High-Need Baby Support Thread III

[TitaniaP]

Well as I'm awake I thought I'd start thread 3!

The high-need baby thread has been moved from breast & bottle feeding to sleep. In the early days of the thread I think feeding was a significant issue for many of the posters. I think those that post regularly on the thread would now agree that's it's mainly sleep that's the issue.

So if your baby fits the following criteria come and join us for wine, chocolate, coffee and matchsticks as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Ah boo, what did I miss? We've never had a troll found these parts before have we?

I'm a troll. My baby actually sleeps through 12 hours, entertaains himself all day and loves long car journeys.

Well, apparantly self-soothing does not a better night time make! Didn't sleep any better or longer, and has been up since about 4am struggling with a blocked nose. Bless him :( Couldn't feed properly and howled when I put him down, so held him (unsleeping and fidgety) until 6am and then DH took him down so I could grab an hour of sleep (not that he'd got any either) as I'm working today.

DS has perked up a bit now, he's a bit less sniffly but is very dribbly, so could be another tooth coming in addition to the 3 in the process of coming in. Poor fella.

Oooh, troll! What did it say?

Can I join you ladies? I have a 9mo dd that still wakes 3 or more times a night and will only settle if bfed. She has started screaming in the car and will only nap a couple of times a day for about 30 minutes a go (though longer if I let her comfort suck).
She does at least self settle when first put down as part of the bedtime routine in the cot 50% of the time... baby steps eh!

Welcome Mumble and Strawberry :)

Yet another blocked duct. Sigh.

DS had a good first day at nursery but has picked up another cold already! Last night he found it really difficult to feed because his nose is blocked :( hopefully tonight will be better.

He refused to have any milk at nursery too, they didn't think it was concerning as he'd eaten 3 meals plus a yogurt as a snack and had water from a sippy cup but it's worrying me as I'm going to be out for 12hrs most days and it's a long time for him to not have any milk.

Hope the other poorly babies are getting better and everyone gets some rest tonight!

First day back to work tomorrow, only a training afternoon then back properly on Thursday. Just hope DS sleeps a bit better tonight!

Good luck Spanner - glad to hear nursery went ok today too (mostly).

Hope you get, erm, unblocked tickle!

Welcome Mumble :)

Well, DS had a pretty good night last night (well, perhaps 3 or 4 waking, good by our standards) back in our room after the mattress on the floor didn't work. He also has had two fantastic naps today - 2 hours this morning (I joined him...ah, did that feel good), and 1.5 hours this afternoon (I was with him, but not snoozing). I'm hoping that will signal a good night tonight. Ha ha ha....

I'm a bit torn about this whole moving him into his own room thing. On the one hand I know we'll have to do it eventually, and I genuinely wonder whether we're disturbing him. On the other hand it means I'll have to get up out of bed to tend to him, which will result in less sleep. Selfish I know! I'm pretty sure he does still need milk in the night and it's not just comfort suckling. How much is another question! And, I just like him being next to me. I also wonder whether moving him now, with the 9 month developments (I would say sleep regression, but I'm not sure how much regression we could actually have!), would be the sensible thing to do. I just don't know what to do for the best! I'm rambling really...

Hope you all had good days and have a good night tonight!

Hello all!! Finally got back here, been mad couple of days...
You guys move fast- trolls, new beds, new mummies, new snuffles, new blockages, and new nurseries!!! As I don't have sufficient memory left to remember all individually, I wish you all luck with it all!!!
I just hate trolls, nasty pieces of work.

We've had good couple of nights here. Wakening still twice, but settles very easily- still no teeth yet, but I can see the outline of several, so looking forward to that . 9 month regression- I've heard of that, no sign here yet, so I'm hoping for the best!! Ds has started cruising the furniture, and climbing my leg, which is adorable!! He's really getting a big personality too, and a bit of a temper if I'm honest. The vomiting has now turned into horrendous nappies, involving full change and bath, so can be hard work at times.

Spanner, try not to worry too much about the milk thing, ds is the same, just makes up for it when I get home. Good luck, I know how difficult and anxiety inducing it all is x

Well bugger me... Just watched DS on the monitor wake up, have a little moan, find his dummy, put it back in and go back to sleep... Again, I'm

Think I've been unblocked as well, still tender but no more big solid bit yay!

Good naps Jen! Hope you have a good night to match!

Spanner Glad your little one had a good day at nursery! Good luck for your first day back!

I think we've hit the 9-month development/wonder week in full force - little man has been so grumpy today bless him. DH said its been his hardest day with him so far, luckily I was working from home today and so could offer some support. He's doing brilliantly with him though :)

Yay! Glad blockage is gone- they r a bugger!!! Maybe that's what we have... Growth spurt/ developmental leap would make more sense!

I don't have the brain power to deal with all the updates either, but glad Tickle is unblocked, and Yay! for Mampig's walking little man! :)

Re water - I'm having one of my anxiety panics again - DD's stuffed with cold so not feeding so much, so I've been offering water in a sippy cup as I was worrying about dehydration - and she's drunk quite a lot! So I'm now panicking about water toxicity, and overloading her poor kidneys.... she's had maybe 2 oz water each time, maybe 4x today, and then this evening fed afterwards as well.. - that's OK isn;t it?

Yup, that's ok!! It's great that she's taking water at all!!! Why not just bf though, as that's all she needs, and it would reduce your anxiety. I sometimes forget just how useful bf is at times of trouble, like this evening when ds fell and landed on his nose and blood was everywhere
Anyhow, you've got all she needs right there in yer boobs!!!

And why did my score out not work

Typical, worked that time.... I give up!! Heading to the nest now, shouldn't be among the living lol

Difficult night here again and I've got the beginnings of a cold which I really hope DS doesn't get. The bigger he gets, the more difficult it is for the three of us to sleep in the same bed, DP normally ends up moving to the other room for some space as, for such a small person, DS seems to command an unusually large share of the bed.

I think I met a high needs toddler today. I met a woman with a very sweet but hyperactive little boy. She looked exhausted, she told me that her son still consistently woke every 2 hours through the night and had done this since birth... He was 2 and a half!!

Thanks Mampig! :) She was refusing to bf though a bit as I think she couldn't suck properly with her blocked nose, but a sippy cup was less effort. Ended up with her propped up on my chest from 12 - 3am, then she slept 3am - 6am so I had a 3 hour stretch...! Just wish I'd got some more sleep during the rest of the night but she was waking upset too often..

Oh the poor woman indeed. I bet that's what DD is going to be like..... :(

Hope you feel better soon Puddle

Lots of colds going on at the moment, hope all the babies unclog themselves soon. We're currently trying to avoid chicken pox, it's everywhere!

An currently sat in bed with wet hair with dd asleep on me - I hadn't realised how tired she was and so fed her... and she promptly fell asleep (not surprising given she was up most of last night). My hair isn't going to look great today... when left to dry naturally my regrowth fringe goes all out of control and curly. Uuuurgh.

Am hoping tooth number 8 is imminent or it's going to be a long few weeks

Horrendous night. And DH and I are barely speaking to each other now. Am starting to think that our sleep situation (and my unwillingness to let him cry it out) is starting to mess with our marriage. We're both so tired and unhappy it seems. I don't know what to do. I'd love to think that DS will sleep better when he's ready but in reality I don't know how many more months of this we can take :(

Fucks sake. So unhappy.

Oh tickle

Oh tickle, don't be blue. I know how you feel, DH and I go through similar periods and it makes me feel so lonely. I broke down last week (as you all saw) and DH has been much better since. I told him I didn't think he was helping as much as he could - had got to the point where I was doing everything, even bath time which was his 'job'. Think he didn't appreciate how fragile I was feeling but has now been brilliant. (Although he is as anti-CC as me, so that helps a bit.)

We kind of made a truce and a pact to be kind to each other and be on the same team - us vs the demon child. That means him doing more and me not biting his head off when he says/does something I think is thoughtless in my sleep deprived, over sensitive state. It's been working this last week and I feel a lot more supported. Perhaps you need to have a proper chat about stuff without sniping. I know it's hard though when you're so tired. Huggggggs.

What started the argument with DH? As you all know, DP and I argue a lot about how to deal with DS so i sympathise. It's hard enough dealing with HN baby without a HN partner as well! I've been getting my own way (path of least resistance, feed all night) for the last few weeks as DS and I are both suffering with a horrible cold (lots of that going round eh?) but I know it's going to blow up again soon.

I've got to say though, DP has turned into Amazing Dad during the day over the last few weeks. He's brilliant! Can play and play and play with DS for hours whereas I tend to get a bit bored and MN I'm so impressed.

I'm feeling very strange right now... Am still in bed, have cup of hot tea & papers next to me, there is no chance of me being disturbed... DS is at nursery. He's loving it! We've done every morning this week (after disastrous settling in sessions last week) & he's been great. He's drank from a bottle (!!!) eaten a little and napped fine. I'm amazed! It's such a reassurance. He's going for full days next week & then I'm back at work the week after. What am I going to do with myself while he's there next week?