Sex board in Active and Ann Summers

[AutumnLeavesFallingIntoPlace]

Hi @MNHQ

As the previous thread about the sex board being in Active is almost full after a lot of discussion, I think a few of us were hoping you could address the main concerns arising:

• firstly and most importantly, it seems that no one wants it in Active. Posters on the sex board and off are widely agreeing across all threads that it was better not showing in Active for many reasons. It's making everyone's experience worse.
• secondly, we'd like to know to what extent Ann Summers and other advertisers have dictated the change in the sex board's visibility and the change in users being required to register three months prior to being able to post on the sex board to seven days. The 'reigniting intimacy' promotional piece seems to suggest this is a deliberate choice to bring the forum 'inline with [Ann Summers'] Pleasure Positivity Project'. Given the response to previous threads on Ann Summers in 2021 and 2022, they are not popular with many site users and their maternity/postpartum promotion might be considered to be unhelpful and unsupportive of new mothers and very much not in the spirit of MN.
• the sex board hosts a sexchat thread which invites users to contact each other via DM for explicit conversation and then move to other platforms to continue. There are no safety warnings or age verification on the sex board and this puts users at risk of predators exploiting MN's trustworthy reputation, particularly given the change in registration requirements
• finally, a lot of us wonder why MN have done such a u turn on the sex board, having argued initially that it would attract trolls. How and why did this change?

Wow no response from @mnhq really letting us down. Money really does talk.

I find the sex chat thread astonishing. A few years ago one prolific poster (can't remember her name) met up with a male poster (who was possibly married) and there was uproar! Now MN is hosting a sex chat forum.

I also wonder about all the advertising, the reduction in posting time to 7 days and the influx of male posters to that topic. It isn't just the active/not active issue. Some women have said they are put off posting on the sex threads now - I certainly am. I don't want male opinion and I don't want titillating chat with pervy strangers. If I did I wouldn't be on mumsnet. That surely can't be the intention or desire at MNHQ

And @Janiie there is a range of underwear that is possible to wear that is somewhere in between cheap scratchy Ann Summers knickers and belly huggers.

Perhaps MN will release some new MN emojis to celebrate it's new sexed up image. A butt plug or a tube of lube.

@Getir a penis straw in a glass of gin

I assume MN are just lying low and hoping that it all blows over.

Perhaps we could stop rehashing discussion that's been gone over many times so as many people as possible can find common cause and get behind the OP of this thread to get the change so many from both sides want

Here waiting for MNHQ response

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@Surplus2requirements thank you for your male perspective. Shut up women.

It was a polite suggestion

Well done OP.

Looked in vain for the announcement that MNHQ had commented on this thread.

I'm sure they'll be along in a while to say they're reading the threads and passing on the feedback...

I think MNHQ have hidden this thread and all the others on the same subject.

@Surplus2requirements oh stop trying to organise women and direct the conversation all the bloody time. It's incredibly boring. It reminds me of that Harry Enfield character, "Only me! You don't want to that!"

We'll talk about what we want to talk about, in the ways we want to talk about it. Might chime with your preferences, might not. Time will tell.

Disclaimer: millions of other opinions on this are available.

There's nothing wrong with the board exist.

It's about being notified of the content without being asked.

If someone added you to a sexting WhatsApp group and you hadn't been asked, saw loads of chat about fisting, tit wanks and anal... I doubt you'd think it so fine. And when you'd removed yourself, you were readded and again when you checked your WhatsApp, you had a message saying something like "I came so hard when he put his cock in my arse"

You'd be fine with that?

You think we should have unsolicited sex I our daily browsing?

You'd be fine if your work place started doing this, or if you went to watch a TV show at 5pm there was a vibrator advert in the as break?

I'm not trying to organise anyone. I just think another thread full of differing views will have far less impact on HQ than one that gets behind the OP. Even if for having different reasons for doing so.

It makes sense in my head but it's just one opinion

Shame it needs yet another thread.

A comment on this has been deleted (so they're obvs watching), but no comment from mnhq

Thank you @AutumnLeavesFallingIntoPlace - fully support you on this

Yes I bet there are plenty who don't want to voice support for the sex board less they are accused of being pervs, depraved or seedy.

There's a name change function. They can all come on calling themselves User2382762837698273469783264 and comment in a positive way.

However, everyone appears to want the same things, to go back to the old rules. Pervs and Prudes United will never be defeated.

That's the best chuckle I've had in a while 😆

@MeganTheeScallion yes, that's who he puts me in mind of. That irritating Harry Enfield character.

OK, I've no desire to undermine the intention of unity in this thread anymore than going over the same disagreements already is so ill dip out 🤐

Surely it would be a penis straw in a penis beaker?

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I am absolutely incredulous that these threads have been going on for more than a week with no substantive response. It shows such contempt for members of the community.

I hope not, it warrants a response at least, hopefully with changes. Not hiding ....

I see @LilyMumsnet is responding to threads in Site Stuff this evening, and I do appreciate there may be no update on moving Sex Board posts out of Active and that perhaps the question about advertisers dictating the change will take longer to answer. I do feel that the safeguarding question around the sex chat thread does warrant a quicker response though - please do let us know why there is nothing there to protect vulnerable and/or underage users from being exploited on that thread?

I found @CousinKrispy's excellent post on the last thread so compelling.