drops off for his daytime naps by himself so not sure if there is any answer to the frequent night wakings!!! Help???

Oh dear, we have one unhappy baby here. DP is upstairs trying to settle him and just when I think it's gone quiet he starts again. I don't know if it's overtiredness, teeth (have given him Calpol just in case), wind or something else entirely, but he's really wailing and I fear we're in for a long evening.

Last night after 2 resettles he properly dropped off at 8.45 til 12.15, when DP gave him a bottle. He was really restless and the poor bloke was up til 2.45 with him. He finally got DS down only for him to wake a few minutes later, at which point I brought him into bed with me for a quiet life - he was hungry again! I don't know how many times he fed before we got up at 8 but I think it was more than usual and he was definitely more unsettled. No idea what's going on

These baby's are a mystery for sure!! How has he been through the day? Is your DH off from work? My DP went into work a bit late for me today & let me have an extra hour in bed - in bed all alone I should add ooh it was heaven!!

DS has been fine today - he's definitely teething but hasn't seemed too uncomfortable.

I think we've established that the problem tonight is in the 'something else entirely' category, namely he doesn't want to go to bed! DP brought him downstairs so we could eat our dinner (in the semi-darkness) and he was fine lying on the sofa, no tears whatsoever! They're back upstairs now and I can still hear DS having a bit of a moan. I don't have the stomach for CC (yet!) but I can see why a couple of my friends whose babies have been bad sleepers from the start have resorted to it.

That was nice of your DP Boo I got a much-needed lie in on Sunday while mine took DS downstairs for a while. He works from home so I do get a cup of tea brought to me in the morning and once he finishes work for the day he's already here for 'dad time' to start, so it could be worse.

Do we think others have gone quiet as they have cracked it?? If so I think they should come back to tell us how.....????

Oh bloody hell DS is still resolutely refusing to go to sleep for DP, who has far more patience than I do by this time of night. I'm shattered and praying he'll drop off soon as I want to go to bed!!

I find myself trying to work out what I've done 'wrong' to cause it. Did I let him have his last nap too late? Was it because I gave him a few spoonfuls of solids? And so on...

Interesting about the solids isn't it a lot of people hang on to solids as hope that it will help with the sleeping however, many say it hasn't worked!! I have to say (as I've said before) first part of the evening (touch wood) I'm lucky with ds, it's after the first waking at 11ish things go from bad to worse!!! So stormy here as well tonight & we sleep in the loft conversion= extra noisy & a bit scary!!!

I wish we had cracked it Boo but sadly not! I'm just baffled by the randomness of it all. A 'typical' night here is 2 - 3 wakings then up for the day between 4.30 and 5 because she just won't go back to sleep if she wakes at that time. But it can be better or worse. The 5am starts are rough. Daytime naps are another battle ground. She just doesn't go to sleep unless in the pram or occasionally car seat. She would rather have a meltdown through over tiredness than actually sleep. Today has been awful, she's been whiny and miserable all day. I've got her to nap by feeding to sleep but only because she was exhausted and if I so much as twitched she'd be awake straight away.

I'm sorry to report that solids have made no difference to her sleep except perhaps to make it worse. I think DD's digestion is struggling to adjust and she's getting lots of uncomfortable wind and a bit bunged up. She has just basically farted herself awake and DP is trying to settle her but the crying is escalating so I think I'm going to have to feed again .

long time lurker...son almost 10 months and is still such a crap sleeper! went to bed at 7.30, woke up at 10 and is still screaming the place down. going in every 5 minutes as me being there makes no difference! would bring him into bed with us but he is not comfortable and wakes pretty much every hour. please tell me this gets better- almost 10 months without sleep andci am a broken woman.

The solids thing is interesting as one friend whose baby has been a shocking sleeper has just started getting better nights out of her since starting weaning (coincidence?).
Hope your dd settled ok in the end Artemis.

DS finally settled at 9.50 and slept til 2, have just fed him and about to put him back down.
DP was going to give him a bottle when he woke, as we expected this to be around 12. He prepared one at 11.30, as I discovered when I woke at 1 and found him asleep on the sofa. Had no idea when DS was going to wake at that point so I told him he may as well go to bed. So that's one wasted bottle but after last night I didn't want the poor bloke up til who knows when.