High-Need Baby Support Thread III

[TitaniaP]

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

yes beyond the excuse making stage, i got told today that my baby is 'spoilt' because she would only settle when being entertained/cuddled, also that because she is 6 months she should be sleeping better now. also lots of comments about how small my baby is. she is extremely strong, far more spirited (too much for my liking) than other babies ive seen, and raring to go. yet people keep going on about how small she is for her age.
i am starting to lose patience but its because im so tired and fed up. usually comments don't bother me. but the small comments annoy dh, and we have a relative coming who have a baby big for 6months and i am hoping the comparison won't get to him too much thats all we need!

Thanks Puddle. All the goodies gratefully accepted and scoffed already .

And I will also take the compliment about working, as I'm back full time. It's tiring though, and induces guilt in itself, but no option i'm afraid.

Hope u had an ok day Spanner?!

Yeah it was fine - I'm knackered after being up since 5.30 and only had 4hrd before that but it was good to see everyone and to do my job again. And I finished early so I got to pick DS up from nursery he's self settling for his naps already, he's never done that at home! He's still not eating a lot other than yogurt but that's nothing new.

My boobs are feeling better too thanks to antibiotics/expressing so hopefully I've nipped that in the bud.

Positives of having a high needs DS:

• he is one of the cutest babies I've ever seen
• he loves being in a crowd of people (as long as they don't pass him around from one to another)
• this week he had learnt to clap, high five and shake hands
• I love the way he likes to hold my hand and stroke my face as he goes to sleep at night
• he's currently chatting to my boobs - what sounds like "godgodgod!"!

Oh no baby LWL - hope she's better soon! The pox is going around our village but I'm hoping we can avoid it for now.

Puddle thank you for giving me some light, even of the tunnel seems very long at the moment!

Welcome to our new ladies

enjoyed reading your positives spanner. LWL i hope the chicken pox passes soon, not nice.

Puddle thank you also for your kind and thoughtful words, it really helped. also, i think you are pretty amazing for all that you have come through. i cannot imagine dealing with severe pnd, high needs baby and marriage stress as well.

dh out again tonight...he is going out in an hour and is only just back from work. im exhausted, im making the most of this hour break and really hope she goes down to bed for me with no problems as i just want to crash....and hoping the dog won't howl and howl for dh when he's gone...is there a thread for high need dogs? lol mine is sooo demanding!

Hey newbies .

Joyful - DH emailed them to say neither of us would be able to attend but that we both hope they have a wonderful day. He added in a patronising comment about how we wouldn't expect them to understand until they have children themselves (cheap shot I know, especially as they have made it perfectly clear that children are a tie and they never want them).

This afternoon (after a maternal lecture about the benefits of CC) I thought I must post something about being past the sympathetic stage and now into the 'you must be failing parents' stage. Great minds, huh? Classic quote from DM - "do you seriously believe that he isn't manipulating you?" Er, no. He is a baby. If he cries because he wants me then he just wants me. There are no weird mind games going on because HE IS 10 MONTHS OLD.

"high needs dogs"! Maybe you should start a thread

I too am in admiration of those who are back at work already. 8 weeks to go for me :(

Queen - agreed those "friends" are wankers and need to get over themselves..

Thanks for the poxy good wishes! I'm actually glad she's got it now and not when I'm back at work though.

Positives of high needs DD:

• She's the most alert, switched on baby I know at 9 months
• She can already handle a sippy cup and doidy cup on her own (until she goes to bang the doidy cup on her tray of course! )
• She can already say Mama, Dada and Mi for milk appropiately and is starting to wave bye.
• I love the way she gives "face hugs"...
• I love the way she lifts her face into wind and rain and grins - she's going to be a fine sailor. like her parents! :)

Well done babyWavey!!! Lots of words! Bless!

Well, I did think I was just being a bit pfb with the words - but it has been independently witnessed, so it's not just me! Honest!

Truth needs help choosing a wedding dress over on S&B. There are pictures of her bum and everything.

link???

Lurve wedding dress shopping - ((except when it was my own of course - but then he was a bastard so I might enjoy it more this time round :) ))

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/1443791-Whos-up-for-choosing-my-wedding-dress-for-me?o=1333652988229

I like the first one.

ooh! cool. yes first ones beautiful

I can't believe I'm being MN stalked! Should've just asked you lot in the first place eh? I'll be bringing all my bridezilla questions here now!

Wimped out of ordering any btw. Me & my bridesmaids are going to try on dress 1 again on sat to be sure, then I'll order it

I suspect i'm being optimistic in expecting to get married at all. Surely either DS or DP will. E spectacularly high needs on the day?

Just had a skim back through the last couple of pages (things move fast here!)

Am loving your positive lists. Also loving how similar our babies sound. Was it LWL who suggested way back on the first thread that inquisitive baby = HN baby? Seems to still hold true.

Queen - sorry your DH's friends are being arses about the wedding. You can come to mine if you like? Loads of kids, loads of activities, short meal/speeches, comfy feeding area, napping tent, on site babysitters for the evening do & no raised eyebrows!

ooh sounds like a fab wedding :)

Pls excuse anu typos from here -am typing one handed in the dark with poor poxed DD and CBA to correct them!

Who#s staying up with me?

Truth you look Amazing in that dress :)

Last night, DH and I decided to take shifts while DS works out whatever it is that won't let him sleep (crawling, maybe). So I crashed out at 8.30pm (although couldn't sleep for about an hour and a half, sigh) and DH was on baby duty, then at 1am I went up and DH came down. Feeling better this morning, despite having to deal with half-hour wake ups from about 3.30am. Brought DS into bed with me at 5am and did my DH's trick - hold him on his side and let him fiddle with your hair until he falls asleep. DH came in at about 6am to get DS, who was fast asleep clutching a handful of my hair, bless :)

Hope everyone else had better nights x

Oooh what a rough night! DP thankfully arrived home at about 1am, and once I had assessed his soberness, he looked after poor itchy DD until 2.30, then I took over. She actually slept 3 hours in a row between 3am and 6am! Then she was on-off til 8am... when we all were awake. So DP prob had 5 hours sleep, and me:3...

Tickle - that doesn't sound a good night either!

sorry for those who had bad nights. DH was out too last night and i did the late night feeds, then miracorously (Sp) when he came in he said he would dream feed her at 3pm (she wakes about 3.30) so i wouldn't have to do all the feeds. yay! meant i got a few hours sleep in a row.

attruth im sure you are so excited about your upcoming wedding, what a cool distraction! you'll be a gorgeous bride best wishes :) :) :) :)

plans for today anyone? we had arranged to meet dhs 2 mates for coffee today they want to see the baby, he said if iwas too tired i didn't have to go so i think i will use the time to chill out, do a yoga dvd and just unwind. bit boring i know but im just getting less social for now.

DP was away last night (what is it with these HN men? Do they also communicate and agree to all be out at the same time so that we're stressed and alone?) He went on a golf break with friends, but was last spotted updating his FB status 'MrTruth-to-be is at Hooters'

To be fair, I'm really pleased he went. He's been amazing with DS over the last couple of weeks and I think he needed a bit of a blow out. Hopefully he'll be incredibly grateful and nice and relaxed when he gets back so I'll get a lie in and treats this weekend. Plus, it meant I could just have DS in bed with me last night and got more sleep than I usually do.

Happy Easter all [bugrin]