Why is Sex topic now in Active?

[clarrylove]

It never used to be there before. It doesn't really seem appropriate with some of the titles.

Exactly this

the sex topic should be something you opt in for, not the default setting

Exactly. It needs to be an opt in. Definitely not an opt-out-except-you-can't-opt-out-for-some-reason-that-no-one-can-adequately-explain.

MN's response so far is insulting.

I sort of think it might be a good thing!

The whole flesh light thing is fucking grim but now it's in Active people are asking how you clean one & can it go in the dishwasher!

I think you'd have to be pretty hardcore to be getting off on that thread now! 🤣

Why is a flesh light grim though? Plenty of women have sex toys.

A woman bought it and asked for tips on using it with her husband.

How grim and shameful....apparently

Of course she did.

Yes, I wish they'd be honest.

This is so obviously a commercial decision. Sex up the site and attract shrek's ear sponsorship and ad revenue.

We're not stupid.

Nobody wants this. The most vocal advocate for the topic remaining in active doesn't care either way.

The only people who actively want sex threads in active are MNHQ.

I daresay they'd be pushing the SEN boards onto active if disabled people were as profitable as sex people

I haven't seen anyone object to the reinstatement of 90 days waiting period either. MNHQ have not explained why they cut this to 7 days without consultation.

I'd like to see the hookup thread gone as well. I do think that is attracting some pervy men that MN would be better off without. I know the sex people will disagree but you have the whole rest of the internet for that. Set up a discord or something.

Did she buy it in Tesco? In the Flesh light aisle? And got dishwasher tablets at the same time?

I'm sorry but if you think it's a man fishing for dirty replies so they can all get their rocks off, have you read the thread?

I couldn't get a semi to any of that if I tried...maybe its my age 😖

I've never used one but there appears to be some good, respectful and non judgemental advice

I commented on another thread about this in conjunction with the Promoted by Mumsnet stuff - not just the vibrator ad but also the horrible 'Reigniting Intimacy' piece which advocates waking up mothers of newborn babies after a bad night's sleep for sex 🙃It's written in partnership with Ann Summers; is it all connected? Have Ann Summers paid a big wodge of advertising cash in exchange for having all the sex stuff pop up everywhere? If so, can I just say that Ann Summers is a tacky, nasty fire hazard of a shop that exists for nightmare hen dos and is a really poor fit for Mumsnet? It's so nice having a largely female-dominated corner of the internet; it's an unpleasant surprise having this section full of blokes all over Active.

@LangClegsInSpace now that idea to set up a discord is a GREAT idea!

This is the spirit of Mumsnet!

I'm sorry but you think that women talking about getting men off never turns men on? Was that thread not supposed to be tell me how to get my husband off by telling me tales of how you got your husband off vecause that's what it looked like to me.

It's the modern collective equivalent of get a fucking room.

Can I add my voice to those that want the topic removed from the active posts.

Maybe you're right but still there's nothing in there that's remotely pornographic or disrespectful.

Why should the woman have her thread pulled apart, condemned as grim and openly laughed at in the most disrespectful way across MN?

Why should the woman have her thread pulled apart, condemned as grim and openly laughed at in the most disrespectful way across MN?

All great reasons to keep it out of Active.

Well if all the snowflakes/WI members(still don’t get that one) /pearl clutchers are supposedly over here on this thread, then the people over in the Sex Topic must be the resilient robust cool ones. So they wouldn’t give a toss their threads were being discussed as a result of the threads being all over Active.

I fully support it being taken off active, given greater restricted access and zero tolerance modding.

Honestly I think fleshlights are grim & I don't like porn either but my post wasn't meant to shame anyone!
But the fact that these threads are now coming up in Active, it was inevitable that people would start talking about head torches & putting it in the dishwasher with a splash of dettol because that's what a lot of Mumsnet talks about!

I did find that quite funny!

What this has shown though is that the people on the sex topic don't want tips on disinfecting their sex toys, and other people don't want to read tips about wanking off their husbands while they're eating their tea!

So just take the sex topic out of Active again! 🤷‍♀️

I’m genuinely puzzled by the hatred for flesh lights, I’ve seen other people say it too so this isn’t aimed at you. Women have sex toys, bullets, rabbits, velvetisers etc, to me a flesh light is simply a male version of these isn’t it?

I have a Velvetiser. I use it to make hot chocolate. 😮

Uh oh have I called it by the wrong name? 😳

I do hope that's not a cleaning tip 😬