Why is Sex topic now in Active?

[clarrylove]

It never used to be there before. It doesn't really seem appropriate with some of the titles.

So when users view the 'active' threads, are they not clocking/noticing the topic the particular thread is on?

I'm not understanding why some may click upon something on a topic they don't wish to look at by chance. When I look at the active threads on the app, the topic appears. ( I'm very possibly missing something obvious and not being helpful as only use the app).

That aside, it would seem sensible to hide the topics if it's causing issues on both sides of the debate.

Can we have a cuppa now while waiting on MN?

'I'm curious about why @Janiie and other WANT Sex in Active.'

Sex is a normal part of a healthy relationship. It isn't seedy or something grubby to be hidden away. If posters have problems they should be allowed to discuss it.

It'd be like saying relationships should be hidden from active in case someone is in an abusive relationship and may be triggered. These issues are all part of life! We are grown ups and should be able to navigate topics. That said if it's hidden fine, I'm easy either way really.

Again, I repeat weird stuff and unwanted dms should be reported but all this smelling salt 'I can't bear to see sex in active' attitude seems a bit ott.

yes! I’ve definitely noticed this. More men in one sex post than I’ve even seen on MN

this sentence should perhaps read:-
yes! I’ve definitely noticed this. More men who are willing/prepared to openly admit it on mn in one sex post than I’ve even seen on MN

I'm not correcting or policing you, btw @NotAnotherBathBomb, just adding my take on your thought

My opinion is the sex topic is very tame

couldn't give flying monkeys that you think it's tame. I was one of the original people who wanted the sex topic, but I also wanted it hidden and with the time delay for posting. Because it would deter trolls and creepy men, and could be somewhere a MNer could post without ot being viewed by the whole site, so sensitive issues or just something someone might feel embarrassed about posting. There weren't many men then so it would be women talking to women mainly. Soz I know that sounds really lame and tame to you 😂 but 🤷‍♀️
I haven't been on in years so no idea how it's evolved.

what most on this thread are asking for is it to go back to been hidden and a long period of registration before posting. So going by your comment you haven't read the thread.

That said if it's hidden fine, I'm easy either way really.

Fine then there's no actual issue.

Well no but as I said it is a chat forum and we are allowed to share opinions.

How do some of you cope with sex toys in Tescos? Do you avoid that aisle completely?

It's the thread title itself though that has keywords in it.
I have my browser open and it's in the daytime well before watershed time. Kids are around. Maybe on my lunch break at work.

Sure I can hide the topic - but equally Mn can take it off active convos as it was.
I don't see why the status quo cannot be re-instated.

Sex is a normal part of a healthy relationship. It isn't seedy or something grubby to be hidden away

yep it is, but it's also usually private, we don't walk down the street with a sign post on our heads saying what the "best way to squirt" or Rimming is fucking assume" for all to see.

you want talk about it opp in and talk all you like 👍

How do some of you cope with sex toys in Tescos? Do you avoid that aisle completely?

It must be so exhausting to put this amounts of effort into being cool and fabulous. The rest of us just have sex (or don't) because it's fun and don't need everyone else to be on the same page except the person we're doing it with.

Do I think there should be sex toys in Supermarkets? No, I don't. But I actually think masturbation is much easier to explain to a child than spanking, rimming and becoming a sex worker. All topics on Sex right now. Masturbation by its nature is consenting. All sexual relationships with someone else require consent and sex work is an incredibly complex and divisive thing, which frankly I'm not wanting to explain to DD while I scroll.

Happy for people to chat about it. Not happy for it to pop up.

'yep it is, but it's also usually private, we don't walk down the street with a sign post on our heads saying what the "best way to squirt'

We don't walk down the street with a sign saying 'my dh has told me he is gay' or 'my dh hit me last night' but these things will be in active from various boards, triggering for some no doubt. Mn isn't all discussing the laundry and the school run you know.

With the Tesco analogy though you can avoid the aisle if you want to it’s not like either is a display as soon as you walk into the store.

the way the sex topic worked before it was like an aisle is Tescos easy to find but T also easy to avoid. Just how it should be IMO. It’s not like it was hard to find.

Being in Active is as I said just like a display at the front or right by the tills. And I agree with MrsTerryPratchett I so scroll on my phone or iPad with my children and sometimes titles domcat h their eye

that was quick! you watching closely then and I didn't call them troll.

you can troll without being a troll...

Also any news on where Justine is?

Mumsnet - are you going to actually comment on what the vast majority of users on this thread have to say, instead of just watching?
Maybe answer some questions or address some concerns?

Or is that somehow related to the voyeurism angle?

Janiie you're trying really hard now

Tesco?

Oops, sorry, Tescos

Hi all

We are listening to feedback and taking it all on board. We don't have any updates yet, but we are aware of your thoughts on this and will continue to discuss it our end.

Are you reading all the comments or just at random?

Any answers to anyone's questions?

Busy in Ugandan discussions with Shrek's ear.

Janiie: "Maybe mnhq will remove it from active though as some of you do seem upset by it".

Well, yes, Janiie, that's exactly what this thread is about. You've finally got it! well done. Took long ebloodynough.

I'm not "triggered" by sex chat, I just want to hide it and keep it hidden like I do numerous other topics that don't interest me on the site. Why does Sex have to be different and force it's way out of hiding? It's very odd.

A comment like this misses the fact that MN is already a magnet for perverts and trolls. Just by being a majority female site where women talk openly, it inevitably attracts men who are here for the wrong reasons.

I can't think why MN would want to make it more appealing for these blokes.

How can users hide topics on the app? Apologies if you’ve come back and said but I haven’t seen it - any thoughts?

@BaroldFromEastenders - hit the slider at the RHS (of the chat, not a specific contribution) and choose 'hide'.

....although that only seems to be available at thread level.