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Posters hiding the sex board won't change MN dynamics.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 23/02/2023 10:17

This new policy of 'if you don't like it, don't look' doesn't seem to be about making Mumsnet a safer place more welcoming and inclusive place, it seems to be more about 'look the other way if you are offended'.

One issue with this is that once threads get into active, people then post in the wrong place. Explicit threads won't stay on the Sex board, they will migrate onto chat and AIBU and anywhere that gets more views. We see this all the time with various topics.

Changing the policy so that you only need to have been a member for 7 days before posting on creates another issue of course. It is much much easier for sex trolls to join and start harassing people and messaging them off board. I guess that might help revenue if you are getting streams of re-registering sex trolls coming in.

MN used to take safeguarding seriously.

I also think this actually will exclude people from getting support. You now either have to choose to hide the board and therefore if you have a question or an issue about sex, you can't ask in the right place. Or you have to enable it and see every conversation.

Imagine if you are a Mum with young kids, sex has gone down the pan and you want some advice. You might not want your partner to see it. Your choice is: hide the topic and don't get that help you'd like. Or enable it and risk your kids or your partner seeing the threads on your screen.

This is a separate conversation to the very valuable safeguarding conversation about the sex chat threads.

OP posts:
OhYouBadBadKitten · 24/02/2023 07:49

Nobody is happy with the situation. At best some people are ambivalent. MN need to consider weighing up profit v reputation. Is it going to be profit at all costs, or will they remember that they are better than that? Even twitter attempts more control over explicit material.

OP posts:
Bamboux · 24/02/2023 09:22

HornyBee · 24/02/2023 07:38

Yes, I think that's for the best hun, if you can't manage to stop trolling the sex board.

I see we're into the 'hun' phase now. What comes next, is it 'bbz' or Pestilence? I forget.

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 09:31

Yes when I see 'hun' i feel all credibility is lost.

Rhondaa · 24/02/2023 09:36

Bamboux · 24/02/2023 09:22

I see we're into the 'hun' phase now. What comes next, is it 'bbz' or Pestilence? I forget.

It has a place when done in a sarcastic way, as we obviously can't call posters 'cunt'

HornyBee · 24/02/2023 10:07

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BIWI · 24/02/2023 10:07

Blimey - really showing your true colours now!

HornyBee · 24/02/2023 10:08

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 09:31

Yes when I see 'hun' i feel all credibility is lost.

Don't worry babe, nothing I say is credible anyway cos I'm one of them perverts off the sex board! 😉

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 10:21

HornyBee · 24/02/2023 10:08

Don't worry babe, nothing I say is credible anyway cos I'm one of them perverts off the sex board! 😉

Oh, ok.

Bamboux · 24/02/2023 10:23

BIWI · 24/02/2023 10:07

Blimey - really showing your true colours now!

It's so refreshing that they feel empowered to call us cunts for not wanting to read stories about raping children, isn't it?

Rhondaa · 24/02/2023 10:38

Bamboux · 24/02/2023 10:23

It's so refreshing that they feel empowered to call us cunts for not wanting to read stories about raping children, isn't it?

No this was related to a sniffy 'you lose credibility when you use hun' comment so the context was sometimes when 'hun' is used sarcastically it gets the point across as of course we can't call each other cunts. I hope that clears that up.

It was nothing to do with 'raping children' which is a really disturbing connection to make tbh.

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 10:39

Lol at ‘sniffy’ 🤣

Bamboux · 24/02/2023 10:40

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 10:39

Lol at ‘sniffy’ 🤣

I think the reference passed them by.

HornyBee · 24/02/2023 10:42

Bamboux · 24/02/2023 10:23

It's so refreshing that they feel empowered to call us cunts for not wanting to read stories about raping children, isn't it?

Sorry, I seem to have missed something. This is VERY disturbing. Please link to the thread/comment where someone called someone else a cunt for not wanting to read stories about raping children.
That's is disgusting. I hope it's been reported and the poster banned.

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 10:43

Bamboux · 24/02/2023 10:40

I think the reference passed them by.

That is a very high possibility

Rhondaa · 24/02/2023 10:43

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 10:39

Lol at ‘sniffy’ 🤣

I know! I lol'd too. We can't post in sex threads its full of rapey seedy pervs it must be this it must be that! now hun is frowned upon.
What next on the disapproval list one wonders.

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 10:45

Rhondaa · 24/02/2023 10:43

I know! I lol'd too. We can't post in sex threads its full of rapey seedy pervs it must be this it must be that! now hun is frowned upon.
What next on the disapproval list one wonders.

You have quite the 'disapproval list' yourself TBF. 🤔

HornyBee · 24/02/2023 10:50

HornyBee · 24/02/2023 10:42

Sorry, I seem to have missed something. This is VERY disturbing. Please link to the thread/comment where someone called someone else a cunt for not wanting to read stories about raping children.
That's is disgusting. I hope it's been reported and the poster banned.

Oh sorry, what's that? You can't link me to the post where someone was called a cunt because they said didn't want to read stories about child rape?
Oh, it's because no such comment exists! Ok, I understand.
Just as I thought!

Rhondaa · 24/02/2023 10:51

'You have quite the 'disapproval list' yourself TBF'

Just folk shaming consenting adults posting on a dedicated board. We even had someone likening it been added to a sex chat at work! or being sexually harassed in a steam room. Seriously.

It is beyond a crazy overreaction and omg don't me started on sex toys ads how very dare they think sexually active adults may partake in that depravity.

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 10:56

HornyBee · 24/02/2023 10:50

Oh sorry, what's that? You can't link me to the post where someone was called a cunt because they said didn't want to read stories about child rape?
Oh, it's because no such comment exists! Ok, I understand.
Just as I thought!

Are you quoting and replying to yourself? Confused Did you mean to @ someone?

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2023 10:59

Rhondaa · 24/02/2023 10:51

'You have quite the 'disapproval list' yourself TBF'

Just folk shaming consenting adults posting on a dedicated board. We even had someone likening it been added to a sex chat at work! or being sexually harassed in a steam room. Seriously.

It is beyond a crazy overreaction and omg don't me started on sex toys ads how very dare they think sexually active adults may partake in that depravity.

omg don't me started on sex toys ads

Er I'll do my best.

Surplus2requirements · 24/02/2023 11:07

As the thread has been taken down for review and not visible but still being commented on I think it needs to be said there was no 'story'.

A poster said in a single line cold statement of fact that she was raped as a child.

She followed that by saying it was cathartic to write down.

There was no elaboration and none was asked for though there was immediate horror and condolences expressed.

It's very disingenuous and potentially abusive to the member that made the post to try and make it something it was not and to use it to try and tarnish others.

LucyLeave · 24/02/2023 11:11

I take it you didn't see the explicit description of underage sex posted by a man then?

BIWI · 24/02/2023 11:14

Back to mansplain then Hmm

Surplus2requirements · 24/02/2023 11:17

LucyLeave · 24/02/2023 11:11

I take it you didn't see the explicit description of underage sex posted by a man then?

No I didn't, I assumed it was the post from the girl raped in her bedroom

Surplus2requirements · 24/02/2023 11:19

BIWI · 24/02/2023 11:14

Back to mansplain then Hmm

It could be worse, I could be trolling...