High-Need Baby Support Thread III

[TitaniaP]

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

hey Attruth, you sound like you have a great relationship with your hubby to be:) im glad you got a better rest last night, and hope you do get spoilt now that he's home.

my dh has been working very hard lately and ive been giving him some nights out. he was good to me today - he was off and helped with the housework and now has taken dd out to meet his friends.
im too tired to too anything... i think i might be getting pnd but im not sure if its that or just due to my circumstances its hard to know. 6 months later is a bit late.

Really Jan? I worry that I moan about him too much on here! I do adore him though and he has turned into superdad over the last few weeks. It's weird; he's so impatient when DS cries overnight, but can roll a ball backwards and forwards for hours to keep him entertained during the day. We've agreed that he's in charge of playing and I'm in charge of cuddling

What makes you think you're getting pnd? How knackered you are today or more ongoing issues? From my (limited) understanding of pnd, getting it 6 months in isn't all that unusual. Do you have the energy to run a bath? Maybe just chill out and relax this afternoon. Dont 'do' anything.

i think its more of a case that with hn babies, we do not have enough resources to deal with what we are going through as a family, than it being a case of blaming/moaning about dh's. the pressure gets too much when there is so much need, but not enough resources to meet it and both parties are worn thin. we are bound to be moaning at dhs men are men afterall :) but you sound like you both have a good balance and understanding! If my dh said he was going away for the wknd with the boys, i probably would not be as understanding. (after a few tears and a few arguments, i would see it would do us the world of good for him to get away a few days)
sorry im rambling away here. i think im getting pnd because im losing motivation to do anything around the house, to go out and see any friends, to generally be bothered with anything that requires effort, im tearful much more than before and eating is not going well. then again i have been alot more tired the past month or so and things been difficult with dh so its hard to tell if its pnd or just a low phase.
can't wait till dd gets back to get some cuddles

Sounds like you're knackered & miss your daughter to me [hugs] Have you seen your GP? Might be worth a chat?

What do you have planned for the weekend?

Argh. DS appears to be pulling sequins off one of my tops with his teeth! Back with a longer post soon.

aw cute! dd is always pulling at me - my clothes face, everything she can get her hands on! and she doesn't have teeth yet!
i haven't seen GP, had a chat with the midwife though. dh is working tomorrow and usually mum comes up ... but i was just going to let her know not to come up as i just don't feel up to it. i don't feel like seeing anyone i just want to hibernate for awhile! on sunday morning im hoping to go to church and then maybe out for a coffee in the afternoon. how about you, are you getting any downtime this weekend?

thats them home now yay...

Hi Jan- hope u got your cuddles and they helped.
Just keep an eye on the mood though- if u are spotting the signs, now's the time to make appointment with gp, and not to let it go too far. Meantime, look after yourself with good nutrition and plenty of water, and get some daylight daily. Regular exercise releases the same amount of serotonin as a low dose anti- depressant . Take good care

I LURVE creme eggs!

My poor poor poorly daughter... :( She's absolutely covered in spots, in her hair, eyelids, body, nappy area, EVERYWHERE. And more coming through all the time.

AND I think I've eaten my bodyweight in chocolate today to cope with the now extreme lack of sleep [busad] [obese-bunny-emoticon]

so little man is on the mend. He's crawling around again and getting into mischief. He's still a bit weak though so we have to watch him. He fell over backwards last night just from sitting. His balance is a bit off too.

He managed a four-hour stretch in his cot in his room last night. I woke up and panicked as DH wasn't in bed, but was sleeping on the bed in DS's room. I worried that DS had woken up and I'd not heard him. Turns out DS was just having a lovely long sleep and I was keeping DH awake by kicking him, so he retired to the bed in DS's room.

My mum has come back with us and has been fab. The housework has taken a bit of a back seat recently, so she took DS for a couple of walks whilst DH and I blitzed the kitchen. DH even cleaned the tops of the cupboards. We also took 2 bags of stuff to oxfam. I feel like I like my kitchen again now, whereas I had been avoiding it.

I also had time to make some proper food and actually really enjoyed it (Thai spiced butternut squash soup for lunch and oriental pork meatballs in broth for dinner, both in this months good food). It was nice to have some good home cooked food, the last week with DS being ill, we've lived on takeaways. Not sure what that's done to my diet!!

So tomorrow we have family over for Easter. We were hoping for a BBQ but not sure if the weather will oblige. My aunt bless her has brought up the necessary stuff for an Easter egg hunt so DS will be carted round the garden! Obviously he's too young for chocolate though, so mummy will just have to scoff his. shame.

DS woke up about an hour ago and was in with me. Managed to get him settled back in his cot, but now I can't sleep. Typical.

Puddle - enjoy your hols and hope you got your suitcase closed.

Truth - that dress is beautiful, stylish & elegant. I'd have loved to have worn something like that, but needed something a lot more structured to contain stomach & boobs!

Jan - as has been said on here many times. Be kind to yourself. Also listen to mampigs advice. She speaks sense!

LWL - hope your poor poxy baby gets better soon. At least it's one out if the way.

Happy Easter all and hope you all have a good weekend.

thanks for advice Mampig. i feel a bit more able to tackle it after a better nights sleep and plan for a walk today beside the beach :)

thejoy hope you got your case closed and can lift it hehe, and have a brill time in Devon are you hotelling/staying with family/ caravanning? we would love a caravan holiday sometime, never tried it before with dh or a baby so be a bit nervous but it would be a stepping stone to proper camping down the line.

LWL big hugs to you and your dd its so hard when they are sick i hope you can get some help too over the weekend

Titania you sound like a fab cook! come to my house :)

Well, we didn't do shifts last night, but, after 9.40pm DS only fed at 1.15am and 3.15am. Which is an insane improvement (although doesn't take into account the myriad times we got up to resettle him or pop his dummy back in). Still crap really, but so much better than he has been the last few days. Think he's having some bad dreams though :( At a few points he cried out really loudly, but when we went to tend to him he was still asleep. Poor mite.

Titania Glad to hear your little fella is on the mend :)

LWL I hope your little lady gets better soon.

Joyful Have a fab holiday!

Morning gang,

Urghhh. Horrid night. DS slept for max an hour at a time and wanted to be up and at 'em at 5am. Made DH get up with him and stayed in bed. Just woke now and DS needs a nap so am staying put! Started really worrying last night - along the lines of, is there something wrong with him? Why can't he sleep? I'm hoping it's just developmental. He wakes up and pings into the crawling position ready to go.

Hope you're feeling better jan, Titania and tickle. Puddle, have a wonderful, restful break (if possible!)

Queen DS is doing exactly that as well. Straight up on all fours, rocking. So it looks like developmental, so don't worry! :)

DD does that as well...

Poor little kitten is really poorly, and it would be a long weekend! Our local OOH normally has about a 3 hour plus wait.... and they'll just say it's chicken pox and send us home again... I thought breastfeeding was supposed to make them not get as ill?!

Uh oh, DS just stood up by himself for a few seconds. Think walking is on the horizon...

Note he is not in bed .

Oh wow, Queen :) I hope you manage to get him to sleep soon. Sounds like he's too busy! I can't imagine my little man up on his feet. It's going to be a very weird, wonderful day when it happens!

Well done BabyKong :) Now go to bed!

Oooh how exciting babyKong!

Well done BabyKong, but off you pop to bed now. Mummy wants a rest. While you're there can you send BabyTruth a message on BabiesNet to tell him to stop trying to crawl in his sleep. He can't do it while he's awake, he's not going to be able to do it asleep. It always ends up the same way, with him on his tummy screaming. Thanks!