Why is Sex topic now in Active?

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It never used to be there before. It doesn't really seem appropriate with some of the titles.

Yeah, not buying it

And I'm not buying your MN vibrator either.

Not happy about the change either

Absolutely.

There's a post today from someone on the sex chat thread asking for "any available female" to get in touch as they were having a "slow day and needed distracting"

This just rather proves that it's mostly for wank fodder doesn't it? Any Available Female Urgh.

Come on MN, is this really what you want to be facilitating?

@RainbowZebraWarrior really?!

God how gross is this place sometimes? How can you want to be associated with that?

This is one of the problems withvthe diversification of the site.
It used to be mainly mothers and the tone of the site was completely different.

Now, it is anyone and everyone and buttons to press to share to facebook, and the daily mail dredging threads for stories. A sleazy sex thread in active convos is just another step. Justine et al have completely sold out.

God! They used to care about what advertising they did snd everything! Imagine that now!
Money is the name of the game now not integrity or anything like that. .

Eww i’m no prude but really don’t need a thread about squirting in active!

"There's a post today from someone on the sex chat thread asking for "any available female" to get in touch as they were having a "slow day and needed distracting"

This just rather proves that it's mostly for wank fodder doesn't it? Any Available Female Urgh."

Good grief.

Well, if it makes me "fragile" to prefer Sex threads stay off Active so be it.

I absolutely don’t want to see that and thought I had it hidden and am upset it keeps reappearing. Poor shout, MNHQ

Pretty sure it's against the law to post links to sponsored content (which many of those topics clearly are) without adding "AD" or "Advertisement" or "Sponsored Content" on the link. UK laws are particularly strict on that. Even YouTubers need to state "AD" on all video titles that contain paid content without, otherwise it can be considered deception. None of the MN sex toy links, Sky Kids links, sneezing without peeing links have any sort of indication that it's paid content. Some lawyers should look into that.

I noticed this too. Why the change.

We all defecate too. I wouldn't want to encounter lots of poo threads either while I'm having a tea break. And as for the other poster calling us "fragile", yes let's chip chip chip away at women's boundaries around sex shall we? Just loosen up ladies, sharing experiences of sex acts and fetishes with anonymous men (who are probably sat wanking in their threadbare boxers) is just harmless fun.

When the sex topic was added it was hidden for 2 reasons.

1. so it didn't attract trolls and creepy men.

1. so it wasn't advertised, then some MNers could ask questions on there they felt would be embarrassing or just didn't want the whole site reading.

it also had that you had to be registered for 90 days before posting on it (is that still true?) to try to deter wank fodder one time chancers.

I'd like to ask how was having it hidden excluded people? and was excluding about it?

How does not having it hidden make it more inclusive? I don't understand that at all. if anything it will put off genuine posters.

oh and I'm not fragile, I was one of the posters who asked for sex board(under an old account) and years ago did use to post on it.

How about you make it so that it's opt-in to show it on Active rather than everyone who was happy before having to opt-out to hide it?

The same logic could be applied to some other 'sensitive' topics such as SN perhaps.

However the amusing thing is ... all those seedy men thinking they're wanging on about rimming even to women ... it's far more likely they're just talking to men pretending to be women:

I’m not a prude by any means, and have read a number of the threads that have shown up, but it does change the tone of Active somewhat - and not in a good way Mumsnet.

As one of the supposedly pervy and seedy blokes who likes to post on the Sex Topic threads from time to time (as well as various other MN threads), I'm happy to add my name to the list of those calling for that topic to be removed from Active. The many, many respectful and good-natured posters (male and female) on the hugely popular sexchat thread, in particular, have come in for a great deal of ill-informed and unjustified abuse since Sex started showing in Active and would undoubtedly be very happy to be relieved of all that.

'Hugely popular sex chat thread'

Cause rah I bet it's hugely popular. Teeming with blokes who should probably either A remember they've got a wife or B get back to work

Plenty of v kinky mothers out there and also here, but most of us @LilyMumsnet would prefer not to force other people to see anything they don't want to.

MN isn't a small site. It's a behemoth and that means taking thoughtful decisions. I would have thought having Sex in Active is as likely to put advertisers off as to engage them.

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Exactly what I mean.

I'm unsure if I'm allowed to mention this or not but I'm the mother of the 16 yr old boy mentioned upthread, I just wanted to mention that it is not all perverts and trolls.

I didn't know where to turn when I found an unusual object in Ds room, which seemed dodgy. I thought here was a good place to ask as it is a parenting site.

I guess I am pretty naive, I had not posted in or read the sex section before. I should really have posted in somewhere like teenagers perhaps, or relationships.

Sorry to have offended anyone.

MN deleted the post and my account without discussing any of it with me. I have now after emailing and explaining, been allowed back.

Please see above post.

Please see above post

And you’re exactly what we mean. 🤮