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Mumsnet turning into Tattle

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lillie23 · 21/03/2023 10:04

Anyone else noticed how horrible some of the users on Mumsnet are. There are a few threads on here that I have read and some of the users are so rude with their replies, it reminds me of Tattle the way the users just slate and put people down. I think, would they be so rude and obnoxious if you was asking their advice face to face.

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Skinnermarink · 21/03/2023 10:08

Mumsnet is much more toxic than Tattle and has been for ages.

coffeeandcola · 21/03/2023 10:08

I'm sure the constant name changing doesn't help. I get it can be 'outing' but being anonymous and name changing means people feel able to be rude and nasty as they can get away with it.

Why name change if you aren't ashamed of your views and people in RL seeing how nasty you are?

FiveShelties · 21/03/2023 10:10

Yes I agree about the name changing and the sheer amount of obvious troll threads.

HollyFern1110 · 21/03/2023 10:13

There has always been some quite brutal yet honest posting on MN. I first joined 12 years ago & while some responses definitely could come across as rude they weren't as pointlessly nasty as some I see now. In a dilemma you often need a totally unrelated someone who isn't afraid to tell you the truth, which is why I loved MN so much in the first place.

RosemaryAndTim · 21/03/2023 10:14

coffeeandcola · 21/03/2023 10:08

I'm sure the constant name changing doesn't help. I get it can be 'outing' but being anonymous and name changing means people feel able to be rude and nasty as they can get away with it.

Why name change if you aren't ashamed of your views and people in RL seeing how nasty you are?

I agree it doesn't help. It's tricky- I name change fairly often because I post things that, taken together, are quite identifying- about a house move, kids' school choices, new job- nothing very interesting but if you knew me you would know it was me. I'd definitely post less if it all had to be under one name, so I can see why the function is there, but it's definitely open to abuse.

HappydaysArehere · 21/03/2023 10:24

It’s much more interesting and pleasant over on Gransnet. Used to think the opposite but not for a long time now. As for the so called improvement in presentation well that doesn’t help.

ohyouknowwhatshername · 21/03/2023 10:25

I agree OP, I choose which threads I comment on very carefully now. I made the mistake of commenting on a thread about SAHMs last week, won't do that again! There were 2 posters in particular on it who were pulling apart anyone who disagreed with them, including using laughing emojis to belittle them. I'll stick to the less controversial topics from now on.

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HopeMumsnet · 21/03/2023 11:17

Hi there,
We're sorry to hear this from you all.
Certainly some of what you're describing would break our guidelines, so if any of you see threads that are turning hostile, or posters that are being obnoxious we would really like to hear about it asap so that we can deal with them? You instantly know the sort of thing when you see it, we're sure. Emojis can break guidelines too.

Likewise, if you report possible trolls we can have a look for what we can see in the background. The funny, and candidly sometimes upsetting, thing is that often we get reports saying 'this is an obvious troll' and of course we can see that they have been posting for a while and have a genuine issue. This is why we ask people never to troll hunt on threads as that can lead to our most vulnerable posters getting it in the neck when they are least capable of dealing with it.

That's not to say that we always get things right, of course, but we do always look at every report so those reports assume a huge importance in the shaping of the site, and the mood that you will encounter.

Thanks for every single future report, honestly, they're completely invaluable. (And thanks for keeping us in a job!)

Timelles · 24/03/2023 14:46

Tattle is way worse than here. Tattle literally allow their own users to dox celebs and even their own members?! The mods on tattle say all the right things such as report posts etc...what do they do when they get sick of a user reporting "too much?" They take away the ability for the user to report all together. I've seen tens of people ganging up against one user and honing in on them, eventually leading to the user being doxed. I couldn't report it so was watching it all unfold. Someone else eventually reported it and do you know what tattles response was? "the user shouldn't have given away so much information about themself on the internet." which i agree, but the user did seem to have some additional needs, possibly on the ASD, and tattle mods love to victim blame. It's so toxic and I'm glad I was only on there for a week before closing my account.

Katieandthekids · 24/03/2023 14:49

Yes. I posted something this week about my husbands health worries and some of the replies and criticism of him and me were so unnecessary. I unfollowed the thread in the end. If you aren't going to be helpful maybe just leave it...

Does mumsnet have ability for OP to close comments like on Facebook? I think that would be a good feature

Skinnermarink · 24/03/2023 14:58

Well at the moment Mumsnet is like a bloody pro Ana website, the amount of shit about food and weight they’re letting stand. Highly toxic.

PetulaDark · 24/03/2023 15:13

Seen the thread on Tattle about mumsnet? Picking over certain posts and I imagine ‘sending’ users ‘over here’ 👋So I guess there is some crossover and in one particular recent thread I think some comments were from Tattle users who were on some sort of mission to prove the OP was faking.

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lillie23 · 24/03/2023 16:45

I didn't know about tattle only someone I follow on instagram said they had said some hurtful stuff about her baby daughter. I think the people that use that site to comment are the lowest of the low. I'd love for one day for them all to be exposed. All it takes it some hacker to hack the site and expose all their IP addresses.

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DanceMonster · 24/03/2023 16:50

MN is worse than Tattle. At least on Tattle they generally keep their abuse to public figures, but are generally polite to each other. Here posters are vile to anyone.

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lillie23 · 24/03/2023 16:54

DanceMonster · 24/03/2023 16:50

MN is worse than Tattle. At least on Tattle they generally keep their abuse to public figures, but are generally polite to each other. Here posters are vile to anyone.

They are both the same. They are abusing a human being. If it's something they wouldn't say to their faces they shouldn't comment. Mumsnet and tattle users.

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Matildapower · 24/03/2023 16:57

Tattle is a much nicer place than mn

Christmascracker0 · 24/03/2023 17:04

I agree Mumsnet is worse than Tattle! On here the nastiness is rife and it’s for the most random things.

On Tattle posters are actually nice to each other - but can be very nasty about the public figures they are talking about.

BluebellBlueballs · 24/03/2023 17:05

Skinnermarink · 21/03/2023 10:08

Mumsnet is much more toxic than Tattle and has been for ages.

Absolutely. Tattle posters are like mother theresa in comparison to on here

You don't get the supercilious pearl clutching either

Anycolouryoulike · 24/03/2023 17:06

People from Tattle openly admit to trolling MN. I'm not sure why anyone would defend that?

BluebellBlueballs · 24/03/2023 17:06

lillie23 · 24/03/2023 16:54

They are both the same. They are abusing a human being. If it's something they wouldn't say to their faces they shouldn't comment. Mumsnet and tattle users.

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See above for an example of the supercilious tone!

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lillie23 · 24/03/2023 17:08

That sounds like something a tattle user would post. I get they are nice to each other and only slate public figures. But what does that say about that person slating someone they do not know. Or giving them harsh advice on here that they wouldn't dream of giving if they had to say it to that person face to face.

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Anycolouryoulike · 24/03/2023 17:09

They are nice to each other perhaps on Tattle. Not so nice when they egg each other on to troll people on MN though.

antoniache · 24/03/2023 17:10

Skinnermarink · 21/03/2023 10:08

Mumsnet is much more toxic than Tattle and has been for ages.

Agree with this 100%.

Anycolouryoulike · 24/03/2023 17:13

Would you say that ripping the piss out of some posters outfits on S & B was toxic?

I would.

Rockingcloggs · 24/03/2023 17:14

I have had many brilliant, thought provoking and intelligent conversations with so many members over on tattle - even ones where difference of opinion is obvious. The trouble is lots of media websites direct the shit-stirrers and the ones whose only wish is to slag people off - by the way they describe the website so of course you get nastiness.

I find MN much worse for obnoxiousness and the inability to not debate without having a Barney!