The dreaded SLEEP REGRESSION support and solidarity thread!

[Tiredemma]

Here we are. Sleep deprived, emotional and craving all things sugary just to survive the day.

bah.

Alone

I give up with this fkn phone

So were all running out of advice for each other as well now - oh dear!!! I'm lucky DP has let me have a couple of extra hours in bed dragging myself up now like you cake I feel bad now as he is working late but I tell myself as he was in the spare room he is had at least 6 hours uninterrupted sleep!!!

Hi everyone. Hoping you had better nights. I guess we kind of are having a better time..In the Night anyway. Lo goes down at 7.00 till 9, has a top up of milk and sleeps til 2am at the moment. Great! Then all hell breaks loose! He babbles, cries, won't feed, will feed, wants to be rocked, doesn't want to be rocked! It's taking 2 hrs to settle him. Sometimes he'll them wake after 40 mins, other times he'll sleep 2hrs til 6am. He used to sleep 11hrs at night with one feed (Between 7&8hrs after falling asleep). We loved this!! Now he's having around 9hrs a night, constantly eye rubs and his naps are the bane of my life. They are often so unsuccessful the next one is due! He'll sleep in car so to avoid a cross (and even worse sleeper) I'm afraid to say I do go out in car just to get him down. But I only have car 2 days a week so for 3 of those I'm tearing my hair out. Going out walking for an hour (despite the fact he yawns and eye rubs at the time) and he just won't settle. The afternoon nap is utter carnage. The morning one is a battle but we usually get there with me being trapped under him from 1.5-2 hrs! When does this end!!!!!

Sorry I know some of you have it a lot worse!! I could cry for you. It's torture for me but at least I can sleep at 7 til 2 (oh picks up 9pm top up feed). Hope it passes for all of us!

I'm back. Again.
Settled around 9.30 then up at 11 and not back down till 1.30...then awake at 3.45 and a poo??!!! Then back down 4.30 and up at 6.15
Arrrrrrrrrrggghhhhhhhh!

regression?? when is that going to happen?? my ds is 15 weeks and has only been sleeping in a bedside bednest thing for about 4 weeks (sling or lap before that) and he still wakes at least 4 times a night for feeds of around an hour....backwards is not an option! ps we sleep with hairdryer recording on constant loop.....without it he wakes up every 30mins...I cant even hear it anymore.

nibby I'm with you on the nap issue, it's bloody torture isn't it?

Hi bel yes I too uttered the fateful words....pah, regression....regress from what, he wakes every 2 hrs already? Little did I know what he had in store for me. Mwahhh ha ha ha......

Oh cake it's foul isn't it!!! I'm at a loss..Some days I'm beaten and have to accept no nap all afternoon. By 5 he's furious but I'm loathe to mess with night routine (Bath 6pm bed 7 ish) because then we literally have no routine whatsoever. I guess on a morning I can say he will be down at 9am but it can last from 1-3hrs. Morning he usually rises at 6 but it can be 5.45 or it can be 7!! And people bang on about routine. Well how can I do that when he's getting up and sleeping so randomly. Once he's asleep it seems wrong to wake a tired baby at a delicate stage but that means no routine at all in afternoon because depending how long he's slept depends on next nap and that's no consistent at all (if getting him down as easier I'd be inclined to aim for 1.5 hrs per nap 3 times a day)

And wake him up after that time

We have a routine, as in things follow a pattern but not a schedule. So I know he'll be tired 90 mins after waking but can sometimes go 2 hrs between naps. They are generally either 40, 80 or 120 min naps but it's so unpredictable. I try and make sure he at least has a quick 40 winks around 4pm otherwise bedtime is even more horrid than usual! Also he wakes at 6 daily for a poo(!) then can go back to sleep sometimes or will wake for the day. Sometimes our day starts at 6, others 7 or 8. I never get him up before 7 though. But something always spoils it, like our cold at the moment.

Went to a friend's this afternoon and while there DS had a 2 HOUR nap!!
He hasn't done that for ages. I tried to put him down awake but he was hungry, so I did end up feeding him til he was almost asleep then taking him off the breast when it was clear he'd stopped drinking.

We shall see if sleep does indeed beget sleep in this case. He didn't wake til 5pm so I'm not sure how well he'll go down. I managed to get him settled by 8.00 last night, he had his first wake up at 11.45 and only woke once more before 5am, which is good compared to the last few weeks. I'd love a repeat of that but I know better than to be too hopeful based on recent experience!

We live in hope noisy! We've had our worst couple of nights in ages last two nights - never have too much trouble settling him (hope I've not just jinxed myself!!) it's the constant/ frequent night wakings every hour & a half last night it's madness at nearly 5mo!!! He has had a nasty cold but seemed a lot better today so if tonight's awful I'm going to be beside myself that this is our new normal!!

Hi all, I'm very late into the thread but here I am, another very sleep deprived mummy!
Dd is 17 weeks & is waking every 1 - 2 hours. I can almost deal with the wakings but it's the new desire to be awake for 2 hours in the night that really tests my patience! DH is away at the moment too so I have toddler
& baby to deal with on my own during the day.

I'm about a week into this sleep regression
and didn't realise it was an actual thing until I found this thread. DD was doing 6 - 7 hours at night so I'm pretty gutted about this! DD1 was a shocking sleeper until nearly 2 so I'm really hoping DD2 stops this soon.

Feeding to sleep at the moment (I know, I know) so we'll see what the night brings - good luck everyone!

Ah bless you sunshine it's very exhausting! I nearly had a little cry earlier then ds surprised me by going to sleep fairly easily in the end! Question is how long he will stay asleep for & how much settling he will require when he does wake!

1 failed attempt at putting her down so far, followed by a half hearted attempt of getting her to self settle. She sounds a bit blocked up so put some baby snuffles on her and back to feeding - funny, she is always able to take a
bit more ... been here an hour already.

Welcome Sunshine
Fingers crossed for you Boo. We've had one resettle so far since putting DS down at 7.30. He wasn't properly awake so he went back off quite quickly without needing a pick-up. Watching this space...

I look forward to seeing how we've all got on in the morning - if I'm posting on here at 2am again you will know my nights not been so good!!

Colds definitely doing the rounds at the min sunshine!! Also look at all these lucky DP's getting to stay at work late!!! I'm sure mine doesn't still need to be at work but is staying behind for the peace & quiet!!!

I have already resettled dd 3 bloody times so my early night has gone out of the window!! Could strangle dh as he is moaning he is tired twat

how rubbish mafamej....I ve developed a special look of disbelief/distain for anyone that dares tells me they' re tired (unless its another mum of baby! ). we're on first waking of the night....could have just two more to go or he could wake half hourly for rest of the night. its probably best I don't know at this point.

Well, a rubbish night for me again. Dd did 2.5 hours, then was really unsettled for the next 3 (so I didn't sleep), then did another 1,5 hours and is now wriggling around crying a bit after my 2nd attempt at settling. Toddler will be awake soon!

Yes my DH is away and said on the phone last night "I don't sleep when you aren't with me" - in other circumstances that may sound sweet, but right now all I think is - grrr, all lies!

Hope you others all got on better than me.

I've put several mornings in a row now - "it's going to be a long day"!!! Night here not as bad as my previous 3 of hourly wakings in fact pretty good up 11-11.45 then small miracle he slept til 3 has been very restless since though, very snuffly settled bit better at 5.30 then ds1 up at 6!! Are there enough biscuits in the world??

I think our sleep has been hijacked by the cold. Took an hour to get her down last night then awake at 9, 10, 11, 2.30 (this one for 90 minutes of crying including feed, nappy change, calpol, another feed) and 5.45 (more crying). OH took her downstairs at about 3.30 and rocked her back to sleep. Feed to sleep is a non starter at the moment due to her cold, and if I can't do that she just does not go back down for me. If I try to rock her without giving her the boob she goes mental, even if she's just been fed. Crying before a feed I can understand but crying after one is just unreasonable! I feel really bad that OH had to get up, but nobody has a monopoly on sleep. He doesn't work in a dangerous occupation, nobody is going to die if he has a bad day, though he doesn't always see it like that! We are managing to alternate out bad moods at the moment so one of us is always grumpy. TFI Friday, we don't sleep any better at the weekends but they just seem easier with two of us around.

I've been writing this post for ages so no doubt have x-posted with lots of folk - hope other poorly little ones have fared better.

Do you know Artemis if my DP tells me he is tired one more time (when he has been in the spare room having full nights sleep for months) I might lose the plot!!!

He's working very hard at work apparently, well you know what I feel like I'm working harder than ever at the minute whether I'm on maternity leave or not!!

In the end, after a dreadful start we had a really good night. Fed dd at 11 ( when I posted last) and I didn't hear a peep of her until my older dd woke her up at 5:45!!!! I can't believe it, I'm now racking my brains to see if we did anything different but I honestly think it was a fluke.

Similar night to Madamej - loads of wakings from bed time until 2am and then next thing I knew it was 7.10am !