Hey MNHQ. Would it be possible to have a discussion about how SN issues/threads are handled on the main boards. ( pt 2)

[Samcro]

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morning

all very quiet. i think we might be free of the hate for a while.
everyone has a new target. (remain or leave...)

Yep, the majority of posts reported by me this weekend (i feel like a telltale and must be getting on hqs nerves!) have been racist rather than disabilist

Needaclever's thread about words not to say is being deleted?

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Hi fuck

MNHQ emailed me yesterday because i PMed everyone in a thread telling them The OP's posting history was weird and not to give too much information about their DC, I didn't say anything bad, i just outline my suspicions over the last few months.

I didn't break any talk guidelines, I've reported the person previous a few times and MNHQ doesn't exactly have a good track record of protecting the vulnerable posters with SN or poster whose children have Additional needs, so i took the law into my own hands.

Big thank you mn hq for deleting that thread,
I didnt report it, but seeing people discussing offensive words, well was offensive. As the words are there if that makes sense

ficbia sorry you feel that way.
it can take days to get stuff deleted at the moment,

jason is that the man and nappies?

Yep

You noticed it too then?

Jason, PM can be twisted or misrepresented by people, in some ways its better to try and warn on the thread itself even if you do run the risk of the post being deleted

Oh good shinny new thread with ramps! Was just looking for that thread beyond some of the words were so awful I struggle see how 99.99% people would even think was grey line!

think people need to be reminded that threads are read by all and if you not happy saying in front of group of children or adults with Disabities because make you or them feel akward then don't post it. Under Humour or otherwise!

Can someone please pm me what that thread title/op was if possible?

Evening folks. We're so sorry we can't be on this thread as much as we'd like at the moment. We are still up to our armpits in Brexit here, but just wanted to pop by to let you know we've not forgotten you and we are still reading.

FICBIA - we're really sorry to hear you feel this way. We know it can feel like you're not being heard sometimes when things are very busy here. We have received your report about the 'beyond the pale' issue. We're sorry we haven't replied yet - we were hoping to have a discussion about it today but again it's been a very busy day elsewhere on the site and we do want to sit down and have a proper chat about it all rather than just dash off a response to you without thinking hard enough about it. We'll be in touch soon, we promise.

Thanks again to you all for your patience.

I like the new deletion message on that thread :)

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2671858-To-start-a-list-outlining-what-words-are-inappropriate?

Gosh yes that's very good!

As a Poster on the SN kids board and mum of two kids with SEN I sometimes feel uncomfortable posting.
I really don't know where the line is anymore. It almost feels wrong to try a describe my child's level of needs without getting it wrong.
So for example, my youngest goes to a state SEN school. The schools in county are categorised in level of need. So moderate -MLD. My son is not moderate. His needs are severe. Reports state he has severe needs. But when using the words severe on MN I offended a few people.
So where is the line? Personally I don't want to 'rainbow and unicorn' things up. It is what is. Ds is not moderate. He's not mild. But I can't say where he is as it's degrading for him. He has a severe language disorder. He can not talk. Do other parents never need to quantify levels of need? To me it makes me feel like I should be ashamed and need to sex his needs up. So to me, the school, the doctor he's not verbal but I feel like I need to say "expressively challenged". That makes me feel like even though I have a child in a SEN school I'm not a SEN parent. The more obvious things I get. I'm insulted weekly by misinformed idiots IRL. I am fairly certain my sons need are about as challenging as they get.
Honestly a genuine question.

'Severe' isn't a problem as far as I can see. SLD/PMLD they're terminology.
The r word is a massive problem, so is the s word. Derogatory is a problem.
Factually describing your child's needs is ok.

I don't think its as simple as a line of distinction or categories of need. But it would be nice sometimes to be able to group in this way.

I'm quite sure that I've managed to offend people and I've been challenged more than once on my interpretation of needs. There are many grey areas and we all have our own comfort levels in expression.

The last part of your message are you saying that you feel uncomfortable posting on an equal footing with other parents of SEN children?