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To Ask That MNHQ Treat ALL Posts/Posters/Campaigns Seeking To Derail & Hunt Out Any Form Of Bigotry, As They Do Troll Hunters

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RockinHippy · 20/10/2016 11:43

The current trend has been a campaign to point out & completely derail threads with shouts of disabilsm, too often IMHO, unfounded.

Though I do feel a lot of empathy for the posters involved & know too well that disablism can exist. Plus I don't doubt they have difficult lives dealing with all that comes with DCs with SN, however I do feel what is happening currently on MN is way over the top, hypersensitive & does no one any favours, least of all the disabled & is IMHO comparable to "troll hunting" & feel it would improve many posters enjoyment of MN if MNHQ could treat this & any similarly bigot hunting posts/campaigns in the same way as they do Troll Hunters.

I should add, I am a disabled DM, of a disabled DC & as such I do not appreciate the current campaign as speaking for us all - not in my name thank you very much, its way OTT & quite frankly damaging & it has become very boring.

I have no intention if getting into any debates, I have seen enough posts to form the opinion that the inevitable stress & real life disabilist problems that can of course go hand in hand with raising DCs with SN can result in a warped perspective of others intentions. I also find it sad, that posters who should have far more empathy for people starting threads in difficult & stressful situations, might not actually word themselves very well & really don't need posters jumping down their throats for perceived bigotry that the rest of us do not see. Ive just left a thread with a prime example of that, where reference to a school looking out for "bad kids" was instantly taken to mean SN, rather than just troubled kids in all quises, very often without any SN at all, as has been our own experience with a similarly biased primary school. That is not disabilism, it is is simply a bad choice of words referring to disruptive & aggressive behaviour for a host of reasons.

I wont reply to any attacks on this post. I just think in the interest of keeping MN the welcoming, place where parents etc can ask for help & opinions related to a specific issue, that it is meant to be. That it might be helpful that all such campaigns & posts be treat in the same way as troll hunting & any grievances as regards any posting/threads be reported, rather than attacked in the frenzied & unhelpful way that seems to be happening too often of late.

Perhaps those of us who feel this way can let MNHQ know here...

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BishopBrennansArse · 20/10/2016 19:13

That's like saying all people of a certain religion think the same...

PolterGoose · 20/10/2016 19:15

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Pagwatch · 20/10/2016 19:15

Navy

I think I just posted a couple of the examples you asked for of people living with disability being disablist.

NavyandWhite · 20/10/2016 19:16

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PigletWasPoohsFriend · 20/10/2016 19:17

Surely the same also goes that just because some think something is disablist it doesn't mean it is?

PolterGoose · 20/10/2016 19:18

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Pagwatch · 20/10/2016 19:25

No need to apologise Navy.
But it is a decent example of why it's problematic to make generalisations about people living with disability. We are not one group and can no more be assumed to be alike than surrendered wives and radfems can be just grouped as women

WitchOfEorzea · 20/10/2016 19:26

And a few disabled people, quite a few in fact over the last few days have said they don't find certain words and phrases offensive and explained why.

Black friends of mine have said they don't have a problem with the word nigger.

Does that mean that I shouldn't have a problem with that word? Because you can be damn sure if someone uses it towards me I will find it racist!

No protected group has a hive mind on what is/isn't disabled.

No one has the right to tell any minority what they can or can't be offended by.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 20/10/2016 19:29

No one has the right to tell any minority what they can or can't be offended by.

There in lies the problem imo.

Pagwatch · 20/10/2016 19:38

Does it Piglet?

Does the fact that people feel offended and say so really create the entire problem
Did a bunch of predominantly long standing mumsnetters - not trolls or bored teenagers - suddenly decide that they had nothing to do with their day except be offended. Did they start threads and get upset and de register because it was raining and there was nothing on tv?

Yes, absoloutely I'm sure there have been over reactions, and I have no doubt that there are hurt feelings and thin skins and far, far too much sniping and biting.

But I really do think that if posters contributing to this thread can't see that underlying it all is a group of mothers fighting against funding cuts and crass dismissal and hopelessness and an overwhelming love for their child combined with the knowledge that that child's future is precarious to say the least, then they should go away and have a think about whether they are fighting the right fight.
A group being overwhelmingly marginalised in society is on here and most of them are desperately looking for signs of support. From where I'm sitting there are not many.

BishopBrennansArse · 20/10/2016 19:39

Really????

PolterGoose · 20/10/2016 19:42

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insan1tyscartching · 20/10/2016 19:43

Hear hear Pagwatch Flowers

DixieNormas · 20/10/2016 19:45

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Javabeansaintgeorge · 20/10/2016 19:46

Pag

Flowers

would it be worth highlighting Pags post to HQ, the realisation they are actually loosing loyal members (who bring in money) might kick them in to some kind of action?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 20/10/2016 19:48

Yes really.

When I said I didn't agree with something.

I was sniped at, name called for not agreeing.

How is that actually helpful to anyone?

I am disabled. I have a severely disabled DC whom I fight for every day.

It doesn't mean I have to agree with everything everyone says. Nor should I be silenced for thinking differently over something.

BishopBrennansArse · 20/10/2016 19:50

Yet you think that members of any majority have the right to tell you how to think? That someone with zero links to disability has the right to tell YOU what to think?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 20/10/2016 19:54

Yet you think that members of any majority have the right to tell you how to think? That someone with zero links to disability has the right to tell YOU what to think?

But you are telling me a member of that minority how I should think about something and I am belittled for not doing so, name called and PA attacks.

Can you not see that is also wrong!

That is what I am trying to say.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 20/10/2016 19:56

Basically the minority doesn't have the right to tell others in the minority how to think.

I'm tired from chemo so probably not making much sense.

SouthWestmom · 20/10/2016 20:05

Oh it's all a massive storm in a tea cup. There are thousands of MN users and lurkers and one small group posting regularly to claim it's not an SEN friendly place and quoting the Equality Act and slating MNHQ staff.

If it was a massive problem that group would be bigger. Overall I think MN attracts such a range of people you get RL views here , and they aren't always as aware as they could be. But I meet people in RL who don't have any insight into disability and they are just nice, normal people. That's all I see here bar the goady stuff but that happens with any 'juicy' subject - asylum, benefits etc.

Do I now have to declare my credentials to have an opinion?

BishopBrennansArse · 20/10/2016 20:05

No I'm not. I'm telling the majority that some in the minority including myself are offended by something (and I'm being agreed with, it's not just me).

I'm not telling anyone else how they should think. I'm telling them how I feel.

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