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Phrases that make you weep

142 replies

KatieLily12 · 02/05/2013 10:22

So I have a difficult sleeper. I've been on here at various points desperate for advice. However, thought I'd start a giggle lighthearted thread for a change.

What phrases make you want to just face palm whenever someone says them?

My recent one, when I was explaining why a time wouldn't work for us, was 'why not come anyway and they can sleep in the other room while we carry on?'

I think I did well to laugh rather than openly weep.

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JesusInTheCabbageVan · 02/05/2013 10:26

"Sleep when baby sleeps."

Er, I think you'll find THAT'S THE PROBLEM.

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KatieLily12 · 02/05/2013 10:29

Yes. I find that really hard when endlessly walking her in a sling. In rain, hail and snow

Yup. That one always makes me chuckle too

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Queenside · 02/05/2013 21:25

Babies don't NEED night feeds after 6 months.

Ok well I'm sure she'll happily and quietly wait for 9 hours til morning to be fed then.

melonribena · 02/05/2013 22:05

My friend said to me about 9 mth old ds,

When he wakes in the night, would he not just play in his cot for a while?

Errr no, he wakes up and demands to be fed!

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KatieLily12 · 03/05/2013 19:49

Another one I love

'Its a phase'

Really?!? Shouldn't it have phased by now?????

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dribbledon · 05/05/2013 08:41

I like 'don't worry-he won't be doing it when he's 16!'
And 'oh he won't want to be in that sling forever'.

Really. Is that seriously meant to be helpful? I can't see beyond nap battle at 11am let alone the next 15 years and 9 months.

GingerPCatt · 05/05/2013 08:47

Yeah the sleep when he/she sleeps. Ok, then when do I pee or shower or eat? DS did not like to be put down.

The 'he won't be doing that when he's 16' saves my sanity as I get up with him again in the night. I also plot revenge fantasies where when he's a teen I wake him up with an air horn at random intervals in the night.

Clarella · 05/05/2013 09:17

"I have a huge sleep baby problem. my lo wakes twice in the night"

oh if only

TwentyTinyToes · 06/05/2013 05:14

"just pop them does awake but sleepy" err how?

"just stroke their head and shssh them" if only it was that easy!

LillyofWinchester · 06/05/2013 06:16

"Have you tried pat and sssshhhh"

"Put them down when they're drowsy" er, thanks, I've never seen my baby drowsy though. That's the problem.

Cravingdairy · 06/05/2013 06:20

'You should buy some earplugs'. Jeff off.

mummykat12 · 06/05/2013 06:59

Anything along the lines of "routines are so important for sleep". Though they would be angry tears because of the implication that it's somehow my fault, if only I had their superior parenting skills grrrr!

tethersend · 06/05/2013 07:06

Yy, all implications that 'you need to get tough'

I would hand this baby to wolves if I thought it would help.

SoulTrain · 06/05/2013 07:20

Yy to "will he not just play quietly?"

No - he's 2. And I don't want him to be awake at that time playing!

Bearcrumble · 06/05/2013 07:34

My mum - "just offer her a bottle of water every time she wants boob in the night".

Yeah.

nextphase · 06/05/2013 07:35

"I'm shattered, pfb has been waking up at 6.30 recently"
"All babys should be sleeping through by 6 months"
"mine has done 6pm-7pm because I insisted on a routine"

I've had many years of this.....

emmyloo2 · 06/05/2013 07:39

My favourite is my SIL who looked completely confused and puzzled when we said we had a sleep consultant come and advise us for our 2.5 year old. She said "why is he waking up in the middle of the night. Why do you need a sleep consultant?"

How the fuck should I know why he is waking up? Hence we engaged the sleep consultant and he is still bloody waking up. It's the underlying message of "what are you doing wrong?" that pisses me off the most. If I knew why he was waking up, don't you think we would bloody fix it!

The other one I love is someone who said to me "We never allowed our children to come out of their beds at night". Oh I see. What did you do? Strap them into their beds? Subtle message of, we are much better parents than you - we are much more disciplined.

Whatever.....

emmyloo2 · 06/05/2013 07:41

Oh yes nextphase - I have heard the "he sleeps well because we insisted on a routine".

I lived and died by a routine and it still got me no where. Why don't people realise it's the nature of the child not how great a parent you are, which dicates sleep. Drives me up the wall!

Ledkr · 06/05/2013 07:42

Mine is two!!!!
I was telling my mum some of the ridiculous comments yesterday.
"Have you tried a sticker chart?"
Yrs when she's screaming at 3am It's a good time to offer her a sticker.
"Just leave her to cry"
"You have to be tough" What does that even mean??
And my intimate favourite response
"Oh mine sleeps from 7-8"
I have several people buried under my patio for saying that Grin

Ledkr · 06/05/2013 07:43

Ultimate obviously

TheFallenNinja · 06/05/2013 07:47

Last orders please.

Noggie · 06/05/2013 07:47

All advice re overtired or not tired enoughShock these make chuckle and have cold sweats at same time x

PoppyAmex · 06/05/2013 07:51

"You should sort that now before she can climb out of her cot"

Ah ok then. I will.

"She should be sleeping in her room" (ad nauseum)

EMS23 · 06/05/2013 07:54

I'm also a routine queen and DD2 just does not sleep. DSS and DD1 are pretty good sleepers so I'm sure it's the child rather than anything we're doing wrong.

So when I get "oh you must instil a good routine" or a "and I assume you've tried everything" I feel like killing people.

'Leave her to cry'. Right oh, apart from having explained that its a method I'm fundamentally opposed to, what should I do when the screaming wakes the other DC's up? Leave them to cry too? Sounds like fun at 3am doesn't it? Sod off with your great advice you smug bastard!!

freelancegirl · 06/05/2013 09:45

Surprised no one has mentioned 'you'll create a rod for your back' yet. That one makes me want to punch people - I can't believe people actually use this phrase! Again it's - oh yes good point, I'll change it now shall I? Thanks, ive been sitting here twiddling my thumbs until you says that. What shall I do - oh just put him down sleepy but awake you say? Ok then, thanks!