The dreaded SLEEP REGRESSION support and solidarity thread!

[Tiredemma]

Here we are. Sleep deprived, emotional and craving all things sugary just to survive the day.

bah.

Well said!! It's hard work all we can do is our best! And if all else fails there is always cake!

For people who this isn't their first aswell I think it's best to try very hard not to draw comparisons I find myself doing it & it doesn't make me feel any better!!

Back to the terrible night of hourly wakings . My DH has been in the spare room since the very start, but does one night in the weekend with us. I can't wait for baby to settle and to have him back, and yes it does take a toll on our relationship, but we just keep telling ourselves, this will soon pass!

My baby is very gassy and I'm wondering whether we are missing an undetected allergy. She has confirmed milk and soya allergy, and egg intolerance. I'm wondering whether wheat or gluten may be a problem?

Cakebaby, poor you! I really feel for you. Don't worry about sleeping on the side, it is perfectly safe. My DD has been sleeping on her stomach since about 3 months, she wouldn't settle any other way.

We had what I suppose I could call an improved night last night. DS 'only' took just under 3 hours to settle instead of over 4 (I had to feed him to sleep mind you) then slept for 4 and a half glorious hours. I fed him then he slept for another 2, after which I brought him into bed and I'm not sure how often he woke but we both got some more sleep.
Not counting any chickens, just enjoying a rare day of not feeling dead on my feet!

Wow noisybrain four and a half hours is fab my ds used to do that frequently now it's a rarity!!! Everynight I think tonight is the night yet it gets worse however today he is full of cold!! Was going to dedicate the week to working on his daytime naps in his cot but I can't while he is poorly!

On the plus side feel a touch better as I've just eaten half a packet of rich tea biscuits & dp is working late so I'm having take away for tea as well & I don't feel even a teensy bit guilty!!!

You enjoy that take away you've earned it!
Back in the heady days of DS being 12-18 weeks old he'd usually do a 7 hour stretch on average but that seems like a very long time ago now...

Oh blimey no my ds has never done that I'm probably being a bit soft with him as I have nagging worries something might not be quite right with him he has a large what I thought was a birthmark on his side but we've been referred to the paeds at the hospital as apparently it could be a sign of something more serious!!! Very stressful so although I generally just get on with things as normal every now & then I get upset so cuddle him that bit longer than I should (than the books say I should!!)

Oh boo how worrying, is your appt soon so you can get some peace of mind? Chuck the sodding books out and cuddle away!

Ds been very tired whiny baby today but has had loads of naps, think he's feeling poorly.

How weird cake my ds has slept more than ever as well today!! He is full of cold though & I rarely give him calpol but I did earlier as he felt so hot so maybe that has helped him or he is catching up from last night & preparing for tonight!!!

Appts in march feels like a lifetime away considering this all started before Xmas I'm taking weird comfort from this though that can't be that worried or we would have had earlier appt???

Yep thats how I would view it too.

Ds is also full of cold as am I. He is miserable, sneezy and snotty. I was wondering about calpol, too but he's not hot. Neither am I but I have aches and pains so I bet he does too poor thing.

Fingers crossed for your little guy Boo Like you say, you'd like to think that if there was any major concern your appointment would be a lot sooner.

So, at today's weigh in my HV happened to be there and I told her about our current sleep woes. She's referred me to someone who I think she said is a nursery nurse - that title doesn't sound quite right, but anyway she's part of the HV service whoever she is and one of the things she covers is sleep issues. She called me today and I have an appointment next Friday. I never even knew this kind of help was available! I don't want to pin all my hopes on it (if she just tells me I should try CC I may punch her, lol) but it gives me something to focus on for the next week or so.

Hope she is better than the nursery nurse who works with our HV's - I mentioned our problems to her re sleep a while back she told me If I wasn't prepared to leave him to cry then there was nothing else I could do, she also told me would be pointless doing that (CIO) until he is 9months old as apparently he doesn't have the capacity to remember & learn until then!!!! Oh final thing she said (I was at boiling point at this stage) - if she had a pound for every mother who had asked her this question!!!!

Booand Noisy we have a nursery nurse with the HV team too. She does sleep clinics and told me the same thing, that I would 'have' to do CC or CIO. I queried it as DD was 5mo at the time but she basically told me it was the only option unless I wanted to put up with sleepless nights forever. Fecking useless woman. I also overheard her telling a woman struggling with BFing that the best way to increase her supply was to feed the baby formula - exactly the opposite of what you should do. I would like to know what training these people get.

Rant over. I'm anticipating another shitty night. Cakebaby we have colds here too. DD is currently on my (increasingly sore) boob for the 3rd time in 90 mins in an attempt to get her to sleep. She's had one nap today and woke up from that over 5 hours ago. DP working late and not home yet. My mother came over today so I could have a rest and informed me that the reason for DD's crap sleep is that I pick her up when she cries. Good, glad we've got that sorted then. I am so sick of this!

Oh god, people stating their opinions without being asked do my head in! The HV who I spoke to about sleep trotted out the usual play in cot, stick a muslin in your bra blah blah. Hadn't heard of shush pat or PUPD when I mentioned them. Checked we were co sleeping safely & said he was too young for more hardcore methods like cc/cio which I don't want to do anyway.

Colds are horrid aren't they? I can hear him coughing, its like a comedy cough an adult would do still I'd rather this than the 3 weeks of d&v we were treated too

I've come to the conclusion it's luck of the draw you either get a sleeper or you don't!!!

Our cold is pretty bad here I am struggling tonight, I'm completely knackered from last night & I know similar is ahead of me tonight - he is calpoled up, baby bonjela well rubbed in, baby olbas oil splashed everywhere - nothing else I can do! Hate them being poorly when they are so tiny & don't understand but also in need of sleep myself to deal with/ tend to him properly!!

Oh dear, I'm not feeling too hopeful about the appointment next Friday then!
When she rang me earlier she asked if I was weaning yet and mentioned something along the lines of I may not see an improvement in DS's sleep til I get him on solids. So much for the official line of wait till 6 months eh.

A lot of nearly nodding off then screaming going on here, I've been trying to get him in his cot semi conscious but he is having none of won't be fed to sleep either - definitely getting more difficult - hopefully it's his cold/ teeth & will be on the mend again soon as this is emotionally & physically exhausting!

Also Artemis - an auntie of DP's (thank go we don't see her much!!!) told me my whole situation with my ds was ridiculous - since when did my baby know better than me, who exactly is in charge if I want to put him to bed then jolly well put him to bed how is it that difficult??!! Obviously on further questioning turns out her two dd's were absolute angels from the minute they were born!!!

Why is it ds can sleep soundly on my bed, with me sniffing, sneezing, nose blowing, coughing, drinking, mnetting, fidgeting....but can't sleep in his cot attached to the bed, 6" to the right?

I think maybe my mattress is a bit softer than his, any ideas how I can safely make his more comfy/snuggly? Would it be daft to put a fleece blanket under his sheet?

Probably anything is worth a try!!! Terrible night here so far - every hour & a half!!! Could weep

Urgh, so so poorly (self pity) ds slept from 800 to 1120 which is a miracle, then from 1 we saw every hour with coughing, sneezing, calpol, olbas oil, too hot, too cold dirty nappy til he nodded off at 415 and woke at 7.

I have a temp, fluffy white tonsil & feel awful. Do I go and wake DH who got in at 1am and is on another late shift tonight or struggle on?

Hello ladies, please may I join??
Dd2 is 7.5 months old and was an amazing sleeper until the day she turned 16 weeks and also got a virus. A good night here now is 5/6 wake ups and my main issue is I have to go to her straight away as she wakes dd1 (just turned 3). She can't self settle and is fed to sleep, starting solids/ learning to crawl have made no difference :-(

In an awful kind of way it helps to know I'm not alone!

I've come to the conclusion it's luck of the draw you either get a sleeper or you don't!!!

Sadly, I think this is very true.

Ds2 never slept
DD apart from those horrendous few weeks from 15 weeks till last week has been a relatively good sleeper- Nothing I do as a parent has changed.

Hello and welc

Oh FFS not this carry on again

Welcome madamej familiar story, my ds had a virus at 16 weeks and it all went horribly wrong from there! It does make it easier to know you are not sl