Nothing wrong with change - but please don't change Mumsnet TOO much!

[Bobbins]

Because I love it as it is.

Of course ther is always room for a little improvement BUT it works very well for me as is.

i dont care if mumsnet goes bright bllue pink with dots on and has several chat rooms - i dont care for the chat threads - so i dont go on them - i dont want them banned - actually i dont care WTF you do with them. it wasnt my issue.

a nice shade of lilac gets my vote.

Custy ... don't be upset ... M2T is just feeling a bit got at at the moment ...
.... we love you Custy ....... your posts are the top ...
I agree with having a live chat topic ... good idea ...

A 'yes' to having a chat topic. That's what I meant earlier - not a chat room.

Some threads start out serious but turn into chat, but a "yup" to a "chat" topic from this corner too.

Well put Scoobysnax, you certainly haven't offended me. Criticism is not hurtful when there's clearly no insult intended!

BTW I vote for the chatroom topic idea (in case you hadn't counted my vote )

and Custy keep posting, I love your messages cos you cut the crap and have the nerve to call 'a spade a spade' and 'an actress an actress'

So it looks like there's a bit of a consensus growing for us to start a Live Chat topic and move the Mums Arms, Yurt etc threads into that topic area. Seems like a good idea as other subjects is getting enormous. If anyone objects, speak now... if not, we'll do this sometime this week.

Sigh.

FTFAL (a new abbreviation for F**k This For A Laugh).

ScummyMummy - I know you weren't being offensive.

It seems that people here STILL can't help themselves and are STILL gettin' personal. So, in true stage fashion..... as is what is expected of me....

M2T.. exit stage left.

Ah before I forget.... >lifting up curtain to talk to audience< Custardo - I actually think that I was calm in my response to you and there was no nastiness intended. Like everyone keeps telling me, it's only the internet.

M2T - I thought you were on your hols? Is it just me or does this smack of attention seeking bigtime to anyone else? Not just M2T (who I've had some good laffs with) but everyone else who just cannot resist adding their own little bit of controversy on a thread that really should just die? I mean, fancy going on about overusage of exclamation marks! Come on, get a life, no-one is interested.

Yes there are some stupid threads on here that have nothing to do with Mumsnet, but you choose whether or not to visit them. It's up to the Mumsnet moderators to decide what goes on and what doesn't, it's their site not ours. M2T, go on holiday and forget about it, stop posting on this thread and you might leave it with more dignity than the people who you think are having a go. The more you post, the more you incite them.

I think everyone is being over-sensitive and over-dramatic, are you all on your periods or something? Everyone seems so determined to have the last word and it is very childish. Now why don't you all go home and take some primrose oil or something! And I agree with everything Custdy said, and if people take offence at her, they want their heads seeing too. That's the trouble with Mumsnet, none of this would be said face-to-face, it's all behind computer screens. Now who's gonna want to drag this one on, 'cause you'll bet your life someone will!

M2T biting her tongue for a change.

Rhubarb, not trying to drag this thread on, but I have a point to take up. If I have something to say then I WOULD say it to someones face!, if people don't like the chattier threads, then don't bloody read then, or is it just nosiness on some people behalf??

Tigger2, yeah I would generally say it to their faces too, it just strikes me that many people say things on Mumsnet that they wouldn't normally say. Sometimes the chattier threads are great for relieving a bit of tension and having a laugh, and like you said, if people don't like them they don't have to browse through them. There are lots of threads on here that are very parenting-orientated anyway. But personal threads like this has turned out to be, attracts the wrong people IMO, those desperate to have their say no matter who they might offend, and then we get the whole tears and tantrums bit. When KS thought I had offended her, we sorted it out personally, by emailing each other, and now we're bestest friends aren't we! But sometimes someone says sorry and that never seems to be enough for some people, poor Badmamma was hounded off Mumsnet in that way. That's when it gets clicky and horrible and nasty.

Hope everyone can all shake hands. C'mon everyone, let's all have a cyber-hug shall we? Pass the joint round whilst you're at it!

There'll be no joint smoking outside of the Yurt. Naughty Rhubarb!

Ooh, I know I shouldn't contribute to this thread, but ... I think Mumsnet is the biz; some threads I read, others I skip, not just the chatty ones. Tigger/Rhubarb, I think you are right about saying things to people's faces or direct emails, the problem can be cleared up quickly, we can shake hands and start afresh.

The thing that is so unique about messageboards is - you are not just having a one-to-one heated discussion, it is like being stood up in front of assembly at school for everyone to hear - it's almost a public humilation, if you like!

Finally, to quote Bobbins' original posting : Please don't change Mumsnet too much, because I love it (and all it's members) as it is!

Must check my grammar, whoops!

Still going I see....

Poor Badmamma? I didn't want her to leave, I just wanted her to be nice to people! There was no hounding on my part, just a wry comment to support KS.

BTW, I too hate cliques, and never want to be part of one. However, Badmamma is downright rude. She appears every few months and offends someone before slinking off. I have to say that I have thought she is the alter-ego of one of the posters here...

Haven't read all of this but a few weeks ago I was desperate for a live chat and I really needed to speak to people there and then and they replied.

My Dad was dying and I waited and waited for people to respond to my posts one evening and kept posting to keep it at the top of pile.

The support and comfort I got from everyone was incredible. Someone helped me through the post mortem stage by making me understand how important a post mortem is especially with the possibility of inherited problems.

My Dad died on the Thursday after I first posted on the Sunday.