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Moderation Sex Board

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onirgellep · 13/04/2023 23:06

Back in February Justine* committed to an urgent review of moderation of the Sex Board subsequent to the considerable concerns mainly arising from the longstanding Sex Chat thread

Unsurprisingly, issues continue

Would it be possible to have an update on the progress of the review?

And hear when do you anticipate it being completed and the new moderation put into action?

Thank you

I'm afraid I'm unable to link Justine's post on the thread References to Underage Sex on the Sex Board* page 13

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LangClegsInSpace · 14/04/2023 17:40

CrotchetyCrocheting · 14/04/2023 14:02

I think mumsnet are to blame for this, for creating a space where someone not only thought it was acceptable to link to NSFW content like that but was under the impression it was a positive, helpful thing to do. It's not like a troll posting a link on chat, it was a long term poster who was actively involved in the last discussions on this and they still came away with that impression. It's a pretty big misunderstanding and indicates that mumsnet weren't at all clear about what is and isn't acceptable to post on a parenting website.

This.

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 17:40

I'm not a regular poster.

I'm not policing it any more than I am policing other threads I don't post on but report.

It's literally what MNHQ ask us to do.

Surplus2requirements · 14/04/2023 17:42

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 17:31

I'm not.

I report things that I find offensive or that I want MNHQ to take a look at.

Not just on the sex board

However, the sex board has a different type of post on it to the rest of mumsnet and I believe that it would be better if it were at the very least actively moderated by MNHQ.

I report concerns on the various boards I read as well, including the sex board.

I don't think your position of wanting more pro active moderation is unreasonable but I happen to think it works well as it is.

That the thread with the offending link was quickly taken down as would be expected shows this imo.

Even if there was a dedicated Mod I don't think they could be expected to read every post in real time and in reality would rely on reporting to alert them.

Which is what happened anyway, I'm guessing with thanks to the Nightwatch.

mathanxiety · 14/04/2023 17:43

HornyBee · 14/04/2023 07:12

The sex topic is no different to other topics on the board. Posts get reported and mn decide if they need deleting.

I would say way more posts get deleted from AIBU for example than the sex topic.

It's hilarious that a group of you have appointed yourself as 'moderators' of the sex topic. A topic that you have zero interest in, but monitor 24/7 so you can A) get offended and report posts and B) go on to other forums and discuss what you have found. But whatever... carry on. You obviously have a lot of time on your hands.

Also at no point did mumsnet say 'regular users' of the sex topic are responsible for moderating the topic. How do you even define a regular user? There is no list of names for who is responsible for this. The 'sex people' as you call them are not on the topic 24/7. They are not held responsible for reporting posts you find offensive. I may see a post and think it's fine. You see the same post and have concerns. That is then on you to report it. That's how mumsnet works.

Anyway- the link above links to what Justine ACTUALLY said about it so you have your answer. No mention of users of the sex topic being held accountable for the policing of the topic. That's something you made up.

If a regular poster said they would report a thread they felt was in inappropriate then I'm sure that's true. You have no idea who reports what so saying things like the regular posters didn't report xyz is based on zero evidence anyway.

Loving the attempts at scathing ridicule here.

Your post speaks volumes about the "Fuck MN and especially Fuck women and their concerns" attitude MNHQ have invited aboard.

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 17:44

@Surplus2requirements I disagree that it is working well.

TheShellBeach · 14/04/2023 17:48

I also disagree that it is working well.

TheShellBeach · 14/04/2023 17:53

<<<<<everyone abandons thread to have their dinner>>>>>

StraightOuttaContext · 14/04/2023 17:56

I'm not being funny but some of you are up round the clock defending the need to wank with strangers on Mumsnet. I mean how do you not see that this is properly weird.

StraightOuttaContext · 14/04/2023 17:58

Real Louis Theroux documentary territory, this

Surplus2requirements · 14/04/2023 18:14

StraightOuttaContext · 14/04/2023 17:56

I'm not being funny but some of you are up round the clock defending the need to wank with strangers on Mumsnet. I mean how do you not see that this is properly weird.

What a properly weird thing to say. This is talking about moderation of the sex board and at risk of tmi I have never wanked on MN.

Some people like to have sexual private chats, I don't have an issue with that. MNHQ has decided that threads asking for such private chat are against guidelines, I respect that.

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 18:18

If you're not linking to porn sites and other hook up sites to facilitate wanking, what are you doing it for?

LangClegsInSpace · 14/04/2023 18:20

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 17:07

I do report.

However, first it has been suggested that those of us who have issue with the type of threads and links on the sex board just hide the topic. If we do so, who will report? The regulars don't seem to have the same standards as I do, therefore I cannot be sure that posts that I find offensive would be reported and so I look.

Second, the topic should be actively moderated. It is particularly putting mumsnet at risk of hosting links and videos That are at best distasteful and at worst illegal. (Due to the poor moderation and types of threads posted)

I agree with this.

'Just don't look' is not an adequate response. Adult content is not the same as spam. The risks are different both for MNers and MNHQ.

How's this for some cognitive dissonance?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_campaigns/4777073-mnhq-here-write-to-your-mp-to-ask-them-to-strengthen-the-online-safety-bill-and-protect-children-from-porn

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Surplus2requirements · 14/04/2023 18:28

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 18:18

If you're not linking to porn sites and other hook up sites to facilitate wanking, what are you doing it for?

I'm not

TheShellBeach · 14/04/2023 18:29

Surplus2requirements · 14/04/2023 18:28

I'm not

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The "you're" was plural, Surplus.

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 18:33

It was generic "you" @Surplus2requirements

If one is not linking for the purposes of wanking then why is one doing it.

Or

If the posters on the board are not linking for the purposes of wanking then why are they doing it.

My comment was not directed at you specifically.

🙄

Surplus2requirements · 14/04/2023 18:34

TheShellBeach · 14/04/2023 18:29

The "you're" was plural, Surplus.

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Honestly I think that's part of the issue. There seems to be a perception among some that there is 'MN' and 'the sex people' (who do nothing but masturbate) as 2 distinct groups.

I think the reality is different

LangClegsInSpace · 14/04/2023 18:36

Mermaidparades · 14/04/2023 16:50

please leave @Maybebe alone, of course no one thinks those videos are ok. I didn’t realise they were there when I posted the link, I have apologised many times now for my error

It's not long at all since you were last here apologising and assuring us you had reported your last 'not-a-hookup-thread' thread after it went badly wrong.

It can't be very nice ending up here again.

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 18:36

Posters on other boards on mumsnet aren't having sleazy chat or linking to hook up sites or porn sites.

I think it's fair to say that the sex topic has quite a different vibe to the rest of the site.

Surplus2requirements · 14/04/2023 18:41

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 18:33

It was generic "you" @Surplus2requirements

If one is not linking for the purposes of wanking then why is one doing it.

Or

If the posters on the board are not linking for the purposes of wanking then why are they doing it.

My comment was not directed at you specifically.

🙄

Yes I do appreciate that but even then there is a lot of variation.

Some people like a bit of flirty, friends type chat.

Some like something a little saucy.

Others like something unashamedly sexual.

To reduce that to people wanking with strangers sounds very judgemental to my ears

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 18:43

Flirty chat isn't something I do with my friends. I keep that for people I am sexually interested in. Since I am now coupled up, that means, at this point, my partner and no one else.

TheShellBeach · 14/04/2023 18:44

Okay, I'll ask again.
Why MN?

Aren't there enough hook-up sites on the rest of the internet, without polluting a parenting site with smut?

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 18:44

Flirting, and saucy are all euphemisms for sex related talk and behaviour.

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 18:45

TheShellBeach · 14/04/2023 18:44

Okay, I'll ask again.
Why MN?

Aren't there enough hook-up sites on the rest of the internet, without polluting a parenting site with smut?

Also this.

There are plenty of sites on the internet for flirty saucy sexual talk or messaging.

Why mumsnet?

LangClegsInSpace · 14/04/2023 18:45

To reduce that to people wanking with strangers sounds very judgemental to my ears

I'm cool with that.

HornyBee · 14/04/2023 18:46

horridjobescapee · 14/04/2023 18:43

Flirty chat isn't something I do with my friends. I keep that for people I am sexually interested in. Since I am now coupled up, that means, at this point, my partner and no one else.

Good for you.
Thanks for sharing.
What's your point?
That everyone else on mumsnet should be like you?!

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