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FWR being trolled by a user called AidaP

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Hedgehogforshort · 08/04/2026 20:35

Hi MNHQ can you please address the issue of a certain poster called AidaP who is not participating in debate he is just trolling.

to be clear this person is a trans woman who has been convicted of violence and is posting promotion of acts of violence against women elsewhere.

in particular there is one elsewhere about using a roughly hewn rolling pin to rape women.

you realy need to look in to him it is just so not on that he is being allowed to bother us here.

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Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 12:49

BeckyAMumsnet · 09/04/2026 12:40

Hello @Hedgehogforshort thanks for posting. We understand the strength of feeling here. Allegations of violent or abusive behaviour, wherever they’re said to take place, are clearly very serious, and it’s entirely reasonable that posters would be concerned about who they’re interacting with on the boards.

It may be helpful to explain how we approach situations like this, though.
Our moderation is necessarily grounded in what happens on Mumsnet. We look at behaviour on the site, including patterns over time and we will act where users are breaching Talk guidelines. That doesn’t mean that concerns are dismissed, but the threshold for action has to be mainly grounded in what we can evidence here.

We’d also ask posters to be mindful about repeating or amplifying very serious allegations about other users on the boards. Even when well-intentioned, that can escalate situations quickly and make it harder for us to moderate fairly.

Please do continue to report posts that you think cross the line, that’s the most helpful way to bring specific issues to our attention. We are keeping an eye on this in the meantime.

Thanks all.

Hi Becky

Thanks for this. However, if a poster has been abusive and their very presence on the board is continuing that abuse, is that not a safeguarding issue where posters are being subjected to abuse because the poster continues ?

ChristmasStars · 09/04/2026 15:58

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 12:49

Hi Becky

Thanks for this. However, if a poster has been abusive and their very presence on the board is continuing that abuse, is that not a safeguarding issue where posters are being subjected to abuse because the poster continues ?

Good point.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:05

BeckyAMumsnet · 09/04/2026 12:40

Hello @Hedgehogforshort thanks for posting. We understand the strength of feeling here. Allegations of violent or abusive behaviour, wherever they’re said to take place, are clearly very serious, and it’s entirely reasonable that posters would be concerned about who they’re interacting with on the boards.

It may be helpful to explain how we approach situations like this, though.
Our moderation is necessarily grounded in what happens on Mumsnet. We look at behaviour on the site, including patterns over time and we will act where users are breaching Talk guidelines. That doesn’t mean that concerns are dismissed, but the threshold for action has to be mainly grounded in what we can evidence here.

We’d also ask posters to be mindful about repeating or amplifying very serious allegations about other users on the boards. Even when well-intentioned, that can escalate situations quickly and make it harder for us to moderate fairly.

Please do continue to report posts that you think cross the line, that’s the most helpful way to bring specific issues to our attention. We are keeping an eye on this in the meantime.

Thanks all.

Can we get some clarification about FWR..ive read more than one post of members there claiming that is a board for GC people whereas the site description says its a place to discuss feminist topics specifically related to sex and gender. So which is it because a lot of members seem to think people who arent GC are trolling just by giving their views.

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 16:13

What do you think about AidaP's publicly declared views of GC women @GlovedhandsCecilia , given this is a thread about him?

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SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 16:28

Perhaps you haven't seen what he thinks of GC women. Here's an example of the sort of thing this violent man posts - they're appalling, aren't they?

FWR being trolled by a user called AidaP
GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:29

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The posts are appalling, aren't they?

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hazelberry · 09/04/2026 16:32

If those posts were on MN. Then that poster would be banned.

They are not on MN though.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:33

hazelberry · 09/04/2026 16:32

If those posts were on MN. Then that poster would be banned.

They are not on MN though.

Exactly!

Like what's so difficult to grasp about that?

FaceBothered · 09/04/2026 16:34

Can I just ask a quick question without sounding thick? 😊

How does anyone know that's the same person on Mumsnet?

Or have they said so on their other SM accounts?

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:36

Ive just actually read the post, seen the context of it and now I have.gone from thinking the person made this rape comment to seeing what they said properly for the first time and saw they used a common colloquialism instead.

So again these GC people have pushed me from erring on towards GC perspectives, to thinking the GC people make shit up.

Jesus Christ. I'll have a Laverne Cox tattoo next.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:36

FaceBothered · 09/04/2026 16:34

Can I just ask a quick question without sounding thick? 😊

How does anyone know that's the same person on Mumsnet?

Or have they said so on their other SM accounts?

The username looks the same.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 09/04/2026 16:39

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Viviennemary · 09/04/2026 16:40

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:33

Exactly!

Like what's so difficult to grasp about that?

I can see why a poster can't be banned on MN for things they've said on other sites. Why are folk carrying arguments from one site to another. I don't really get this.

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 16:41

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:36

Ive just actually read the post, seen the context of it and now I have.gone from thinking the person made this rape comment to seeing what they said properly for the first time and saw they used a common colloquialism instead.

So again these GC people have pushed me from erring on towards GC perspectives, to thinking the GC people make shit up.

Jesus Christ. I'll have a Laverne Cox tattoo next.

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He thinks that women with GC views should be fucked with a splintery rolling pin.

Do you mix in circles where that's a common colloquialism? Because if you do, you need better friends.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:41

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SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 16:42

Viviennemary · 09/04/2026 16:40

I can see why a poster can't be banned on MN for things they've said on other sites. Why are folk carrying arguments from one site to another. I don't really get this.

It's explained on page 1 of this thread.

hazelberry · 09/04/2026 16:42

I mean Glinner has posted some pretty appalling shit on Twitter yet he's welcomed on FWR with open arms.

Maybe he should be banned for what he posted elsewhere.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:44

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 16:41

He thinks that women with GC views should be fucked with a splintery rolling pin.

Do you mix in circles where that's a common colloquialism? Because if you do, you need better friends.

If I say fuck capitalists and tories with a splintered rolling pin, it isnt a rape threat. It's saying they should fuck off essentially. Did you ever see the viral reel thing of "fuck dem kids?". It was parents eseentially saying fuck their kids, I/we am/are having some adult time..it wasnt about having sex with anyone's children.

The fact you all have exaggerated this so much and now brought it to my attention that you are reaching so far has made me lose all respect for you.

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 16:46

😂

Believe me when I say that gives me great satisfaction. If you had respected me I'd have been worried.

FaceBothered · 09/04/2026 16:46

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:36

The username looks the same.

But anyone on Mumsnet can choose whatever user name they want as long as it's not already taken?

Shedmistress · 09/04/2026 16:47

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 16:44

If I say fuck capitalists and tories with a splintered rolling pin, it isnt a rape threat. It's saying they should fuck off essentially. Did you ever see the viral reel thing of "fuck dem kids?". It was parents eseentially saying fuck their kids, I/we am/are having some adult time..it wasnt about having sex with anyone's children.

The fact you all have exaggerated this so much and now brought it to my attention that you are reaching so far has made me lose all respect for you.

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Of course it is a rape threat.

Bagsintheboot · 09/04/2026 16:53

Shedmistress · 09/04/2026 16:47

Of course it is a rape threat.

It is aggressive and bloody awful language, but I have to agree with a PP - I think saying this is a rape threat is a little bit of a stretch now that I have seen the post in question.