Why is Sex topic now in Active?

[clarrylove]

It never used to be there before. It doesn't really seem appropriate with some of the titles.

@Getir what on earth did you say? In not so many words maybe ...

I think the point is that we do like MN. As it was. I even pay for MN. Because I like it.

Why do you think Sex should be in Active?

Talk about missing the point…

Pmsl at Velvetiser! I bought my daughter one for Christmas, she loves it.

I don't think she'd be cool with me buying her a Shrek's ear or one of them other "toys" (ugh) though 😂.

Just adding my voice to the chorus- it's really grim Mumsnet, please undo! Let all the sordid little men get their rocks off in their own little zone.

Adding my vote to remove Sex topic from Active. I'm child-free and very liberal when it comes to sex. I think it's great to have space to talk about it. However the threads coming up in the Sex topic are really inappropriate to see in Active when you're scrolling.

It's like being on a really seedy site with words like 'anal sex' and BDSM showing up regularly. With the recent changes these are now unethically juxtaposed next to other threads about children and childcare, which I feel shocked and deeply uncomfortable about.

As a MN user, I regularly scroll through active when I'm going about my day, on the train, in my breaks at work. Having the words 'children/kids/nappies' and 'porn/anal/dick/fisting' come up on the screen at the same time is disgusting and completely inappropriate.

Although the site covers a wide variety of topics, it is still primarily a parenting website and there is care and sensitivity needed in safeguarding that.

MNHQ please take on board what you are hearing here, from so many people, and reconsider your decision.

Saying that it changes the tone of MN might sound fairly inconsequential to the powers that be, however it's a really delicate and difficult process to curate the perfect tone where large amounts of people (read women because don't forget, that's your main user base here) want to be, read, contribute, etc. We create our own content that we want to share. Look at the things we create and you get the picture of what we want the tone to be

Forget how you became popular and who got you here at your peril. If the women leave, the pervy men you're bowing to right now will too. Then what will you have? You are user led. Your users create what we want to engage with. Run the metrics on your content. Even your own logic about what's in the spirit of the site won't take you far wrong.

I guess what I'm saying is that I too, don't want to see all caps threads about anal when scrolling through threads on sewing, current affairs and MIL woes.

Even TV has a watershed.

Agree with other posters. Not appropriate and sets the wrong tone for the site.

Came to site stuff just to make this point so guessing you saw the same post. Don't expect to see that on my 6am scroll through active on Mumsnet!

This

Another request to remove it please. Years ago that section used to be good for advice. Now it’s the seedy part of the site and I don’t want to see it everytime I log on

There was a time when, if a thread about pickups or sex toys or whatever turned up in Chat or AIBU, it would have been pretty much obligatory to fill it with soup recipes and discussions of animal & bird reproduction methods (drakes were always a favourite).

@EmpressaurusOfCats let's do it! 🙌

yes I have no desire to.see someone asking for advice about anal in big bold capitals first thing in the morning. Or anytime come to that.
Not appropriate .

I just tried to hide the topic from my laptop but can only see an option to follow it - can anyone tell me how to do it?

I'm pretty sure I remember mumsnet was grovelling about community and asking for money at the start of the pandemic when they were worried that they would go under.

I've been on here for 17years and at the moment I feel like they can fuck right off

Agreeing with everyone else! Endless bloody sex topics is all u see this morning in active

And if I want a " toy " for the bedroom (I dont ) I will look for one myself so.please stop advertising them.

At the moment, when you click on the topic, the first thing you see is a pinned promotion asking what you think of kids TV, then immediately below, the anal/fleshlight/too big crap. That juxtaposition just doesn't sit right with me.

Sex is all over active threads at the moment, no surprise that the sex topic seems to be so active overnight, it's just wanking men. Thanks very much

Exactly this and I’m far from a prude. I don’t want to go from reading a thread about how many bottles a 10 week old should have to HELP WITH ANAL. It’s just grim.

Why does MN suddenly decide the don't want to hide some parts of the site if not for cashing in on some sex toy they now make (is this even for real?!)

My active convos feed is now full of stuff I don't want my young kids to read over my shoulder which had really changed my experience of using Mumsnet.

Might be all over the active threads because I just posted a lovely leek & potato soup recipe all over the place in an attempt to make things more wholesome.
As someone suggested, If we all do this it might put the pervy men off. 🍲🤷‍♀️

It’s a no from me too. This morning active threads includes rather too many sex topics among the adverts for bedroom toys. If I wanted to be reading a sex site, I would go looking for a sex site. I don’t want it all over here.

Agree this is grim. As a fairly new user, I wouldn't have signed up at all if the active page looked like that.

I’ve woken up to lots of threads in Active, ANAL in caps particularly caught my eye.

Im not uncomfortable with sex at all, what I am uncomfortable with is someone’s sex life rammed in my face, alongside lots of genuine problems, often involving DV/rape/Sexual assault. The two things cannot run alongside each other.

I think all anyone wants is it out of active convos. It’s not necessarily nice to wake up to

I don't want to see it either! Remind me how to hide a topic?