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MNHQ - please can you clarify your policy on fraud?

275 replies

justanothernameagain · 07/08/2017 15:01

THREAD ON GENERAL FRAUD - please do not delete.

If someone is accused of committing fraud via MN, by several MNers.
If said MNers have a load of evidence they would like to share with you.

Do you see it as your role to investigate and forward to the police?

Or do you just want to get the site "back to normal" and take a hands off approach?

@katemumsnet please can you clarify?

OP posts:
ConstanceCraving · 08/08/2017 09:29

Yes you can retrieve deleted WA messages apparently. That might be worth a try Zoflo?

GaryNumanIsOlderThanGaryOldman · 08/08/2017 09:34

Jesus Zoflo I am so sorry.
I have had something similar on a different site. A poster with drink problems felt suicidal. I stayed up (was bf) with another poster bolstering them. In further convos was then asked how big my boobs were Angry Asshole saw us as wank fodder. A guy on online scrabble did same bloody thing, trying to solicit a photo. You live and learn.
This is why I am a cynical fuck.

Sairelou · 08/08/2017 09:37

Flowers Zoflora

What an utter shit Angry

Mummylin · 08/08/2017 09:38

Warned off MN Zoflorabore ? That is shocking

Saucery · 08/08/2017 09:41

Oh Zoflora, they simply have to help you with this. Shocking.

SilverFrost · 08/08/2017 09:42

Appalling behaviour Shock. What a shit...I presume he has been banned?

Sairelou · 08/08/2017 09:44

Apparently not SilverFrost, members could still pm him yesterday Hmm

Zoflorabore · 08/08/2017 09:45

I very much doubt he will be banned.

SilverFrost · 08/08/2017 09:46
Shock
MadamePomfrey · 08/08/2017 09:46

I do think given how big the site is now and the fact with time zones and lifestyles ect it is in use 24/7 the idea of a 24/7 team is needed. I think that if the discussion that has happened on this thread with HQ could have happened on Saturday perhaps things could of been headed off quicker. That's just my 2 cents. I do think a previous poster I think it was blingygolightly raised excellent points/ideas

OutToGetYou · 08/08/2017 09:48

Seriously, why is MN responsible for this? Don't give your phone number to random strangers, block them if they become weird, hang up the phone, report to the police.

It's not MN responsibility to babysit you all the time, I assume you're an adult?

GaryNumanIsOlderThanGaryOldman · 08/08/2017 09:50

Ooh get you!

SilverFrost · 08/08/2017 09:50

no but surely once a certain behaviour has been reported it is their duty to look in to it and take action (suspend, or ban, or whatever)

GaryNumanIsOlderThanGaryOldman · 08/08/2017 09:50

^ I amuse myself Wink

CoteDAzur · 08/08/2017 09:51

"I do hope that there is some dialogue behind the scenes between them and HQ. I don't have to hear about it though as it's none of my business."

If that's how you feel, don't click on these threads.

The rest of us do feel that we need to know what steps are taken and will be in the future.

Zoflorabore · 08/08/2017 09:51

If that is aimed at me- yes of course I'm a bloody adult, I'm also a mum, I'm also experiencing loss through brain cancer so I felt i was in some way helping.

That good enough for you?

SilverFrost · 08/08/2017 09:53

most people understand Zoflorabore Flowers.....some just like to be argumentative and wind people up.

PassiveAggressiveFloofiness · 08/08/2017 09:55

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GaryNumanIsOlderThanGaryOldman · 08/08/2017 09:55

Without evidence on the board/via pm MNHQ cannot ban on hearsay. (Not casting aspersions promise. Buy you could say Gary was a goady fucker off the board and it would not relate to here I'm really not whereas PMs are traceable as is elementary sockpuppetry).

GaryNumanIsOlderThanGaryOldman · 08/08/2017 10:03

That said, I would check a certain poster's IP address and potentially ban them for sockpuppetry anyway....

OutToGetYou · 08/08/2017 10:10

I'm not being "argumentative", but if dismissing an alternative view makes you feel good, you go for it. However, I am allowed to have and express a different view.

I presume you all know real people, in real life? If you told them this story they'd say "er, stop texting him if he's doing that", so even if you are vulnerable, thought you were helping etc, I'm sure you had the opportunity to sense check.

You all sound like you only started using the Internet a week ago. Stop blaming MNHQ and take responsibility for yourselves.

ChristopherWren · 08/08/2017 10:21

I agree that people need to take personal responsibility. It worries me that there is possibly a grieving family who may be even more devastated by what's gone on here. It feels like they are being dismissed or forgotten.

It's really important to remember that unless you know them in real life you do not know anyone on here. You only know what they choose to present themselves as and that can be anything they like.

I'm sorry for anyone who has been upset but MN repeatedly say do not give more than you can afford to, emotionally or otherwise (or words to that effect). As someone said on another thread (I don't remember who). 'Trust Nae Fucker'. That's what I'm going to do on here in future.

PassiveAggressiveFloofiness · 08/08/2017 10:21

I have no idea why my post was deleted Confused

ChristopherWren · 08/08/2017 10:21

Me neither Passive.

Darkblueskies · 08/08/2017 10:22

Ooh mine was deleted too.