Moderation Sex Board

[onirgellep]

Back in February Justine* committed to an urgent review of moderation of the Sex Board subsequent to the considerable concerns mainly arising from the longstanding Sex Chat thread

Unsurprisingly, issues continue

Would it be possible to have an update on the progress of the review?

And hear when do you anticipate it being completed and the new moderation put into action?

Thank you

I'm afraid I'm unable to link Justine's post on the thread References to Underage Sex on the Sex Board* page 13

I will happily answer.

If you actually have a read through the thread you will see that I DID NOT bring up the website. That was not me. I have responded to other posters posting about it.
If you actually read my first posts I was - "discussing moderation on the sex board in general terms".

Thank you

Sorry not going to engage with this bar room barristery

The OP of the deleted thread was hoping MN would reinstate it. It's pretty clear to me it broke the rules by linking to a NSFW site and encouraging people to slyly ask for DMs.

I think people should be able to report threads on the sex board the same way as on any other board without being told 'to not look at it if you don't like it' It's already full of troll threads. It's not a private club after all.

I think people should be able to report threads on the sex board the same way as on any other board without being told 'to not look at it if you don't like it' It's already full of troll threads. It's not a private club after all.

Exactly. These people are happy to keep going on to the sex topic and reporting threads that break TG, then carry on. It's a good thing. Like I said above, the sex topic works in the same way as the rest of the site. You have concerns, you report it. Others might not have concerns and won't report it. Mumsnet will make the decision.

The OP of the deleted thread was hoping MN would reinstate it

The OP of the deleted thread didn't understand why MN had deleted it and did not herself report the posts which led to the deletion.

Please let this one go. I didn’t realise the website contained those sections, I have apologised to everyone here, I have apologised to Mumsnet. It was an honest mistake.

Now let's see an end to the vendetta please.

I wonder if it would be helpful to have a banner at the top of the Sex Board in decent sized script saying something like

Mumsnet is not a hook up site - any attempt to use it in this way will lead to automatic deletion and being banned

Do not send unsolicited PMs

Do not post NSFW images/links - check content before posting

Do do not be a creep ???

Perhaps there should be clear consequences for breaking these very simple rules -other sites ban or temporarily suspend posters breaking rules

Given that the most of the Sex Board is NSFW perhaps in should be required to log in first as with other sites

IDK just some ideas

Vendetta?

Back to topic...

The thread in question was taken down for review quickly which shows that moderation is taking place as it should.

I can confirm that nobody defended the site that was linked but did defend a poster who was subjected to sustained bullying by a group.

Some might reflect on why other threads on site stuff are also being removed.

Oh yes.

HornyBee · Today 08:43
Well it's certainly not a website about teen sex and incest that's for sure. Thanks for your apology.

So you admit you haven't been in the website itself but you are confident that the other posters are lying about the content? Seriously?? Why are you defending something you know nothing about?

Well it's certainly not a website about teen sex and incest that's for sure

But you said you hadn't been on it, @HornyBee so how do you know?

I can confirm that nobody defended the site that was linked but did defend a poster who was subjected to sustained bullying by a group

Oh, well that's all right, then.
Surplus is "confirming" things for us.
Thank goodness he's here.

A poster started a thread.
Some people thought it broke TG so reported it.
It got removed.

That's how mumsnet works right?

A poster posted a NSFW link. It was reported. Poster apologised.

This is the same action that would be taken across any topic on the whole site. It's a daily occurance of threads being reported and investigated and deleted by mn if appropriate to do so.

So why is everyone flagging on site stuff everytime this happens in the sex topic?

You don't come on site stuff and start threads about every dodgy AIBU post. You just report it. Job done.
So when you are constantly flagging every single thing that happens on the sex topic it does become like a vendetta against the sex topic.

Mumsnet have the data, not any of us.

Report it and get on with your day. Let mumsnet do their job.

Wouldn’t it be great if people could acknowledge that some individuals are interested in and want to ask questions about sex without getting their own knickers in a twist about it?

It sounds like there’s a solid argument for reverting to the original 30 day membership before allowing posters to use that particular forum, and maybe having a filter system where any posts with links are reviewed before they go
live.

As for the Sex chat/hook ups thread…we’re adults, presumably with a modicum of common sense. Don’t share personal info too quick and If someone sends something inappropriate it’s very easy to report and block them.

If MN have decided they don’t want to have those in their site anymore that’s their privilege but making a song and dance about it after the fact seems a bit pointless.

There will always be the odd dodgy character wherever you go but plenty of people (myself included) met genuine, respectful individuals in that thread and had (and in some cases) are still enjoying a lot of fun and friendship as a result.

It's partly an issue that some people seem to have with male posters on the Sex Topic threads (but more generally on MN) and partly with the hatred that these same people have for one particular female poster, who does not have such a problem with them. Hence, she is frequently the subject of abuse and bullying on here and elsewhere - and repeated attempts to get her removed from the site - while the men are usually dismissed simply as pervs. Fortunately, HQ are tuned in to this nasty little game and allow the bullies only so much rope before they rein them in. Or simply delete threads when they get completely out of hand - as the recent examples on Site Stuff demonstrate. All rather unpleasant really.

I saw the thread with the link to incest and teen sex and the posters wanting hook ups. I also saw the threads yesterday discussing them.

If I had posted this link and didn’t realise what it contained, when I found out that it contained teen sex and incest, I would feel horrified. When confronted with that information, I wouldn’t just say something like ‘oops’ and then comment that other quite weird sounding things on there sound fun, which is what the OP of the thread did. I would instead be very, very, very keen to say that the site is horrible for hosting that sort of thing. But that didn’t happen.

If I was another user of the sex topic, a friend of OP commenting on that thread, I again would be very, very, very keen to point out that the site is horrible for hosting that sort of thing. But, again, that didn’t happen. The posters main priority was to defend the OP more generally.

It’s not good enough to be silent on these matters, when you were vocal on the threads yesterday. Speak out against this stuff or your look like you’re ok with it.

@HeartbreakHouse i was genuinely mortified, I do tend to use humour as a coping mechanism/ deflector but MN could confirm that I reported straight away and apologised.

Why the fuck are you quoting me out of context @TheShellBeach ?

For the record people (if you can be bothered to read the thread you will know this) but-

Someone asked what I found funny. I said it certainly wasn't a website about teen sex or incest that I found funny.

I DID NOT SAY-
the website wasn't about teen sex or incest

Context is everything and taking something out of context in that way to try and make me look bad is disgusting and a pathetic thing to do.

@HornyBee I am so sad to see you are being treated this way, it is despicable and bullying. And I feel dreadful that I am to blame for it. But I have apologised and apologised. I don’t know what they are hoping to accomplish now. Xx

Hate is a strong word. I doubt anyone hates that poster. They don’t know them. They’re just fed up them adding sleaze to the site, hook up threads and now unacceptable links. It keeps happening.

Some if they posters on the sex topic do seem ‘unsavoury’. No one in their right mind can believe that some of the stuff on their is real. Lots of it reads like very bad porn scenarios. Of course, if mumsnet has no evidence it’s a perv, they leave it up. It doesn’t mean it’s real and not a perv and lots of posters do find that quite sickening on a parenting forum.

It was clear to me reading yesterday, that the ‘sex people’ 😬 side of the argument have a tactic to deliberately get threads discussing the issues removed. I’m always suspicious when people do that.

I think it was a big mistake that you and others didn’t make that clear on the thread. I have the impression that you and others just thought ‘oh well’.

When it comes to illegal/dodgy topics like incest and teen sex, I believe most people’s reactions would be one disgust. That’s if they think that of course.

I think most people then presumed that you reported yourself to save yourself, rather than having any real concern for the content. That’s because you didn’t show any concern and didn’t seem disgusted.

I think most people then presumed that you reported yourself to save yourself, rather than having any real concern for the content. That’s because you didn’t show any concern and didn’t seem disgusted.

This is what I don’t get…why are other posters so keen to analyse and judge me?? You realise this is starting to look like a personal vendetta. Bullying.