Why is Sex topic now in Active?

[clarrylove]

It never used to be there before. It doesn't really seem appropriate with some of the titles.

Will you be unhiding other hidden topics @HopeMumsnet or just the ones that drive traffic on the Daily Mail?

I wanted to say a very big belated thank you for this - it made sense to me (written in MNspeak as it was ) and I think I have finally succeeded in hiding the whole ghastly 'topic'.

Yes please take it back off Active (or at least give instructions as to how App users can hide the topic). There is a time and a place for sex chat and the places I read MN (often on public transport, or sitting on the sofa next to my 8 year old) is not it.

I find it jarring, as if mumsnet are deliberately highlighting sensitive or provocative topics just to boost clicks.

I also imagine that people who enjoy that sort of discussion won't welcome being flooded by people from the Active board passing comment.

I'm by no means closed minded, but some subjects should be searched out by those who are interested rather than splashed all over the front page' for financial gain.

But I have no womb. Therefore the pleasures of the flesh are denied to me, according to The Great Promotion of the Shrek's Ear.

I find it jarring, as if mumsnet are deliberately highlighting sensitive or provocative topics just to boost clicks.

They are. No ‘as if’ about it. Which is rather disappointing

Can you really not think of a single reason people might not want it shoved in their faces, when previously it hasn't been? Not one single reason?

True. And a sex board per se isn’t a massive problem, in context with all of the other boards in here.

I do however find the thread were people can post for “friends” to chat with off board pretty fucking grim…. Esp as most seem to be married men who are in apparent sexless relationships. Mumsnet is a parenting forum… ok it’s diversified over the 16+ years I’ve been here and that’s great… but dedicating a place to casual hookups is just wrong… and I say this as someone who has used such sites in the past.

Surely it goes hand in hand with the vibrator adverts. Bleh. 😒

Hi

Are you having a problem with reading all the comments on a thread? Are they not showing up for you?
People have asked questions you've failed to address.

I call BS in "not wanting to exclude parts of the site"... otherwise ALL topics would be in active...and they aren't, are they @LilyMumsnet @HopeMumsnet @MNHQ

Yes MNHQ’s usual breezy style isn’t quite appropriate here, is it.

This made me laugh waaaaay more than it should have. 'Us women, sorry vulva owners.........'

Agree about the SEX topic. I don't want to see it either. It very likely IS full of pervy men getting their rocks off reading the posts. BLEUGH!!! 😖

“Food chain”- sharp reminder of where the site users are in this hierarchy.

Food chain

The topic of sex doesn't bother me in the slightest.

What bothers me is that you've only got to have the most cursory of looks at some of the posts and it's really clear that this is a whole group of blokes, probably married (and if not, looking to hook up with a 'bored mum') wishing to discuss their kinks in detail

Don't even get me started on the thread where they all PM each other for sex chat

Dunno why that needs to be hosted on a parenting site? Or one that purports to be

Yes, this is my issue with it. It attracts a different vibe to the rest of the site and seems very much "not in the spirit of MN", to use one of their own phrases.

@BlusteryLake absolutely! Puts me in mind of when Gumtree hosted 'Casual Encounters' years ago

They binned that some years ago because they didn't want to be responsible for anything going wrong - you're treading a fine line when you host 'meet for sex' stuff

And here we have Mumsnet doing very similar. I wouldn't want by business associated with it

You know, it's starting to remind me of the cognitive dissonance of the tabloid press in the 1980s. On one page there'd be story about a sex pest they were labelling 'a vile pervert" and on the opposite page there would be a scantily clad woman with the paper basically going "Phwoar, look at the jugs on that!". Here on MN there are women seeking advice on infidelity, sexual abuse and the like, and yet there is a board facilitating hook ups with random men off the internet.

Oh, loves @LilyMumsnet @HopeMumsnet , how daft do you think we are, really? I know we're at the rock bottom of the glorious food chain but we do have actual brains, so, please, just be honest with us about it!

The thread in active atm about squirting is gross, it’s 50% men talking about why they like women doing it

The reasons it was excluded from active and had a membership time requirement before allowed to post in it were because of the type of poster the topic attracted.

@ShirleyPhallus that sounds nice doesn't it?

HQ seem happy with this though. Blokes fapping themselves stupid over squirting, fisting and BDSM

I’d happily get shot of the whole topic.

Any genuine queries can surely go in relationships.

Yep I noticed this! So many men seem to be active on there. Not surprising.