Moderation Sex Board

[onirgellep]

Back in February Justine* committed to an urgent review of moderation of the Sex Board subsequent to the considerable concerns mainly arising from the longstanding Sex Chat thread

Unsurprisingly, issues continue

Would it be possible to have an update on the progress of the review?

And hear when do you anticipate it being completed and the new moderation put into action?

Thank you

I'm afraid I'm unable to link Justine's post on the thread References to Underage Sex on the Sex Board* page 13

Agreed. It's just goady bollocks and best ignored.

Yes it was carefully worded. It didn't name the poster (and made a point of not doing so) even though it was obvious.

It didn't ask for them to be banned it asked if HQ thought they should be banned

It was posted almost immediately after the existing Site Stuff thread where the poster in question that was being attacked was deleted.

It was deleted swiftly before there was any chance of it being derailed.

Now, like this thread are we supposed to believe there's no connection?

You have said it now. Can you not appreciate how not saying it yesterday was a problem?

For me to say that posters found your reaction odd yesterday and correcting a poster doesn’t make you a victim.

I am pleased that you have now apologised. With topics like this, apologising very quickly and showing that you were as horrified as the rest posters, would in my opinion, have been better. When you don’t speak up quickly and make a joke around the disturbing content, people draw their own conclusions.

It was deleted swiftly before there was any chance of it being derailed

It was deleted because it was a TAAT.

It was deleted because it ‘became’ a TAAT. Mumsnets words. So mumsnet didn’t class it as a TAAT initially. The
de railers seen to it that it became one in order to get it deleted.

@HeartbreakHouse can you not appreciate that I told you earlier that I tend to use humour as a coping mechanism/ to diffuse . I feel like you think it’s appropriate to mark my reactions out of 10 or something. I get stressed out when I have a group of people telling me how awful I am, I think that’s pretty natural. I don’t always say the right thing, but I do apologise when I fuck up. I’m not a robot.

Grim and not suitable for mumsnet in any way. Have @mnhq even responded?

Anyone would think Surplus2requirements - another man of the sex people - doesn't want this to be discussed, at least by concerned women.

@IDLPM can you please explain why anyone would think that?

I am rather tired of the constant attempts to get threads derailed and deleted on this topic.
There is no bullying.
If someone feels bullied they should report posts to MNHQ.

Or here's a novel idea - maybe not start hook-up threads in the first place.

@TheShellBeach i did not start a hook up thread! Where is the lady with the screenshots?! Maybe she could help me out!! I was telling people to go to another (granted, totally inappropriate) site.

I know this was not directed at me but I can answer - people believe that Surplus does not want this discussed by concerned women because he inserts himself endlessly in discussions about the topic, mansplaining away, goading, hoping that eventually the thread will be derailed and deleted.

@JoMumsnet has been responding to other threads on Site Stuff this lunchtime

I can see that this isn't an easy issue for them to resolve and it's probably quite tedious for them to see it come up again. But I guess that's part of the problem not addressing problems promptly which then grind on interminably and then occasionally erupting

I agree that this problem seems to have gone on interminably.
I hope we get some clarification on moderation soon.

You are capable of apologising. You’ve done it now.

I also use humour in awkward situations but on very serious topics, I’ve found it best not to.

I've got the screenshots, Mermaid.

Thank you. If they are insisting on allowing these threads, then on site, real time moderation should be the minimum standard .

MNHQ have removed the sex topic from active threads now.
Any user can report a thread or a comment if they find it offensive or worry that it's inappropriate.
So if you don't like the sex topic - don't look at it and your problems will be solved. I would stop worrying and leave it to the hands of the professionals who actually run the site.

Putting the sex board in active let the genie out of the bottle - probably very few MNers knew about the hook up thread before then

Trying to stuff it back in the bottle - well nigh impossible?

That's not quite the case. I find the links to deviant websites abhorrent and since mumsnet is post-moderated, unless people look and report, the links threads and nsfw threads including the various iterations of the hook up thread, will stand (since the regulars on the sex board don't necessarily report threads like that).

I don’t understand why they would want discussion shut down.

Better moderation could actually help the board and it’s posters. For example, the thread with the link on could have been picked up on before it was posted, if mumsnet changed their moderation. This would have saved the OP the stress and embarrassment of having unknowingly posted a link to teen sex and incest. It could also cancel out some lot of the pervs and leave more genuine posters to post stuff within guidelines. Everyone would be happier.

For moderation to be discussed, it’s likely that past issues will be used as examples. Hopefully if mumsnet do decide to improve the moderation, it will not need to be discussed anymore. Until then, it should be talked about.

There will be plenty of people who like the sex topic yet not like hook up threads or links to incest/teen sex or obvious perv threads.

Also, as mumsnet rely on users to report or raise issues to improve the site, discussing issues is a good thing.

Hang on, so you don't even use the board yourself?

Christ, give it a rest, don't tell people how they should pr should not react to stuff. You made your point, move on.